Barbie

BSB. 23. Skincare enthusiast. #personal. I can only respond via inbox or PM, thanks!

[blksugarbarbie]

Ciao! Old habits never die... Anyone have any sugaring links for the Italy-Milan babes?

[blksugarbarbie]

Update

I haven't been "in my bag" lately. I feel like I've lost my vision and it's a bit disappointing but I'm willing to get back on track again. I got too comfortable and now I think my beau is a little too comfortable, as well. I don't know if it's possible to get back to my ultimate bad bitch ways but I'm being compassionate with myself because so much is occurring that I have no control of and completely shook up my world.

Learn from my mistakes. Don't become "easy". Always demand and express your worth.

I deserve the luxury and comfort I seek out in myself and in the world. So I'm going to get it!

Anyways. I hope you've all been well! I'm sorry for the silence. I am still in complete disbelief that we're going through a PANDEMIC, economic depression and revolution. Whew! How is everyone holding up?

[nomediocre]

@aliyahraey

[delafro]

10 Ways You Can Support Black Women

1. Stop slandering our natural features. Stop with the dark skin jokes. Stop with the natural hair jokes. Stop dehumanizing black women for our features. Black women–especially young black girls–internalize these “jokes” and grow to sincerely hate their blackness. Cut it out.

2. Respect our choices. All of them. You don’t have to like it but you need to respect it. If we choose to wear our natural hair, respect it. If we choose to wear weave, respect it. Stop chastising us for the choices we make for ourselves. Stop policing how we choose to live our lives. Let us be great. Gahdamn.

3. Stop with the respectability politics. You can’t say you love black women and then pick and choose which black women you’ll respect based on your standards. You still give a black woman respect regardless of how she chooses to live her life. You respect all black women because we are human just like you, not just the ones who wear natural hair, listen to erykah badu and shit.

4. No means no. If you approach a black woman and she says she’s not interested, oh my fucking god, my nigga, just leave her alone. Move on. Let it go. Please do not persist. Take the rejection gracefully. Don’t call her out name, don’t follow her, don’t assault her. Let her be. She doesn’t owe you an explanation. Her “no” is enough and you will deal my friend. 

5. LISTEN. Bruh, when black women are telling you something you’re doing is harming them, can you put your ego aside and just L I S T E N. Why is that your first reaction is to get defensive? If you love black women like you say you do, wouldn’t you want to know when you’re doing something harmful to them? Stop getting defensive every time a black woman calls out your misogynoir. Stop brushing that off as “bashing black men.” Stop calling black women “shea butter bitches” for calling out how you harm black women. Black women are just asking for empathy at the end of the day. That’s the least you can do.

6. Stop slut-shaming. Stop shaming black women for their sexuality. Stop calling black women “thots” and all kinds of hoes because her sex life is something YOU disagree with or because she presents herself in a way that conflicts with YOUR standards. Someone’s sexuality has nothing to do with you and you don’t have the right to police what a woman does with her body. Stop reducing a black woman’s worth because you don’t like what she does with HER body.

7. Understand that our identity intersects. Stop telling black women they have to “pick a side.” Black women aren’t black men or white women’s “side kicks.” We are our own people with our own unique struggle that, yes, may have similarities to BM’s and WW’s struggles, but is not identical to theirs. We are black and we are women. You can’t be an ally to black women and not be intersectional when our existence is the epitome of intersectionality. Black women don’t just experience racial violence, we experience gender violence as well. Stop insisting that we have to divide our identity down the middle to suit you.

8. Say something when you see black women being attacked. When you see black women being harassed online and offline, do something. Ya’ll gotta start holding each other accountable. Stop @-ing me telling me how terrible it is that I’m being attacked. @ ole dude who’s attacking me. Tell them to stop. Have my back. Intervene in the best possible way you can. Stop allowing the violence against black women to persist right in front of your eyes.

9. Please kill the “strong black woman” narrative. Placing this title on us constantly, denies us humanity. Black women aren’t allowed to be vulnerable like everyone else. We’re constantly told be strong or we’re written off as only angry and bitter. We’re told how we’re suppose to feel and how to respond to violence against us. Black women are humans. We laugh, we cry, we smile. We can’t be your idea of “strong” all the time.

10. Show up for black women. Black women consistently show up for everyone else but when it comes time for us, hardly anyone is there to be found. Police brutality doesn’t just happen to black men. Recognize it. Know the names of the many black female victims of state violence. Know their stories. Share their stories. Fight for them like you fight for Eric Garner, Tamir Rice, and Sean Bell. Fight for black women like black women fight for you. Organize and show up for black women. Stop leaving us hanging. Stop expecting our support and giving us little to none in return.

