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about 90% of fanfiction takes place in a utopia where men are thoughtful and unsure of their place in the world
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(having a good week) that’s right. the goal is to increase my baseline. make the spirals shallower until they spin lazily on the surface of the water, lose their suction. im not trying to fix it all at once, im trying to incrementally improve my way into something tolerable. and once im there maybe i can shoot for good
(having a bad week) and in my terrible forge i will temper the flames of ruin
It’s pretty much summer now and I wanna share my updated rosemary chicken recipe. I’ve tweaked and refined it a bit since I last talked about it.
Rosemary chicken ingredients:
5-6 cloves of garlic or like measure with your heart basically
Big handful of fresh rosemary leaves again measure with your heart
2 tsp course salt
1/2 tsp pepper
1/2 tsp onion powder
1/4 cup lemon juice
2/3 cup olive oil
A bit of corn starch or flour, maybe a tablespoon
Water as needed
Large package of boneless chicken thighs or whatever cut of chicken you wanna use but I use thighs
Method:
Mince the garlic and rosemary together very well. Don’t make a paste or anything but do mince it very fine if you can
Put your garlic rosemary mix, salt, pepper, onion powder, lemon juice, and olive oil in a sealable container and shake together really well to make your marinade.
Let your chicken marinade in this for at least an hour but up to 8 hours is fine if you wanna do this in the morning or something. I usually do this bit during lunch and let it go for four to five hours.
To cook the chicken get a large flat pan on medium high heat and sear your chicken on both sides. Once you’ve done this, add the remaining marinade to the pan, cover it with a lid and turn the temperature down to medium low.
Let the chicken steam in the marinade for 15-20 minutes or until it reaches an internal temperature of 165F. Set your chicken aside to rest while you make the sauce.
To make the sauce, leave the remaining marinade and chicken drippings in the pan and turn it up to medium high, whisking constantly.
Mix a bit of corn starch or flour with water to make a slurry and add to the sauce. Continue whisking it into the marinade constantly until it reaches the consistency you want. I usually go until I start to see the pan through the sauce a bit as I whisk and the sauce sticks to the back of a spoon.
You can serve the chicken in the sauce or you can serve the sauce on the side if you like. I’ve done both. I often serve this with roasted potatoes and sautéed vegetables but it also goes well with rice and other stuff. Up to you, really. It’s a great summer food though and once you’ve got the marinade done actually cooking it is usually pretty fast in my experience.
was thinking abt the difference in how (some) people view women's products as "things companies are trying to sell to women" while men's products are "things men want as consumers" and like. men's desires are constructed by the patriarchy. this is the problem w engaging w the concept of the patriarchy as like, the culmination of every single individual man's active desires instead of a system inherently intertwined with other systems of power. like men are constructed manhood is sold to you! if you think that everything the patriarchy says about women is a lie but you take it at it's word on The Ways Men Naturally Are. I simply need you to rethink things
From I Am A Transwoman. I Am In The Closet. I Am Not Coming Out. by Jennifer Coates
when you post "The Article About Internalized Transmisogyny" to make a point about masculinity jfc
The Article About Internalized Transmisogny literally ends by making a point about manhood and masculinity and misandry in queer/feminist spaces:
I hate that the only effective response I can give to “boys are shit” is “well I’m not a boy.” I feel like I am selling out the boy in baseball pajamas that sat with me on the bed while I tried to figure out which one I was supposed to be, and the boys who I have met and loved from inside my boy suit—who believed they were talking to a boy. I feel like I am burning the history of the naked body that sits on the floor of my shower. The body that went to prom in a boxy tuxedo and coveted the dresses.
Because I am not a boy, but I had a boyhood. I was, and am, made to live as a boy and I cannot suspend the perspective that gave me and join in when it’s time to fluster one of those clueless fuckers into anger by calling him a fuckboi and then tell him his anger proves he’s a fuckboi, or to humiliate one with an OKCupid screenshot because we’ve willfully conflated the clumsy ones with the threatening ones so we can grab those solidarity faves. It’s fucked up. It has metastasized.
