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[blackfemininity]

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[asiansiren]

F*ck Him: Nice Girls Always Finish Single

Summary: 

A high-value woman knows her way around men, regardless of whether or not she’s good looking. 

High-value women repel bad men, or men who won’t bring anything to the table in a relationship.

Men are repelled by the ‘nice girl’ or ‘good girl’ because:

She’s looking for the one, and she thinks she’s found him in her new partner.

She’s led by the belief to accept less than exemplary behavior in hopes that he will one day change (not happening).

She tries to impress him, often overcompensating by being overly nice and appeasing, driven by the belief that she’s not worth enough. It should be the other way around.

Your actions define how valuable you are.

Never seek a man’s approval.

Never let a man call all the shots.

The high-value woman doesn’t play games. She considers herself to be a prize, one he needs to chase after.

High value women have more important things to do than to chase after a man, regardless of whether it’s mundane or not.

Mental fucking:

Two important rules to remember: 

Never share your body with him too soon. You will fall in love too hard, and way too soon.

Mentally fuck him as soon as you can: creating a challenge will force him to look past your looks.

First impressions are critical towards cultivating the impression of high value.

If you want him to treat you like a queen, act like a queen right out of the gate.

How to mentally fuck a guy:

Decide what you feel are just feelings, which come and go, rather than falling head over heels for him.

Want a relationship, but not just any relationship. Be happy to stay single for as long as necessary.

Neediness comes from natural instincts.

You never need a man or a relationship.

She consciously wonders, “Is this the best guy to give my time to?”

“If this guy never changed, would I really want to be with him ten or twenty years from now?”

She knows she doesn’t need her looks to get a great guy.

Setting the rules:

After the first date, she doesn’t reach out. She’s busy with her life.

She’ll see when and if she contacts her again. She isn’t willing to spend time on a guy who isn’t putting in the work she deserves.

She never behaves like a bitch. Instead, she has a take it or leave it mentality.

The first couple weeks of interaction set the stage.

Whatever is set is difficult to change later. Create the right habits as soon as you can.

For ambitious men who want success, they work for what they want:

That’s why high-value women are so attractive. Her standards are not an act. It is the only acceptable way.

Three most important traits:

She’s a queen, and she has a lot of self-respect, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

He is not the center of her life.

She never, ever pursues him. If he seems to lose interest, she withdraws. She has better things to do. 

Managing men:

Is he playing games?

When he says he’ll call and doesn’t - this places the ball in his court.

Right way to respond: don’t care. Don’t even become fazed when he steps back. 

You can find a guy who cares and does better.

Creating distance by disappearing.

Right way to respond: Put energy into your passions, interests, and other men you start dating.

Men who are not sufficiently interested will disappear.

Claiming he’s not ready for a relationship: a phrase used to create space and lead women on.

Right way to respond: Say, “Take all the time you need. I’m not sure about you either.” 

Respond with low investment by even lower investment. 

Never consider him nor the relationship as important as he does. 

Counter-intuitive way of getting him to do what you want: 

Give him the feeling it was his own decision. If he comes to the conclusion, he will stand by it.

Reinforce good behavior. Ignore him when he shows bad behavior. Consider him less important.

Ignore him when he doesn’t add value to your life to train him. 

If you want a man to do something, ask another man to help you, or tell him you’ll take care of it.

Men are governed by their own egos.

The more you need him, the less he will want you. The more you want him, the more he will need you.

Don’t show him you need him. Have extra activities, so he won’t become the center of your life.

Work on your mental strength. The more you try not to lose him because you need him, the higher the probability he will eventually leave.

Ideal praise to criticism ratio in relationships is 5 to 1.

Avoid getting played:

High-value women are in short supply. Make men earn your attention.

Your emotions are never to be trusted.

Establish a strong set of boundaries. 

Self-respect is #1. 

Men always treat you the way you allow to. They cannot respect a woman more than she respects herself. 

When his attention declines: do the same and withdraw.