[blksugarbarbie]

Update

I've been off grid for the purpose of securing a marketing job at a top state medical school which I'm glad to finally say, I did. (I start Monday) 🤑

[cultof-aphrodite]

coa.✨

[blksugarbarbie]

Sooo... I have a SD

Went out with my SB friend and she was with her SD! Thank God I was dressed cause phew! The night went exceptionally well. My friend fell asleep (drunk) so we had to let her rest in the car and then he tells me how he thinks I'm extremely beautiful and hot and would like to arrange to meet me. I made him shoot a number and then gave my rate ($200 more) and he agreed to it! I also told him I'd want to go on dates + cash, and next I see him I'll ask for shopping trips too 😇

BUT THE SOMEWHAT BAD NEWS

I'm already dating a guy who isn't a sugar daddy, but provides for me. And it's not even bc I like him but last time I tried to have multiple sex partners, my body rejected that shit. And I don't want to put myself through that stress again so I'm having to either drop someone or find a way to space this shit out. Health is #1, always. Period.

ANYWAYS. I'm so surprised honestly at how easy it was too arrange! I think he's a dominant type so it even works with my personality bc I'm naturally shy and """""submissive""""" looking. He's so big though. Like body builder big. And bald. But he's cute (not my type but it can be lol) Took awhile but I finally sealed a deal!

[goodbyeeveryonee-deactivated202]

The law of attraction is so real. I swear, once you establish yourself as powerful, or strong, or independent, or business minded, people like you will flock your way out of nowhere. And it’s just the universe reminding you that when you can see something beautiful in yourself, others can see it and admire it as well.

[toinialweendo-deactivated202304]

[trend-spotting]

[blksugarbarbie]

Update

I attracted this POT who is an exec and drives a Tesla (not that any of that solidifies anything, but just to give y'all perspective) I have his LinkedIn and everything and he's been begging to go on a date with me. I don't know, men right now are just exhausting. I'm not in any mood to entertain or bat my eyes. I feel like I need a moment to re-strategize. Where are the self-care posts at? I need a year to recover.

[luhhdetails]

[howaboutsugar]

Sugar baby profile writing tips

Hello Y’all, Had a good day today (shopping!) so I decided to give you some tips on profile writing.

English is not my first language, hence I will not give you much ‘technical’ tips, but I’ll focus more on the content of your profile. 

The obvious

1. On SA there is a section “about me” and “what I’m looking for” -or something along those lines. Make sure that what you write under those headings is relevant. I see way too many saying under ‘what I’m looking for” ; ‘see the above’… there is a reason why SA has two headings. 

2. Write coherent and with correct grammar (no slang). If English is not your first language, check it multiple times and maybe just sleep and re-read it the day after. Using correct and appropriate language directly sets a more intelligent tone. 

Although I first didn’t want to include the above point, until I saw this profile: I’m fabulous…I’m an incredible dresser, I’ve got buckets of sexiness, I’m a hoot and a half and I got a killer……… lol I love to laugh & smile, A sassy socialista well known for her silver tongue. Oh & the genius behind, I’m a Straight Talkin’, Fun Lovin’, Ass Kickin’, Inspirin’ COACHin’ Chic, Conductin the 2 Thumbs Up POSSIBILITY Band! LIFE OF THIS PARTY…and yh, the obvious….. i love “it”!..YOU KNOW WHAT INNIT?. I’m really a giant cupcake. Afraid of roller coasters and dry ice. enough about me there!

(sorry if you are on tumblr, again these are just my opinions)

3. Write more than a paragraph. It is not inviting to say: If you want to find out more about me; just send an e-mail :). I saw this waaay to many times. Firstly if you don’t take time to write a decent profile, why should a guy bother to e-mail you? And secondly why would the guy e-mail you if he has no idea what you are all about? 

4. Don’t use the same word over and over again. Try to use specific vocabulary. Inspired by this profile: 

I am a very educated and very beautiful ebony princess.i have a very fit body and boundless energy.love fine dining,dancing,movies.i have some very unique ideas on how to have a great relationship with my daddie

very very nice, not? 

5. DON’T, absolute don’t use words such as ‘spoiling’ and ‘princess’ etc. it’s just a huge turn-off. 

My tips on writing a good profile

1. Be specific about yourself. I see way too many profiles saying “I love fine dining, shopping, travelling, cooking, masturbating, excersising”. OK, the masturbation was a joke, but you get what I mean right? A lot of girls put what they like without elaborating on it. A small explanation will better convey your personality than listing. It’s better to write about one thing in detail, than listing 10 things. 