More than a few out transwomen have told me, privately, they they are uncomfortable with these things, but are afraid that speaking up about it would cause ciswomen to like and trust them less. “I play along,” one of them told me, “because in the queer community the only people who defend cisboys are cisboys. I don’t want to give up finally being read as a girl.”
Another says “I do the misandry stuff because it’s an easy way to earn queer cred points, but when I think about it it makes me uncomfortable.”
Another: “It’s a coping habit I’m not proud of. If I agree ‘girls rule boys drool’ it makes me feel more like a girl.”
Have you noticed, when a product is marketed in an unnecessarily gendered way, that the blame shifts depending on the gender? That a pink pen made “for women” is (and this is, of course, true) the work of idiotic cynical marketing people trying insultingly to pander to what they imagine women want? But when they make yogurt “for men” it is suddenly about how hilarious and fragile masculinity is — how men can’t eat yogurt unless their poor widdle bwains can be sure it doesn’t make them gay? #MasculinitySoFragile is aimed, with smug malice, at men—not marketers.
This conclusion—widely shared—is a product of insulated discourse. What I am NOT saying is: “open the floodgates, let in the shitty male trolls!” I know the trolls—they have tried to be my friends, they have tried to sneak into feminist spaces with no desire to learn or listen. I understand not trusting men who loudly and constantly hold forth on women’s issues and refuse to accept when they are mistaken. I’m not encouraging anyone to trust blindly. I am pleading to the discoursers: consider that this insulation has effects and try to mitigate them, if your priority really is finding truth amid a muck of concealed patriarchal lies. Check to see if maybe you are saying things and reproducing things mostly because it sounds good and feels good and nobody is challenging them.
These are not discursive problems that only apply to an “undercover” transwoman, these are discursive problems that are seemingly only visible to an “undercover” transwoman forced to carry multiple perspectives like bactrian humps.
Because I am interested in complicating your definition of maleness and of boyhood. I was born into that shitty town, maleness, in the remains of outdated ideals and misplaced machismo and repression and there are some good people stuck living there. They are not in charge. They did not build it. And I don’t feel okay just moving out and saying “fuck y’all — bootstrap your way out or die out, I was never one of you.” I want to make it a better, healthier place—not spend all my time talking about how shitty it is and how anyone who would choose to live there deserves it. And to me that means considering them with charity, even when they make it difficult to. [...] Because it’s not a small deal that the words “not all men” have become entwined inextricably with male fragility and whininess. It makes it awfully easy to insulate the (largely cis-)female perspective on what males are. To begin a statement with those words—“Not All Men”—is to give grounds to anyone who wants to laugh at the rest of it. But here is the truth: not all men are what you think they are. Man does not mean what you think it means. Generalizing harshly and broadly but implying “you know which ones I mean” is an intellectual and rhetorical laziness that is not allowed to pass anywhere else in these communities. Because we don’t get to choose who our words and behavior affect, we are obligated to choose them carefully.
My lukewarm take is that one of the greatest privileges of all is the ability to exist as the «default setting», being seen as just a person, and not as a representative of a group of people who share your gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity or cultural/religious background. Which is why the «not all men» pushback against any mention of structural sexism was what it was. Because suddenly people who were used to being the default setting were being made into representatives of their gender, having to prove that they were better than the stereotypes forced upon them. And they did not like that one bit.
Yes!
The problem isn’t that every man harasses the women and femmes around them. It’s that those that do don’t get checked by the men around them and that they do it all the time. “Not all men” harass women, but all men participate in its continuation. You not doing the hurting isn’t you being a good man. A good man supports women by actually changing environments that allow oppression to go unchecked.
At my work the young boys know that they can’t get away with saying phobic and ist shit because I point it out and tell them to not say that stuff. It’s not necessarily great that I’m known as The Person that isn’t okay with that but it has made them stop doing it at least as much and started conversations about why. Just pointing that stuff out makes them less comfortable doing it.
