some self-care/mental health tips for the upcoming school year
with school coming soon or already starting for some people i figured iād share some of my tips for a healthier lifestyle. i know in the past iāve struggled so much with being good to myself once school starts, both mentally, emotionally, and physically!
i knowĀ how hard this is. iām absolutely awful at it, even in the summer but it really makes the biggest difference. coming home to a mess when your life is already stressful and messy enough just makes things worse. i know when i have a clean space iām way more productive and at peace with my situation.
take a break from social media
just doing this every once in awhile makes the hugest difference. social media is a wonderful world but itās easy to get caught up in how everyone is doing things without you or having more fun or how someoneās prettier or whatever. itās not worth it. iāve learned that just deleting the apps for even a few hours can make my mental state 10x better. itās important to realize that while people are out doing things all the time, you can never be as fun as all the 162 people you follow combined.
donāt be afraid to invite people out
one of the biggest things i struggle with is being social, simply because i overthink inviting people to do things with me too much and just wait to be invited by someone else instead. remember that even if someone says they canāt do something, itās not the end of the world.Ā at least you opened up a possibility!!! by being someone who invites others to do things, people will feel more appreciated and like you actually want to hang out with them! but also always save time for yourself as well!
create a self-care routine with motivation
by giving yourself some type of reward to wash your face, brush your teeth and shower, such as only watching your favorite tv show afterwards, it will feel a bit easier to accomplish the tasks that seem simple but can be terribly hard, especially if you suffer from depression. iāve learned that combining things into one task also makes it easier, such as once you get in the shower, do everything. wash your face, brush your teeth, shave, all in the shower. it makes self-care so much easier.
get outside, stay out of bed
laying in bed is the best thing ever, i know, but it can be so easy to get in there and never get out. this is my biggest bad habit. i feel more productive even just sitting on the couch. my bed is like a black hole of lost motivation. go outside for twenty minutes a day if you can. sunlight makes things a little better and staying inside all day does nothing for you.
do one thing that scares you everyday, big or small.
iām someone who has struggled with social anxiety for years now, but iām slowly getting better because iām making a conscious (and very terrifying effort) everyday. this wonāt work for everyone, i know, but itās helped me a little bit. i try to challenge myself everyday to do one thing that scares me, whether itās asking someone to do something after school or agreeing to get coffee with a friend youāre not super close to yet, or even just making conversation with someone next to me in class. donāt push yourself too far but donāt make zero effort either.
cut the negative language/mindset
anytime you have a negative thought find a reverse positive. even saying āiām not happy with how my hair looks but my ass looks great in these jeansā is better than saying āi look awful todayā. stop the constant internal bullying! think of it this way, if your best friend said the things you say to yourself, how would you feel? youāre your own best friend, so cut the shit! compliment yourself like you do your best friend. complimenting myself and finding things i find beautiful on my own body even once a day has increased my confidence exponentially. a negative language towards yourself leads to a negative mindset.
find someone who motivates you
if you need motivation to work out, study, anything, find a buddy. having someone to do things with and hold you accountable makes a world of difference. this summer i got together with a friend and made a deal that we would work out 2-3 times a week. it worked so much better than if i had just made that goal for myself because she was always there to text me to ask to workout when we needed to but i lacked the desire. and i did the same for her. now we actually both got a job at a gym together this fall and are working out consistently because we have that mutual Ā accountability with each other! plus just having someone you enjoy seeing makes doing the hard task more fun!
accept your individuality
you donāt need to look like societyās ideal of beautiful. thereās millions of types of flowers, and just because one kind is pretty to someone, does that make all the others ugly? no. thereās tons of species of dogs too and they all look totally different. is a poodle ugly just because a golden retriever is cute? NO. your individuality is you. everyone is beautiful in the very own unique way. donāt try to look like someone ellse. your beauty is not measured by how perfect your features are.Ā
understand that a bad week doesnāt mean a bad life
weāre all going to go through those weird ass time periods where it feels like everything sucks and nothing can go right. accept that although itās pretty bad right now, it wonāt be forever.Ā
good luck with this school year everyone! hope my tips help even just one person. take care of yourselves, kiddos.
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