The first person I told was one of my best friends, when I was 14, on the line about to go into an alcohol-free club. I took her aside and I told her like it was nbd, like, “I made out with a girl”, and I was so happy that she reacted exactly the same as if I’d told her, “I made out with a boy”. She asked the same questions, like, “ and where did you meet her?” “And you like her?” “And you’re going to meet again?” I told my grandpa this summer. Goodness, I could eat him up. He said, “very good, baby, the market is so bad these days, so at least you’ll have an easier time finding someone who deserves you.”
Me too, with Irene Ferreiro
I’m Irene Ferreiro and I’m bisexual.
When you watch a series, you always have crushes. It started by watching Faking It and Orange Is the New Black. I liked this girl and I liked that other girl too, but it was like, “maybe I just admire her” or “maybe the storyline is so well written they made me fall in love with her without me wanting to,” I don’t know. Since I’d never liked a girl in person, in real life, I felt like a fake bisexual. But then, right, life places people in your life that happen to be girls who you’re attracted to and you find out that you really are bisexual.
I think that bisexuals are oppressed in two ways. Homophobia, because we’re part of the LGBT community, and then biphobia, which is the invisibilization and invalidation of our sexuality. There’s no shortage of myths… Such as us being unfaithful and promiscuous, I love that one. I’ve felt that people I’ve been with have actually felt threatened by anyone I had a friendship with, simply because that person is included in the group of people I can be attracted to. Something that people say a lot is that it’s a stage in your life, a phase, that you’ll have to make a decision and be either straight or gay. When it comes down to it, people are always questioning you and you end up questioning yourself. [Bisexuality] is not a transition to finding out your real sexuality. It’ll last our entire lives and if a bisexual person is in a long term relationship with a person of the same gender, they’re not gay, and same goes with a person of another gender.
People who aren’t bisexual are very curious about the percentages of girls and dudes you like, if it’s 50/50, if it changes with the season or if you decide, “today I’m only going to go for girls” or, “today I’m only going to go for dudes.” Every person is a world of their own and, basically, what I want is for [bisexuality] to be normalized, because it’s normal and everyone should realize that.
As a bi girl playing a bi girl on SKAM España, what I feel now is a lot of pressure, to be honest, because I’m all for Cris being a bicon and a referent and it’s exactly what I think we wanted to do with this. But I don’t want to be one, personally, I don’t want anyone to put me on a pedestal or to be anyone’s icon. I just want them to see me as representation.
I get lots of messages and it’s so cool for my job to also be useful to other people who might be going through a bad time or people whose day is simply a little better for seeing a character with their same sexuality, on the series they’re watching on their lunch time. I don’t know, I just think it’s so cool.
Source: freeda_es on Instagram.