If a woman takes "too long" to be comfortable being intimate with a man because of a history of past abuse- people say she's punishing him for another man's bad behavior and that she's being unfair.
But if a man experiences childhood abuse that's a free pass to repeat the cycle on every woman and child who has the misfortune of dealing with him.
As long as he only hurts women and kids, and as long as he makes a modicum of effort to be private about it, he will always be the friend men have known for years and is such a "nice guy."
And because men who consider themselves to be good and upstanding men- Men who imagine (fantasize) scenarios where they save women, children, the elderly and puppies from the machinations of evil-doers, don't see it when it's their own friend.
Because they are so certain they are that good guy that they would somehow instinctively know a bad guy that they can automatically write off anyone they like as inherently good- the way they view themselves as inherently good.
And that's why we can't get anywhere with "good" men. They're so convinced of their own innate goodness we have to fight through their ego before they can even acknowledge they aren't too good to let a predator hide among them unnoticed- and often ignored or silenced the voices of the people who did notice.
They say "Not all men" because if they said anything else they'd be confessing they don't even know which men are and which are not. They don't even know when it's themselves.
Good people are not totally convinced they're good. If you're actually the good man you think you are- you will want to know when it's you being the problem. You will at least consider the possibility that you are wrong and causing harm.
Some people are wrong or have bad intentions when making accusations- they still need to be considered; Even if that's just by you turning inward and reflecting.
Ideally- that would be your first reaction. It should not take a public shaming or a court case or police involvement to get you to even consider you're in the wrong.
If it does- that's a MAJOR developmental failure of you as a person, because why were people so certain they could not come to you and have a reasonable conversation?
And maybe those developmental failures are not totally your fault- but they are your responsibility.
Because I can tell you with 100% certainty it isn't MY fault y'all are like this- but best believe I (like all women under patriarchy) am being punished for it.
Why do we sometimes make fun of fellas who say "not all men"?
We're making fun of the fact that someone has said something treating men as a class (for example: "when I'm going on a date with a man I take more safety precautions than when I'm going on a date with a woman") and they've responded to it by treating that as something they need to defend against personally (for example: "that's not all men though, girls don't need to do that with me").
This is gently mockable because of the fact someone says a relatively uncontroversial thing and it's being treated as a personal attack.
It's not mockable because it actually IS all men. That's not true at all. "Not all men!" is factually correct. "Not MOST men" would be factually correct!
There seem to be some people who have taken the idea that we can mock a "not all men" guy for making a general statement all about his own character, and turned that onto the idea that we can mock any guy because the general statement is always true. That is horse shit.
If you find yourself exchanging "Men are on average more dangerous for me to be around" with "all men are always dangerous," if you find yourself exchanging "Men are encouraged not to engage with emotions other than anger" with "men don't experience powerful emotions other than anger, not really," if you find yourself exchanging statements that are on average true with blanket declarations of fact, you are fucking up hard.
My kid is a boy he's going to grow into a man, and I love him. My father was a boy and is now a man and I love him too. I've had male lovers and friends, trans and cis, and they were and are good men.
It isn't all men. It's never been all men. And you serve yourself very badly as soon as you assume something is true of all men all the time, and I find I cannot mock you for it.
Stop viewing rape as "rape vs not rape".
Rape culture has many, many levels of manifestation. This chart has been a favourite of mine for ages.
Next time a male says to you ‘well, not all men’ you should respond with ‘what steps can I take to make sure I don’t encounter the men who are like this?’
Make them think, make them come to an understanding, make them realize there are no steps women can take to prevent their victimization, it is on men. Make them know it is the men who do this that makes us think it’s all men.
