Cuckquean Advice

[evie-lupine]

Shibari and Rope Bondage Resources

Looking for tutorials? Blogs to follow? Want to figure out that one tie you saw at the dungeon last week? This post has got you covered – written to be accessible for complete newbies, with resources even old hats at rope bondage can appreciate be they bottom or top.

(1) Tutorial Websites and Videos  

Beautiful Bondage 

Cam Damage

Crash Restraint Website

Crash Restraint Youtube

deGiotto Rope

EpicRope

Esinem Website

Esinem Shibari Classes   

Evie Vane’s Videos 

Kinbaku Luxuria

Kinbaku Today 

Kink Academy  

Kissmedeadly Doll References

Miss Eris 

ReKink Rope Bondage Tutorials

Rope Baby  

Rope Connections

RopeTopia Resources

RVA Rope

Secondfloor Lotus Studio

Shibari.Ph Resources 

The Dutchy

The Twisted Monk

Two Knotty Boys Video Downloads

(2) Safety and Technique Information* 

* = most of the website and video list also covers safety information

Kinky Clover Rope Bottom Guide   

How to Be an Awesome Rope Bottom

A Guide For Rope Bottoms and Bondage Models 

Bondage Safety for Bottoms

Resources for Rope Bottoms 

Safety with Rope

BDSMWiki: Beginner Rope Bondage 

Blackout: What to Do When Someone Faints

Crash Restraint Rope Advice  

Fixing Problems Before They Happen

Free: Bondage Safety 

Rope Incident Reports

On Circulation 

On Nerve Damage 

Pain in Kinbaku

Nerves in Rope Bondage

Nerve Injury Reference Card 

Nerve Injury Treatment and Management

Remedial Ropes

Self-Suspension

Shibari.Ph: Read This Before Trying Bondage  

What is Shibari?

Who Can be Suspended?

(3) Books 

The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up by Evie Vane

Better Bondage for Every Body by Evie Vane

Rope Bondage The Smart Way: A Step By Step Guide To Using Rope Bondage In BDSM by Pete Riggs

Shibari You Can Use by Lee Harrington and RiggerJay

More Shibari You Can Use  by Lee Harrington and RiggerJay

Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes by Two Knotty Boys

Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes by Two Knotty Boys

The Seductive Art of Japanese Rope Bondage by Midori

The Beauty of Kinbaku by Master “K”

Essence of Shibari: Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage  by Shin Nawakari

Rogue Hojojutsu by Douglas Kent

Complete Shibari Volume 1: Land by Douglas Kent

Complete Shibari Volume 2: Sky by Douglas Kent

Bondage For Sex by Chanta Rose

Tie Me Up! The Complete Guide to Bondage by Stephan Niederwieser 

(4) Tumblr Blogs  

@schwein-child , @goodmorningm0therfucker , @kissmedeadlydoll 

@camdamage  @ropebaby , @hornyropebunny @tohjiro 

@japanesebdsmofficial  @squirmforgood @evilthell, @amaury-grisel-shibari

@rumen-basheff , @kanan0690, @theropediary @jewelryandfire 

@cubicletocollar, @em-ties, @strictly-dirtyvonp, @secondfloor-fet

@gaping-lotus, @jesseflanagan, @nawayoi  @uncoiled-rope , @boshai, 

@tieduptee, @furi0usge0rge, @daddysprettypinkprincess, @shibarikuma, 

@daddyrigsme, @shaktibliss @nikolasromanov, @tied-yuno,  

@kinkyropecuriosity @danielriquelme-shibari  @tentesion, @wykd-dave, 

@ella-winters, @squirmforgood, @bondage-gifs, @master-rene-will, 

@orpheusblack, @alekzander-kinbaku, @misunguided  @untitledminor,

@tied-yuno, @kbnawa, @ropedisco, @cordineclubarchives, 

@tiedandtwisted420, @fred-rx, @skinny-redhead, @nikolasromanov, 

@enbydea, @neckropenightmare, @hangknot, @se7enbondage 

Tumblr blog list from @thebeautyofrope‘s awesome post because I simply could not do a better or more complete job myself

Please note that none of these links, references or websites are meant to serve as a complete guide to rope bondage by themselves. Rope classes and real life instruction are invaluable, and online materials do not make a complete substitute for learning best possible practices. Stay safe and have fun!