A man should never, ever be totally sure that you unconditionally love him. For if he is, he will move on to the next item in his hierarchy of needs.

[jwstudying]

SELF CARE CHEAT SHEET!!

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feel better masterpost

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6 ab moves 

hair oil benefits

what is your acne telling you? | another useful post about acne

headaches

masterpost for rough times

the sex ed your parents didn’t give you

head to toe self care

blow job tips | compilation of sex tips 

limits of the human body

when to change your toothbrush, workouts etc

useful hoe tips | more +

love yourself

“how to make love”

shaving your vagina

foods that fix everything

22 less difficult ways to practise self care

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superhero workouts | lose 500 calories at home

bad habits and how to break them

stop biting nails

stop procrastinating 

stop skipping breakfast

stretches to improve every aspect of your body

stop cracking knuckles

stop falling asleep late 

list of stress relievers

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morning yoga

hair masterpost

self care masterpost

period hacks | alleviate menstrual cramps

sounds to soothe anxiety | another tip | panic attacks | calming down

things to do when you’re scared, anxious | reduce anxiety

self help for anxiety

what to eat before you run

how to get ahead in life

self care infographic 

study guide for health (basic first aid, healthy hobbies etc)

a+ self care advice | more lovely advice

coping skills

get rid of negative self talk

feeling sad? | not having a good day? | if anyone is sad | feeling anxious for school? | in case you’re having a bad night | unfuck tomorrow morning

study food

health life hacks

what to do with food poisoning

self talk to end obsessions

self care ideas/tips

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[rihannasworld]

[gagosianwife-deactivated2019120]

My Mother taught me from a young age to never be embarrassed. If you’re afraid of bumping into someone, looking badly, or awkward moments— she insisted it’s much more embarrassing for the other person. See your ugly ex at the grocery store? It’s awkward for them, not you. You made a scene at the nail salon because your nails are nothing like the pic you brought? Humiliating for them bc they need to do better. Learning a technical skill in a group of people? That group of people are shitting their pants! This advice boosted my confidence and trained me to be unapologetic in who I am. Eliminate all fear from your being. The more accepting you are, the more the world opens up to you and opportunities come your way!

[caramelperfection]

Taking notes. 🙏🏽

[yasputa]

I stopped sending paragraphs, stopped begging, I stopped telling people how to treat me, and started walking away, blocking, and distancing myself. Life may be lonely, but it’s becoming peaceful. Sometimes being alone in life is better than being surrounded by halfass people.

[allicisdollasigns]

[sexwitsockson]

LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[wilwheaton]

[luckyluxlady-deactivated2021043]

Needed this with the amount of fucking admin work I do

[alaiaispapa]

“Look at you. You’re young. And you’re scared. Why are you so scared? Stop being paralyzed. Stop swallowing your words. Stop caring what other people think. Wear what you want. Say what you want. Listen to the music you want to listen to. Play it loud as fuck and dance to it. Go out for a drive at midnight and forget that you have school the next day. Stop waiting for Friday. Live now. Do it now. Take risks. Tell secrets. This life is yours. When are you going to realize that you can do whatever you want?”

— Louise Flory (via exoticwild)

[yourbigsisnissi]

You have to learn how to say no without you feeling like you’re being mean. Setting boundaries is how you see who does and doesn’t respect you, your time, or your emotional well-being. Anyone who sees your boundaries and thinks your being mean or tries to push that boundaries is not a person you owe your time or attention.

[ehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhd-blog]

When a man asks you about an ideal arrangement:

Well, good question. My ideal arrangement is where we are both comfortable with each other. You get a bit of what you want  and I get a bit of what I want. You get to be with a sexy, romantic, vibrant, mature, and (sexual girl) who’s also charismatic, and intelligent, etc and I get to be with a man who is willing to provide financial need in my life. I want to feel like a queen and a man who can invest in me is a keeper in my book. I am open to intimacy eventually. I am happy with per meet or monthly allowances. I do like cash though. I am happy per meet when we are platonic, and then when intimacy is involve and you see my sexual side, I am happy for a monthly allowance (of course money raised). I have been doing this for a good amount of time to know what I want. Per meet, I am totally comfortable of minimum _____. I would like to know if you are willing to let me see other men because if so, then monthly will just be doubled but if not monthly will be around ____. (Remember the more you invest in me, the more luxurious I can be for you and the more “prettier” I can be ;).

