The Blowess

20, female, submissive to men, vanilla with women. pro sub prostitute in person. Literotica: PerishablePeach. 🇺🇲🎀🌻🦋✨🔞

[blowess]

New to sub Tumblr! 💝💅🏼 I'm here to be soft and sweet and share my secret fantasies. I hope they're pleasing to you too 😘🥰

[faeboypussy]

Bit of advice to anyone who is new to kink or even just sex: assume "no", "stop", "too much", "wait" etc are safewords unless you specifically negotiate otherwise.

You can play with "no no it's too much stop" type stuff being banter or dirty talk or whatever, but you shouldn't assume they are. Yes even if you set a safeword and you or the other person isn't using it.

Also: getting quiet or not very responsive is a reason to check in. Someone not being able to give you a clear "yes I'm having fun let's keep going" or seeming a bit off is a reason to stop when you do check in, especially when they're a new partner.. You can't just assume things are fine bc they haven't said the safeword.

Safewords should be extra measures to ensure ongoing consent, not the only measure.

[quiet-plaything]

yeah yeah yeah misbehaving brat to obedient sub pipeline but what about the eager “yes yes i can do it” sub to the begging “no no more please i can’t” broken toy speedrun

[blowess]

I shrugged whenever people would warn me "something bad's going to happen!" - what can I even do about that? And everyone I'd seen for pay was totally sweet to me and never hurt me. The danger seemed exaggerated. I almost didn't believe it.

Last week changed things. I missed two days of class in the ER, too drowsy to function and emotionally scarred, upon being dr*gged and r*ped by a client. (And I don't mean "dragged and roped.")

The evening I got out, I went with a different client I'd had scheduled for a while - and I couldn't help but let the tears out. Thankfully, he understood and was totally still willing to have my company and sex that night. That made me feel a lot better, like I was finally getting back to normal.

I promised myself I wouldn't let the incident ruin me. I still want to show men sweetness and appreciation and find joy in it. Nothing will change that 💖🙏🏼

[beckywokerson]

Pornography commodifies women for the man's pleasure. They are a product that is being sold. This, inadvertently, objectifies all women and gives them a ‘price’.

[blowess]

Not true!!! I am not a product being sold - I am a person hired for a service, much like hiring someone for a massage or a haircut.

[slayiconicgirlbossqueen]

Text:

“Sex for money is by its very nature an act of coercion. If you have to pay someone, it means they don’t want to have sex with you.”

-Lisa Thompson, National Center on Sexual Exploitation

[blowess]

A client is someone I usually wouldn't pick as a sexual partner out of my own desires, but I'm willing to serve for money. Nobody's coercing me into accepting these transactions, and I'm still able to say no.

[blowess]

This got me worried for a moment thinking a Dom passed away 😭🙈

[blowess]

Radfems' syllogism: Labor is coercive when people must work to survive. Coerced sex is rape. Therefore, sex work is rape.

Here's what's wrong with that.

The coercion in "labor is coercive" and the coercion in "coerced sex is rape" aren't referring to the same thing. There's a difference between feeling indirectly "coerced" to work to survive and being directly coerced into an act of labor. (Otherwise, "coerced labor," as in indentured servitude, wouldn't be a distinct issue, just a tautology for all labor.)

Sexual coercion occurs when something you're already entitled to - privacy, physical safety, a grade you've earned, a job position you've earned - is directly withheld until you agrees to a sexual favor. This can't be fair consent. Nobody has the right to threaten you like this.

A very different matter is a sexual transaction - exchanging sex for something you're not already entitled to. I'm not entitled to hundreds of dollars from any man in particular. But we agree that he gets sex he otherwise would not receive, and I get money I otherwise would not receive. Where is the violation of consent there?

[dear-shaun]

Listen. All I'm saying is if decades of step-sibling/step-parent porn on the biggest porn sites hasn't normalized fucking your family members then we don't need to worry about some random fanfic for a fandom that died ten years ago.

[unclefather]

anyone would be lucky to date me. i was “a pleasure to have in class”

Women should all start weightlifting and stop listening to self sabotaging rhetoric about being inherently fragile and helpless

[rad-birch]

https://mennohenselmans.com/natural-muscular-potential-women/

Here’s a great article on where to start.

The natural muscular potential of women

What can you achieve as a female lifter? There seem to be only 2 camps. The general public thinks a woman that touches a loaded barbell will

Summary: “Most women are intuitively aware of their strengths in the gym, but they are often told to train like men. As a result, they don’t fulfill their athletic potential. Strong male trainees often instinctively do high intensity training and avoid sets with more than 12 reps. Women are naturally much more inclined to do steady-state cardio, lift with a more controlled tempo, perform higher reps, take shorter rest periods and do more total work (the serious women at least). These are good instincts. Through millions of years of evolution, women have become better adapted to training that is closer to the endurance spectrum than men. Use it to your advantage.”