[camdamage]

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[theropediary]

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[bdsmgeekhowto]

Help! My SO loves deep that bjs but I'm really bad at it. How can I get better!? I'm always tied up so I can never use my hands to compensate. Is there a way to practice this or do I just have to wait and get used to it!?

Hi! Best advice is to take it easy and start with a smaller dildo, we have a variety in my shop, and basically:

1. Get used to the feeling of having something at the back of your throat (try taking the dildo at least 1 time a day as deep as you can without puking immediately, and hold for as long as you can. Eventually start moving it back and forth stimulating the area. Usually this is best done in a shower during the morning when your stomach is empty to avoid messes.

2. Once you get your gag reflex under better control, practice opening your throat by tilting your head slightly and sticking out your tongue and swallowing with your mouth open. This allows for the tongue muscle to move out of the way giving space for the phallus.

3. Once you’re able to take the dildo beyond your gag reflex, try to focus on your breathing. you should be able to still breath while a cock/dildo is in your throat but it can be disconcerting/panic inducing. 

4. Practice, practice, practice, and move to larger dildos as you become more comfortable.

Note: Using lube can also make things easier if you don’t drool too much, you want to avoid pushing too much and injuring something. 

Good luck!

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SOME PRACTICAL PHYSICAL TOOLS AND LAST ADVICE TO START THINGS ROLLING FOR THE ‘WANT TO BE’ OR ( WANNABE ) STAGS AND HOTWIVES.

If you are struggling just to have an open dialogue about hotwifing it is probably best to drop it and return to basics. All stag and hotwife relationships must be founded on a sense of enjoyment of just being in the others company, having fun with stuff away from sexuality and a good dose of romance. You will find it difficult to start if this is not right, and even if you do start, without this foundation it will not go right.  Be genuinely fun and romantic and you stand the best chance of getting this over the line, a very good chance and even if you don’t you will at least be having a fun and romantic time anyway. Don’t push it, which is unethical and disrespectful.  This fanstasy has been in your head for a long time, it is probably new or at least undeveloped for them so give them time. Everybody is entitled to move at their own pace so don’t begin with some of the most extreme stag and hotwife ideas rattling around in your head. That said you too are entitled to pursue your own fantasy and live it out, so here are four practical and hopefully fun things you can do to bring it to fruition.

1.      There is an excellent cartoon type book called ‘SEX is FUN’ available on amazon and all good book dealers. It contains a guide to how to ‘role play’ many sexual fantasies for all kinds of people. Right in the middle of the book is a hotwife scenario were couples can act out the fantasy in a very erotic but safe way. The great thing about this book is that it contains so many other sexual fantasies, and that hotwifing is presented (as indeed it should be) as just another sexual fantasy people can have. A couple can read the book together and then most likely pick out two or three fantasies each and then role play them with each other. Hotwifing will not then be such a terrible secret or even considered that odd anymore, and it can be discussed more easily.

2.      Most ‘HOTWIFING’ novels and novellas sold online are absolute garbage, badly written with no real story, and many descend into sissy cuckold humiliation stuff rather than stag material.. This is particularly true of Kindle books. There are thankfully some exceptions from this rule and they are mostly printed books. One brilliant example of this is actually two books about the same hotwife story, one written from the perspective of the stag and the other from the perspective of the hotwife, taking their first foray into the lifestyle. They are short books and could be read over day or two but are well crafted and hot as hell. They make a perfect gift for the other half to read if you are trying to get them to take interest. I recommend buying both and the hotwife reading ( Because he’s Watching by Kirsten McCurrran ) and the stag reading ( Ian’s Obsession by Kenny Wright) at the same time. The authors collaborated to create this set of books and I cannot recommend them highly enough.

3.      There is a huge almost porn out there pertaining to be hotwife fare. For years the most common stuff was again cuckold humiliation fare, but that had changed and there is far more material now being generated with stag and hotwife themes. The best of these is a movie called ( How to Train a Hotwife, directed by Jacky St James from the New Sensataions, Adult Company). This is a hotwife porn movie made by a female director aimed at women and couples to watch together. I will not ruin the story as there actually is one, which is not always the case with porn. It deals with a normal loving couple exploring the lifestyle. It is extremely erotic and fun at the same time. You can easily find the trailer using google. There is a whole batch of very good hotwife movies from New sensations from the same series (Tales from the Edge) but this one is the best starter hotwife DVD I know about and is really worth the money. You can buy it online or pick it up (or order it) from your local adult store. It only came out in 2015 so it still widely available. It did very well incidentally folks which should tell you something.