[makeitrainsugar]

Hi how do you usually go about approaching men free-styling? At what point do you bring up allowances/ ask for gifts? Feel free not to answer these questions if it's too invasive etc Also I really admire you speaking out about the whole issue with underage girls! Hope you're alright x

 It’s not invasive- this is the kind of question I have no problem answering, thank you for being polite.

 Honestly, men usually approach me whilst freestyling, I’ve never had to do the chasing. But if you have your eye on someone, it won’t hurt to sit by them and strike up a conversation.

 Choose men who seem to be alone and are not busy on their phone or iPad.

 During the conversation, I usually take it slowly in steps. I ask what they do for a living, which will give me an idea of their income. I say that I’m a young student who is still figuring things out.

 I ask them about their relationships and say something like: “So, do you enjoy spoiling your girlfriends?” In a teasing way.

 If, by this point, they’ve been standoffish about talking about their profession and they avoid the ‘spoiling’ question, you’re probably not going to get a lot out of them.

 Some men have asked me straight up: “So, what’ll it cost me to meet with you again?” Or, if I mention something I like and lament about how I can’t afford it right now, they’ll offer to buy it for me.

 Once I used the line: “Maybe you could take me shopping sometime and treat me. I value the opinion of handsome men.” And let me tell you, it worked like a charm.

[brown-sugaah-deactivated2015100]

SB Banking Tips

Banking seems to be a common trouble spot sugar babies. I’ll share some of my tips for making cash deposits and what types of accounts are most beneficial for sugar babies.

Info

-The bank is required to automatically flag any deposit over $10,000.

-If you deposit $2,000 five times in one day, you’ll still get flagged.

-Any deposit the bank deems to be suspicious will be flagged.

-You only report interest paid to the IRS if your account is interest bearing. This means, if you have a savings account or an interest bearing checking account, you will accrue interest and must report this on your taxes.

-Most accounts require the owner to have a certain amount of money in the account or a penalty must be paid. Some banks will let you set up alerts to guard against this.

-Any one person may give you a gift of $14,000 per year without having to pay a gift tax.

-The giver of the gift is responsible to pay the gift tax, not the receiver. However, arrangements can be made if necessary.

-If you have cash that you don’t want to deposit, get a safe. A really, really good safe. One that is fire proof, water proof, etc. You don’t want your hard earned money to go to waste.

Tips

-Set up accounts at multiple banks. Banks do not communicate with one another and this allows you to make smaller deposits more frequently.

-Do not deposit the same exact amount each time.

-Mix the deposits. In some cases, I will deposit cash and personal checks not related to sugaring.

-Look like you have money. I always dress nicely, have my makeup done, wear some jewelry. If you are dressed in sweats and UGGs, it may seem a bit suspicious.

-Visit the same branch and make friends with the tellers. Always be polite, chatty, and smile. They will get to know you as a regular customer and trust you. If they know you regularly make larger deposits, they won’t be suspicious.

-Find banks that have ATMs that will immediately deposit your cash. I know newer PNC banks have these ATMs. This allows you to make deposits after hours and no teller is present. These transactions are not flagged unless they exceed the $10,000 limit.

[amberscaliforniasugar-blog]

This is exactly what I needed! I’ve been keeping all of my escort money in a big sunglasses case in my underwear drawer until I get a safe. I’ve been so scared to deposit funds into my bank account because I don’t want to get flagged but I can’t fit my money in this big ass case anymore and it’s just stupid to keep several thousand dollars like that.

Every sex worker needs to read AND share this.