So many males seem to think it is a full-on female-specific delusion that we don’t trust them when, in reality, it’s more of a ‘once bitten, twice shy’ mentality and every woman has been bitten or has seen the scars.
we gotta get back to torrent distribution, i just watched someone eat eight grand in bandwidth charges because they ran a direct-download piracy site with local file hosting through cloudflare. torrents were invented literally for this exact reason
torrents work like this
i have a file or folder on my pc that i want to share with other people. let's call it gayshit.mp3
unfortunately gayshit.mp3 is 750mb and im not paying for discord nitro so i need another way to send it
i put it into qbittorrent and it makes a torrent file. this is essentially a very small file that points to gayshit.mp3 so other computers can find it. kinda like a treasure map
i send this tiny file to my friend, who loads it into qbittorrent. their computer takes a moment to find mine over the vast expanse of cyberspace and then (as long as my pc is running and the file is still where it should be), it gets copied from my hard drive to theirs
this is the cool part: if somebody else loads that tiny file, they can download it from both of us. if i'm offline but my friend is on, the third person can still get it. this also means that if two people have separate halves of the file, they can download the other half from each other. as long as some combination of people have the pieces between them, they can all have the whole thing.
crucially this does not require a server!!! you can just upload the file to a few people and as long as they keep it, it's still accessible. as long as somebody, somewhere is still connected, it's available forever. the only way it goes away is if everybody disconnects from it.
please learn to torrent
An expert guide to get started using torrentsTorrents are one of the most popular forms of file sharing on the internet, accounting for over
always use qbittorrent, do not use bitorrent or utorrent.
this is the vibe i bring to the party actually
people who express seething, violent hatred towards cyclists: you make people feel unsafe as fuck! you're allowed to be annoyed with cyclists. some of us are dicks who need to learn the road rules. but anytime I see someone "joke" about hitting cyclists with their car I feel a little bit sick to my stomach.
feels like as soon as my feet are on the pedals of my only reliable mode of transport, I become a target for people driving a terrifyingly fast and heavy car. when I was barely a toddler, my dad had to go on rallies to raise awareness about the fact that people on bikes are PEOPLE who do not deserve to be KILLED BY DRIVERS.
he had slogans trying to remind people that he was a dad with a 2 year old son at home, because both him and his friends have had drivers swerve at them any time they got on their bicycles. I just find how "normal" it is to want to kill cyclists pretty fucking scary.
Lmaooooo I've had this job for 6ish years now and the brand-new baby guard I JUST finished training keeps trying to "help" me
I was on the phone with police the other day describing someone and he was over here talking *over* dispatch to give me details I already knew... because I had paused.... to give dispatch time to type.... and I guess he thought I didn't know???
Like man I appreciate the spirit but I literally taught YOU how to do that, do you think I forgot??
Like I bequeathed unto you my Stone of Power and in doing so lost all arcane wisdom???
Bruh
Cis dudes do this thing where they share basic ass knowledge with you like you're not the resident expert
and while I USED to think it was because I was a girl and they thought girls were stupid, I have come to understand that really, it comes from more of a benign and congnitively youthful void where "other people know things that I don't" and "sometimes things don't make sense to me because there are things I am not yet aware of"
and this can be directed towards anyone they haven't subconciously identified as a Wiser Authority
Such as a Girl
And actually now that I'm thinking about it, maybe that's part of the reason that people who are benignly (for lack of a better term) biased insist so strongly that they AREN'T, that race or gender or sexuality or religion has nothing to do with their behaviors
Because if "people who might know more than me" is an unspoken category that applies only to Professors, Guardians, Role Models, and Peers- and NONE of those hypothetical persons LOOKS like "girl", in their head, they aren't treating girls like they're dumb- they're treating girls THE EXACT SAME WAY they treat EVEYONE ELSE...... who isn't more intelligent.
No wonder they're always so blind to it! They're looking for a big solid block that says "BELIEF THAT WOMEN ARE STUPID", and they're COMPLETELY MISSING the big, empty hole where "BELEIEF THAT ANY WOMEN MIGHT KNOW MORE THAN ME" should go