4.      After all this has been digested by your other half you should go out together and select a suction dildo (That is one that can attach to a wall or headboard). If you are a wannabe hotwife you can select it yourself but if you are a wannabe stag you should really have her along as she will be the one using it in the end. It is obvious how this is used to encourage the hotwife life in the sense of a (male female male threesome) so get in plenty of practice and build the desire. Less obvious is how to create the desire for a hotwife to be with another guy outside a threesome set up. The best solution to this may be to invest in a penis sleeve or extension for the wannabe stag. These are available in sex shops and online in all kinds of shapes and sizes. Even is a stag is well endowed to begin with, he should be able to find one to give him a slightly different shape and if not well endowed he will be much enhanced, hopefully like any future bull. This is best shopped for together and agreed upon together. If it is a hotwife wannabe leading things she will want to express how naughty it feels and if it is a stag leading things he should focus on telling her how good it is to see her fulfilled with something different. After this you have got to start taking things into the real world.

FROM THE PILLOW TO THE REAL WORLD

Some couples will reach a plateau where pillow talk is quite heated and erotic, but if one of the two categorically states it will never proceed beyond that – now what?  All you can do is identify the source of that belief and counter it with both logical, realistic responses and consider real world scenarios to prove the point. But if you are ready to go on, it is time for the real world.

Real-world scenarios are those where a couple can dip a toe in the water of sharing without much real risk involved. The cliche idea of the wife getting hit on in a bar is a cliche for a reason: it’s done. A lot. It’s a great way to boost her confidence in being appealing to other men and it helps prove to her that the husband can sit back and effectively manage his jealousy. At the end of the evening – they go home together. Is a wife always going to get hit on when she socializes? Maybe not, that’s life. Remember to manage expectations and enjoy the process (dressing her up in something decidedly sexy, for example), not just the end result. There are still countless variables in this process that I cannot cover here but I am sure you can find some on the tumblr (Stag and Hotwife Games) if you are short on inspiration, or elsewhere online. Short stories provide good ideas for real world too. There is no excuse, use your imagination.

Remember as mentioned above, all successful stag and hotwife relationships are based on a sense of enjoyment of just being in the others company, everyday romance, and just having fun with stuff generally as a couple. hotwifing might be awesome fun but it is only one part of your wider relationship. Be genuinely fun and romantic and you stand the best chance of getting this over the line, a very good chance indeed as this particular fantasy is deep in the human DNA.

Good luck

J

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[dominantlife]

Library: Training

Welcome to the Training Section of the Library For Kinksters. Check back often as the library is updated frequently.

NOTE: In areas of gender or identity most articles are transferable. Articles on subs apply to anyone regardless of gender, etc. The same is true for Dom/Dommes - all articles about Doms applies equally to Dommes.

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

10 Tips when Spanking a Little

15 Points of a BDSM relationship

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

A List Of Books About BDSM

An Instructional Guide to Kinks, Fetishes and the World of BDSM

Age Play: A Short Guide

Asserting Ownership - Posing

Basics of Domination and Submission

BDSM Contracts

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

BDSM Roles

Common BDSM Roles

Direction and Acceptance

Discipline & Punishment

D/s and Kink

First Things First - A BDSM Checklist

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 3 - Structure and Discipline

FAQ For Newbies

Female Orgasm Control

Female Stimulation and Forced Orgasms

Forced Orgasms, With Love!

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Jelqing

Guide To Spanking & Impact Play

Guide To Subspace

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

Hand Signals For Subs

Hazards of Ignoring in a D/s Relationship

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Choose and Use a Safeword

How to get your Sub in subspace, a guide for beginners

How to Lace Up Your Corset - A Helpful Infographic

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Ignoring your sub is an act of abuse

Infographic: Anatomy Of A Spanking

Infographic: Tips On Breath Play

Introducing your partner to a new fetish

Introduction To BDSM

Kinky Sex And Bondage Tips For S&M First Timers

Learning To Trust Your Instincts

Matters of the D/s Heart: A Serious and Long Overdue Conversation

Mixing Vanilla with the D/s Spice - Opening Pandora’s Box of the Heart

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Pet Play: How Kittens Can Annoy Their Owners

Pet Play: How To Make Pet Food For Your Pet

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Rape Fantasy & Resistance Play

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Remission, Revitalization and anchoring of life through D/S

Safewords and Safesigns 101

Safeword Basics

S&M for beginners: Easing into a new situation

SF’s Guide To Safewords

Should you mix personal fetishes into punishments?