[tlcbaby]

DAMN I NEEDED THIS

[couturesugarxo-deactivated20200]

How to drain his bank account without him noticing

This little message once comfortable with a POT or SD will have you your own ATM without him noticing. I had to dig it up but I found it and improvised it.

“I’m not looking to drain your bank account. As much as I appreciate your generosity I like my partner to be spoiled as well. I like a man who takes pride and up keeps with his appearance, indulges in travel and genuinely enjoys trying new things. I like a man I can keep on his toes, can you keep up?”

GIRLLLLLLL let me tell you what this message has done for me. Once, a duo shopping trip in which he was splurging on me while trying to update HIMSELF to keep up. With another SD, I said baby I want to go back to LA and he was right behind the idea. Everything booked in a week. Anything you want him to do, he’ll always like your spark of new ideas. Make yourself seem fun, spontaneous, adventurous. Always pop up with new ideas, let’s go here, let’s do this! But the way you word it is KEY. Make it sound like it is something for the two of you, not for you. He’ll never know, good luck ladies.

[thesugaringescort]

100 "Non-Allowance" Questions to ask your Pot or SD:

A few examples, and in no particular order:

1. What has influenced your decision to want an SB?

2. How long have you been searching for one, and which sites did you use?

3. Have you had any negative experiences with Sugaring? Either in your search for one, or in your previous arrangement?

4. Are there people that you don’t like? What characteristics was it about them, that you didn’t like/enjoy?

5. Where do you consider to be good places for an SD/SB to be romantic?

6. What are some ways that you get embarrassed in public?

7. Are you ever bored? What type of people bore you?

8. What are good leisure activities that you would like for us to try together?

9. Are you okay with me dating others while we are in an arrangement?

10. What is your definition of emotional intimacy?

11. Where and when did you meet your wife/girlfriend? What drew you to her?

12. What sort of future financial plans and goals do you have?

13. What is your biggest goal in starting an arrangement?

14. Have you thought about the ramifications of your actions on your family, co-workers and friends?

15. Tell me what precautions you are going to take to ensure that our arrangement is kept private?

16. What you would do if we ran into someone either of us knew, while out together?

17. What would you want me to do?

18. What are the most important things in life? What do you value?

19. What questions would you like me to answer?

20. What are your bad/good habits?

21. What is your opinion of me being a different nationality or following different religious briefs than yours?

22. What would you do to leave a positive impression on our first date? And future dates?

23. What would your perfect arrangement consist of?

24. What is your opinion of us abstaining from sexual intimacy within our arrangement, even though I am not a virgin?

25. Can you explain to me how a Sugaring arrangement is different than a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship?

26. Do you believe that its possible to have emotional intimacy without physical intimacy?

27. Do you still have feelings for an ex, wife, girlfriend or previous SB?

28. How long did your previous arrangement/relationship last?

29. Do you regret any of those intimate experiences with that person?

30. What are your expectations of intimacy and sexual relations with me? How do they differ from your previous SB etc.

31. Should I be fearful, jealous or envious of any of your previous arrangements, and the different opportunities that you have shared with them?

32. Do you usually follow your heart or your head?

33. What is your opinion about me hanging out with other Sugar Babies and their SD’s, or in places that SD’s frequent?

34. Do you think that someone’s past matters in a current arrangement?

35. How would you react if I told you that I can not meet your daily needs for communication?

36. Do you believe in privacy, even while being open with each other in an arrangement?

37. Do you have any opinions about me working a part time job? What if it takes my time away from you?

38. Do you have any hobbies that you’d like for us to share?

39. Have you ever experimented with legal/illegal drugs? Do you currently?

40. Do you have children? What do you think the impact would be on them if our arrangement was made public?

41. What communication methods do you prefer? What are the most private and effect modes?

42. What is something weird about you, or that you’re afraid to tell me?

43. Tell me something about your work, that isn’t common knowledge.

44. If your friends or co-workers don’t like me for some reason, is that a deal breaker?

45. Have you ever had a one night stand? If you did, do you regret it? Would you do it again if you knew you wouldn’t get caught?

