On Belly Shape, Gaining Advice, and Lessons Learned
I got an ask today that I thought was worth sharing for anyone else on a similar path:
“Not looking for anything other than inspiration and advice. 6'2 and 290–295 lbs. Think our belly shape is the same but would love to know your thoughts? Also be keen to hear about your gain advice and lessons learned along the way?”
But I thought this would be a good opportunity to share some thoughts from my perspective as a mostly self-feeding, self-gaining man — someone who genuinely wants to get fatter for himself, not for anybody else.
If what I do also pleases others, that’s absolutely fine. I enjoy the attention, and I do appreciate the encouragement I receive through this. But at the core of it, this is still something I’m doing because I want this body for myself.
Honestly, yes — from what I can tell, I think our belly shape is or was actually quite similar. You really remind me a bit of where I was at a leaner stage, so I can definitely picture how your body might respond if you keep going.
And that brings me to the biggest thing I’ve learned:
Don’t just focus on getting heavier, focus on how you’re getting heavier.
A lot of people think gaining is just about stuffing yourself as hard as possible, but in my experience that usually just creates unnecessary stress, bloating, inflammation, and a kind of weight gain that doesn’t always build the body you actually want.
What worked best for me over time was:
calorie density over sheer volume
A body gets truly soft, round, and heavy by being fed steadily and persistently, not just by going wild for a few days.
Time matters more than people think.
Some of the best changes don’t happen because the scale suddenly jumps. They happen because your body slowly starts to shift.
less temporary gain and more settled gain
That kind of change takes time.
Another big lesson: stop fighting your appetite.
Once you stop resisting your appetite and let your body enjoy hunger being answered and fullness being maintained, gaining tends to become much easier. Not because it’s effortless, but because you’re finally working with your body instead of against it.
And at 6'2 and nearly 300 lbs, you’re honestly at a really interesting point already. That’s a size where the body can still change a lot visually if you keep feeding into it consistently.
So if this is something you genuinely want, there is definitely still a lot of room for you to grow into it.
And for anyone else reading this:
Often the body you want isn’t built by rushing.
Sometimes it’s built by steady overfeeding, time, softness, and surrendering to the process.