Slave Position Training Map

Some Thoughts On Rules

Sting Levels of Impact Toys

Submission Training With Love - A Vanilla Perspective

SubmissiveFeminist’s Guide to Behaviour Modification

Switching It Up

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Thoughts on Correction

Thoughts on Protocol - “The Invisible Leash”

Topping from the bottom

Training in D/s: Why? (1 of 3)

Training in D/s: How? (2 of 3)

Training in D/s: Thoughts & Concerns (3 of 3)

Trust and D/s

Wax Play Tips

[fetishweekly]

Shibari Tutorial: Loves Me Knot Harness

♥ Always practice cautious kink! Have your sheers ready in case of emergency and watch extremities for circulation issues ♥

[ichwilljeden]

How to be a good Dominant.

Got an ask about this today and was very glad to receive it. This is something I struggled with for years because I noticed I wasn’t a lot like Doms you see in stories and such. So here’s my guide to being a good D.

1. Realize that the most important thing is to be safe. Whatever you are into, read everything you can to bring safety into your relationship. Realize that EVERY type of physical act has some sort of risk involved. Like to choke? Do not even think about it till you know CPR. Like rope? You better know what kinds are good for what and where it’s safe to tie someone and where it’s not. You better know every knot you plan to use and which ones are safe.

2. Read read read everything you can on techniques and styles for what you like to do. Spanking is so normal to everyone that it might seem goofy to say to read up on spanking, but the first time you “miss” with your hand and hit with your wrist, your sub will have every right to call you a dick head asshole sucking gnat. 

3. Pay attention and do not have too much going on at once that you forget things. One of the best compliments I’ve ever received from a sub was just a few months ago. She complimented me on remembering what all I had her doing and telling her when to stop/was allowed to do something again. Remember, while some submissives may ask to take off clothes pins once the scene has ended due to orgasms, some will feel that they are to wait until they are told to take them off. A good Dominant will say “I told her to put a clothespin on each nipple 20 minutes ago, it is time to give those puppies some blood flow” and have her take them off. A bad Dominant will head to sleep while the submissive lays there in agonizing, potentially very dangerous pain. Perhaps the best way to handle it is make a checklist, if you are the type who can be forgetful.

4. Give your orders with confidence. Nothing is more distracting and worrying to a submissive than a Dominant who is “umm how about..you put ice against your nipple, is that okay?” Shit I don’t know, is it? A lot of being Submissive is that they want someone to push their boundaries in a healthy way. A submissive craves being useful for your desires, so make that happen. Do you want to have them rub an ice cube over their clit? “Little girl. Grab an ice cube, hold the curved side against your clit and rub in a circular motion. Do not stop until you are instructed to do so.” vs “I’d like it if you maybe rubbed ice over yourself.” World of difference. 

5. This is one of the most important parts I’ll touch on today. Be. Your. Self. I have a friend whose Dom is huge into feet. They do all sorts of cutesy feet things like painting her toe nails and washing her feet and kisses them and such. That is adorable. I hate feet. I won’t touch them unless they’re fresh out of the bath, and even then, ugh. So if my “dream” sub came along and was into feet, would I pretend to be? Absolutely not. I see a lot of Dominants make this make. We have such a hard time finding a sub that meets our criteria that I see us bending to what they want. Here is a secret. A lot of Doms who have a hard time feeling Dominant to someone, it’s because they’ve created a character they’re playing instead of being themself. Put out what YOU want and YOU desire. I promise you there is a sub out there who wants someone just like you. And trust me, it’s amazing when you find each other.

6. Confidence. I touched on this already, but again. Confidence is KEY to being Dominant. A sub cannot submit to someone who can’t even tell them what to do. I put it on this list twice because it’s that important to being a Dominant who is taken seriously.