[diagnalley]

“Women gain the same percentage of muscle mass as men during strength training. In fact, women gain as much size and sometimes more strength than men. The only difference is the starting point. Men start off with more muscle mass and more strength, but the relative increase in muscle size is the same between men and women. […] Testosterone is not needed for muscle development in women.”

[blowess]

advice to young women hoeing on the internet for fun:

 • if a stranger claiming to be female pursues you sexually, get verification that you're actually talking to a fellow woman before you reciprocate. it feels horrible to be talking intimately to someone under such false pretenses - to think you're finally getting to enjoy a woman but nope just another man. a good way to check is a live face pic with a specific request like an unusual combination of fingers held up.

 • nobody is going to pay real-life sugar baby rates (i.e. hundreds of dollars) for a completely virtual arrangement. a man with serious money to spend on his sexual needs has more reliable cost-appropriate ways to satisfy them

 • if you were to get such an offer, then to be certain you're not giving away content for free, it would make sense to ask for a deposit upfront. but internet strangers would be right to be suspicious that you could take the money and run. that's why it makes sense to contact a known online sexual content creator to satisfy such requests - she has a reputation to maintain and a fanbase to gain! but will they? the population that gets a thrill out of getting "normal" girls to do stuff for them they wouldn't otherwise do seems to overlap quite a bit with the population that looks down on paid sexual transactions. of course it's unlikely that they'll follow through. if you wouldn't dare do the requested act for them for free, i suggest not bothering

 • people threatening you with sharing your intimate pics or worse is inexcusable predatory behavior. but at the same time, don't let it intimidate you. think, what's more likely: someone wants stuff from you as an individual so badly that he's willing to commit a crime over it, especially AFTER you've cut contact with him? or that he just wants to strike fear in you to satisfy his sadistic streak and make sure he gets what he wants? it is very unlikely that the stress will continue if you block him and very likely that it will continue if you give in.

 • oh yeah and IP address alone is pretty worthless. oh spooky you know what part of the state I'm in! oh no you've narrowed it down to a major metropolitan area! if that were so terrible, there wouldn't be whole face-out OnlyFans creators specifying where in the world they are. if i lived in New Zealand and said so, that would narrow down my location more than saying the US state I live in. sure it's better to be safe than sorry, but don't let vague "i know where you are!" threats have power if it's just one piece of info and you're keeping the more important stuff secure

 • it's really sweet that you can meet people from different backgrounds. don't take that for granted. learn about what makes their culture different from yours. learn what you share from your upbringing despite being so far apart. check in with them when you hear big news from their homeland. maybe even learn some naughty words from their language/dialect. this kind of learning and connection is part of the richness of life!

 • have the courage to admit to yourself what you don't actually like. maybe taking videos of yourself with toys feels like more work and not just sexy fun times. maybe you don't like calling random men Daddy. nothing has to be a package deal.

what else?

[justgirlythings]

Well… since a thread blew up on twitter about me being a lesbian I thought I’d officially just reintroduce myself to those of you who don’t know. My name’s Becky. I created this blog when I was 13 with the help of a few girls. Honestly, it was a joke that kind of blew up. Somehow I brought joy to girls and boys all across the world (”justgirlythings” but literally any man or woman could laugh/relate to this blog) and that’s all I really could’ve asked for when creating this. The above picture is me and my fiancée Chelsi. 

I’d like to thank you all for coming along on this journey with me for the past decade. 

[blowess]

I don't know what feminists are going on about regarding "female pleasure" being stigmatized and downplayed. Men are way more enthusiastic about pleasing women than women are about pleasing men. They just may not necessarily know how to do it in practice. And it doesn't help that there are so many videos of women dishonestly shouting and squealing more for the viewers' sake than their own.

[blowess]

What if instead of small penis humiliation, there was small penis praise? Like, me saying how much I adore a man's dainty precious angel cock. I can't bring myself to be mean. I just love being sweet.

[blowess]

I think advertising myself as a "sub" makes men think they can slap or choke me as hard as they can and I'm not going to reflexively respond like someone's trying to hurt or kill me... like sir I am still a human being. the product of human evolution. a creature with survival instincts.

[vanilla-voy]

hot concept: a boy eating me out on the bed and getting so turned on he grinds against the mattress while he does it