46. How long would your ideal arrangement last?

47. Do you have a criminal record, or any contraction of diseases?

48. I don’t, but would it change your opinion of me if I had one?

49. Are you willing to lose time from your family and friends, in order to see me?

50. How did you discover Sugaring?

51. Do any of your friends have Sugar Babies?

52. What do you think about continuing the search for an Sd/SB, after you’ve recently started an arrangement with one?

53. Do you think love within an arrangement is possible?

54. If your job (or wife) started to have a negative impact on our arrangement, what would you do?

55. How do you handle feelings of jealousy or resentment?

56. Do you have any regrets in life or in past arrangements?

57. What is your ideal vacation/weekend get away?

58. Will we be taking any together?

59. What are your expectations of my free time and our time spent together?

60. If you are allowed to do just one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?

61. What are some things that you take pride in?

62. What is the most difficult component for you, in an arrangement?

63. What happens if we exchange pictures, and down the road decide not to continue our arrangement? How will they be used, shared, kept or destroyed?

64. Would you be ok with me making plans with my friends, on a night that you are free to see me?

65. Will you be OK with me hanging out with you and your friends?

66. If you could change something about females in general, what would it be?

67. What is your opinion on the arts? Do you want to visit museums and galleries together?

68. Do you read the newspaper? How do you stay up on current events?

69. What are you looking for in the long term and short term?

70. If you had three Sugaring rules, what would they be?

71. Which aspect to Sugaring scares you or makes you the most nervous?

72. Are you typically late to events and dates, or end up rescheduling at the last minute?

73. Who has been the most influential person for you so far in life?

74. What are some places that we will definitely need to avoid being seen together?

75. What are some places that we would be safe to visit/experience together?

76. What is the best advice you ever received?

77. What advice would you give to me, regarding Sugaring and life in general?

78. If you had a previous arrangement, why did it end?

79. Are you still friends with that person?

80. Without getting too personal, what were some good moments in that relationship?

81. What were some of the craziest things that you’ve done with her? And some of the sweetest?

82. What will you have accomplished at work one year from now and within our arrangement?

83. If you/we could go on a road trip where would you chose to go? Would I have a say or just be expected to come along on a whim?

84. Are you prepared to respect, and are you comfortable with accepting my school and study schedule?

85. Have you thought about using code names, or certain apps that will keep our communication/contact private?

86. Can you tell me 3 good points about me?

87. What are your expectations of me in our arrangement?

88. What happens if I can not agree or live up to all of them?

89. Have you ever wanted something really bad and then later, not so much? Do you get discouraged easily?

90. Is there anything I could do to make you think that I am an ungrateful or selfish person?

91. What would you do if our communication and dates were limited to set days and periods of times during the day/week/month?

92. Do you like to go window shopping, or are you the type who needs to buy an item?

93. After I had asked you for our first date, was there any part of you that wanted to say no? Why?

94. What are some activities or places, that you would like to do/go on for dates that you haven’t been before?

95. What are your views on open arrangements? Do you know what an open relationship is?

96. What are your future/5 year plans with your wife or girlfriend? Maybe more kids, more travelling etc. How can I help you to achieve this?

97. Is money more important to you or are the relationships you share with people more important?

98. What are some things that you are either passionate about, or anger you?

99. Do you believe that long distance arrangements can work? What about those that are not long in distance but long in the duration between dates?

100. What are your thoughts relating to Sugar Babies as Sex Workers?

This isn’t an end-all-be-all list, as it would go on and on forever…but rather just an idea to get the ball rolling.

Please add on if you want!

[sashaavelour]

[fucklovepayme]

i 100% stand by this. 

[blacksugaruniverse-deactivated2]

Bianca Del Rio is my MOTHA FUCKIN QUEEN

[theeffbbcc]

Everything Bianca Del Rio says is ICONIC and relevant.

[a-philanthropistswife]

Love Bianca.

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