boys dont know this

instead of brain there is shai hulud. and casca 24

[biscuittactician]

milly trigun

[shegayonmygirl]

people will ask me if I'm doing good and the real answer is I haven't felt good or okay or fine a single day of my life since like 9 years old. but it's no big deal though so yeah I'm good.

[beemovieerotica]

[cairviecorvi]

[mothric]

thinking about the time a former housemate said to me "hey I put these box fans in the living room because it's hot" while gesturing to the fans that I was actively sitting in front of because it was hot. and I said "okay thanks." and she kept standing there like she was waiting for something else so I said "am I blocking the airflow? do you need me to move?" and she said no I'm just letting you know they're here, in the living room, for circulation. and I said well yes, I did put that together. I am enjoying them. thank you. and she looked confused. so I asked "am I meant to do something with this information or are you just informing me?" and she said no I'm letting you know they're here because It's Hot In Here. she seemed a bit aggravated, and her emphasis seemed deliberate.

it took me asking three more times before she finally told me she wanted me to leave the fans where they are instead of moving them to my room or something. and I said oh! I had no intention of doing so but thank you for letting me know what the expectation is.

about a month later she brought up that conversation as the moment it actually clicked for her that I Am Autistic And Will Not Magically Intuit The Unspoken Request You Didn't Ask Me.

[mothric]

I have observed enough allistic communication to know that generally, if somebody points something out to you that you can already see or are already clearly interacting with, they are making an indirect request. but as I don't know what the request is, the only way forward is for me to guess (and likely get it wrong), or prompt the allistic to tell me clearly what they need.

however, allistics don't realize they do this, so asking them to say the unspoken surprises and confuses them. this is not their fault. allistics can be quite emotionally fragile and perceive directness as confrontation, so they habitually rely on indirect speech and coded language to preserve others' feelings. this is why they may find it difficult to be direct, even when asked. I have found that with enough gentle encouragement and reassurance that they are actually helping you, you too can achieve successful communication with your allistic friend or loved one. :)

[eldritchgirlthing]

the rapture happened but they only took pjackk

[tartmagica]

[enki2]

[castledeity]

A medieval fitted yankee helmet by Mashkow Alexey

[pangur-and-grim]

cleaning him

[pangur-and-grim]

those aren’t their names!!!!!!

[beniial]

[werechicken-deactivated20241121]

The first three are literal genetically enhanced space warriors and the last one is just some twitchy nerd who got lucky

Besides Samus would cream them all

[purplepokili]

your mind

[tlgtw]

Isaac's First Good Day

[sunspotpony]

@earsandtailsarefeet

[wifegideonnav]

“bits to use in everyday conversations”

[pangur-and-grim]

trying to couch nap but they’re observing me

[cungadero]

the shame of making a connection irl and them being like omg can i have your insta??? snapchat????? and having to be like sorry i live in a gap between two tree roots youre just going to have to normal text me like some kind of animal

[depsidase]

[biscuittactician]

bloodborne is wet dune.

[despazito]

It never occurred to me that group therapy could be considered a strange american trope

[datura-inoxia]

Yup. The only time I've encountered this is on 12 step programs, which are strange American tropes by themselves.

[hyumjim]

Starting a collection

[hyumjim]

[islandmusic]

whatever. go my scarab