Example. Travelling has always been a huge passion and a natural part of my life. When I was younger I developed a great interest in learning about people’s habits and language, since it’s truly fascinating to learn about other cultures. My favorite country is Thailand, I fell in love with the perfect beaches and the friendly people.. and would of course love to return some time ;) 

A profile should be about YOU, not what you want to do with your sugar daddy, or what you have on your shopping list. Write what you like, what you like to do what your future plan is. 

Topics to write about 

Education. Ladies, if you are studying; mention what you study and why you have chosen it/why you like it. 

Travel. Be specific, what countries do you like, or what countries would you like to visit. 

Music/Art/Drama. A lot of wealthy men love the arts. Do you dance? Great! Mention what style. Do you paint/draw/etc? Awesome! Write what art genre you love, and what your inspirations are. 

Future. What are your ambitions? SD’s love passionate Sugar babbies. Tell about your role models/inspirations as well. 

Any other hobby/important event in your life that reflects who you are.

BE UNIQUE!

2. Write three paragraphs on three different subjects each. Don’t put one big chunk of text, this doesn’t invite someone to read it. Mine is structured as; background, education, traveling. 

3. Don’t say anything negative about yourself. Not even if you want to make a joke that you are not such a good cook. You never now how a potential sugar daddy may intepret this, nor do you know if he gets the joke. 

4. Don’t be afraid to show your personality. Don’t think that you will attract more men by keeping your profile generic. You can never make EVERYONE like you. Therefore there will always be men who will like your profile and men who won’t like you. 

On ‘what I’m looking for’ 

1. Be honest. Say what you are looking for in a subtle manner. However exclude saying things such as; I’m a virgin or I’m looking for X $ a month. Don’t talk sex, don’t talk money. Just honestly say how you would imagine a perfect arrangement. 

Again be specific. Don’t list! 

Don’t: We could go together for dinner, cinema, spa, holiday, cooking, clubbing

Do: In a perfect arrangement we would do things together that we both enjoy. I love to go fine dining, and am a huge fan of the Italian cuisine, while at the same time I really like to explore local restaurants as well. For some change I always enjoy going to the beach and having an early lunch near the sea. 

2. Don’t be too demanding, and don’t be negative. Know what to include and exclude

I know you are looking for a men that will respect your time/body/ whatever, but what is the use of mentioning that? Unrespectful men will not be scared away by that. Similarly don’t begin with “Only wealthy men please!” this has the same effect as when men say “Only attractive people please!” it’s really inappropriate. Just don’t say any negative conditions. However you can say that for example you are only looking for an SD under 50 (if you definitely have an age limit). Just make it subtle. 

3. Use correct pronouns

Don’t; I would love to go with my SD on short trips during the weekend

Do: I would love to go with you on short trips during the weekend

I think that was it for now. I’ll probably edit it or post a part two, since I have so many more tips! But now I’m tired from typing ;) 

THESE ARE MY VIEWS! THIS IS NOT OBJECTIVE FACTUAL INFORMATION. Take from it what you like :)

Good luck!

[madeofwhitebone]

The need to relax

[modedamour]

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[blksugarbarbie]

HBD to Me!

It's my birthday today 🥳 excited for 22! Here's to abundance, wealth, stability and growth! If you're feeling generous, buy me a drink ;) $sobarbs… but trust and believe the continuous support and well wishes are appreciated. Thanks everyone for following my journey and being so kind! I'll be off for awhile because I'm preparing for a trip to Colorado.

Talk later! Have a wonderful day :)

[beneficeduvagin-deactivated2019]

How do you sugar on LinkedIn? You said you’ll answer on March🥺

(hugs) I got 28 days left fam lol. Alright, (pulls the computer) I’ll tell you in summary. The key to sugaring on LinkedIn is to comment and share posts. 

Example: 

Anthony Weisser: One of the things I can’t stand about having millennial employees, the one headphone in the ear. It’s rude, unprofessional and not productive. 

Me: As a millennial, I put my headphones on at work to zone into my projects. I find that music tends to isolate my mind from sudden distractions. For example, the woman who hums and breathes loudly, the man who has to slam every draw to find his documents or the worker who has been on the phone for 35 minutes and is loudly speaking about personal information. Is it unprofessional because they are not completing their tasks or due to it not being your productive habit? (The concept of using an open-ended question to provoke an explanation)

That’s the secret. I debate these men and it leads to them wanting to f**k me or meet me in person. It’s similar to my technique on Instagram just more uniformed.  Majority of the men I’ve spoken to on LinkedIn privately messaged me to have coffee with me or connect at a mutual event.