7. Let them know who and what you are. I label myself as a Sadistic Daddy Dom. I am not a Dom. I am not a Daddy. I am not a Sadist. I am a mix of the three. I do not put out an image of something I am not. Any sub I have had has understood that I am a very emotional, caring, sadistic person. I will tie you up, beat you, scratch you, spank you, fuck you hard, and bring you further than you knew you could go. Then I will bathe you, hold you, sing to you, read to you, tell you a hundred things about you that I love. Any sub I’ve had has understood this is what I am. This helps you avoid getting someone who feels you’re fake because you aren’t what they expected.

8. Lay out a plan. Even if it’s just for you to know and you keep your sub in the dark as to what will happen that night. Make a list to yourself of things you want to get done. Be as specific or as broad as you are comfortable with. i.e.

Ice play

wax play

clothes pins

butt plug

oral, finishing on her face

A list like this, even incredibly broad, helps you keep structure which helps you maintain control over the situation and to feel confident in what is getting done. Both of which I’ve mentioned are very important.

9. Practice. Whatever it is you want. Practice. Take your hitting implements and hit a cushion with them, maybe even yourself. Test the temperature of your candles on your own arm. Test your rope, see how your own skin reacts after being binded with it. Find a way to practice everything you plan to use on your sub. This will also help give you confidence in the scene.

10. Listen! Your sub will speak a million ways to you. Watch their reaction, see when they flinch, pay attention to the words they choose. See how wet she is/hard he is. Feel the temperature of their skin. A good Dom should notice all of these things. It comes with time and experience, but even a new Dom should know to try and pay attention to it.

11. AFTERCARE. Whatever kind of aftercare it is your sub responds to and you are capable of, GIVE. They gave you the greatest gift they can give. Now they deserve that you gently pick up the pieces and put them back together. Not every sub wants to be cuddled. Not every sub wants to be spoken to. Not every sub wants to be around the Dom right after. So whatever it is they need, give it. I don’t care how difficult. I don’t care how tired you are. What it is they need, you give it.

12. Admit when you do not know something. A sub once stopped play to compliment me on the fact that I was googling safety information. She said “Are you googling this Ich?” “erm, yes.” “That is amazing! Do you know how many Doms pretend they know everything?!” She was so genuinely excited that I was willing to admit I don’t know every damned thing. If a sub expects you to be the ultimate authority on every facet of play, they are never going to find a Dom they are happy with. So when you don’t know the best/safest way to do something, learn it. The sub will not give up on you due to you being an adult and admitting you need to learn.

13. Last but not least. A good Dom will NEVER force submission. Will never manipulate someone into doing something unhealthy or truly unwanted. A good Dom will always put the needs of their submissive before their own.

[biker4life73]

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[beautifulchaoz88]

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[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Relationships Myths

There are a lot of myths around relationships. We look at some of the more common ones below.

1. You and your partner should see eye to eye – Since each individual is totally unique, with separate histories and life experiences, it’s normal for you both to have different points of view. Also, you want to be with someone who adds some extra spice, and has a different outlook, or slant, on life. You don’t just want a partner who’s a clone of you. Thus, value and appreciate your differences.

2. Romance is at the heart of a great relationship – Of course, romance is important and makes things come alive. But this isn’t Hollywood – we live in the real world. And though early love is great and can leave us in a spin it always, always fades, and eases off over time. But the good news is … it then turn to mature love – which is a richer, more stable and secure form of love. 3. You and your partner should like the same things – Because we’re individuals we all like different things – and there’s nothing wrong with that – we can do them with our friends. If you try to force your partner to like what you enjoy it will only lead to conflict and arguments.

4. Couples rarely argue in a great relationship – Burying your feelings and hiding what you think could indicate an unhealthy relationship. All healthy couples argue and disagree at times. It means you can be real, and your relationship is strong. However, be careful what you say – don’t just launch a full attack. You can’t take back your words … What’s been said can’t be unsaid!

5. My partner must be perfect (or very close to perfect) – There’s no living person who will ever reach that mark. Don’t focus on their flaws or things that irritate you. We all have imperfections and are difficult at times. Instead, remember what you liked, and the fun times you have shared.

(Note: If your partner is abusive then that changes everything. You need to walk away from the relationship today.)