Sylvia (or May, during may. Relevant, now.)

It/She. I'm not white im part Irish! (I'm white). Feminist killjoy. (Please shower me with attention) TMA. Your older sister. pfp is stolen fom this: https://www.tumblr.com/worlds-gayest-woman/806029695213780992/warireku-adult-madohomu-madokas-birthday ...what? Its cute!

[bookyred]

I have a blue-sky now. probably won't use it but it exists, so if tumblr implodes, I get banned or something you can see me on there I guess? Don't know why anyone would though.

transfem. It/She. I like to be pretentious on the internet. (Please shower me with attention). pfpf is stolen fom this: https://www.tumb

I also have a noterook which I am making an effort to use. It's sylvia_red will only popup if you search it whilst my book is open though. I use it far more consistently than Bsky so. Yeah I'm on there I guess.

If you are here to debate the existence of the privilege TME trans people hold with me Read This and This. (I case it's not fucking clear, privilege for being TME, not for being trans. I specified trans bcs of the MRAs lol)

The second link there is more informative whilst the other is more 'beginner friendly' and does a better job explaining why I'm putting this on my pinned.

This is an amazing place to read. Like. Basically anything about transfeminism so I'm adding it to the pinned. It was all gathered by anonsee (currently storyweavingspider)

My discord is sylvia_red.

I am attempting to start using a tag: #Sylvia's best

My kink opinions and (kind of) analysis.

If you think "hyperinvisibility" is a unique transmasculine issue.

[thedeliaishere]

Goth tgirl with black lipstick where are you. Goth tgirl with black lipstick please bully me. Goth tgirl with black lipstick I love you

[bookyred]

One day I will use black lipstick. When I'm bolder… T~T

[bookyred]

Please person with That Torrent... Turn on your computer it's at 99.6%... Where did you go... I thought we had something...

[wayward-quartz]

[macabrekawaii]

Sailor Moon is so important

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

Feminine men existed and were part of the queer community long before people built an entire identity around a transmisogynistic slur. Having a problem with a culture based around the degendering fetishization of trans woman isn't "increasing binary expression".

If people had chosen shemale, trap or ladyboy instead of femboy as their new label I'd be arguing against those instead. Hell, tme people do call themselves traps, which is extra disgusting considering what that word implies.

Put on a fucking dress. Grow your hair out. Wear eyeliner, it looks great on everyone. I encourage it. Gender is a scam invented by bathroom sign companies.

But stop building an identity off fetishization of me and stop acting like I'm the problem for being upset by it.

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

I don't care if tme feelings are hurt by this btw. Find a better rebuttal.

[mousidy]

even if that random trans woman did do all that I don't care lol

[mousidy]

very funny that literally just riffing on a common tumblr joke about women, but with an especially marginalized group of women, has people months later coming to me like "oh yeah well what about what THIS trans woman you've never met did?" and the answer is still I don't care lol

[mousidy]

if I had posted the same thing without the word "trans" the population of this website would go "true" and then keep scrolling

[mousidy]

TMEs see the words "trans woman" and they fly into a bloodthirsty rage

[bookyred]

And then they turn it into one word for closure.

[bookyred]

Girl I think your friend should be dropped in a vat of acid.

Like genuinely can we think about this for one second?!?!

[fatestayyuri]

[shelbzxcupcakes]

Wanna be nosy? Here's your chance.

0: Height 1: Virgin? 2: Shoe size 3: Do you smoke? 4: Do you drink? 5: Do you take drugs? 6: Age you get mistaken for 7: Have tattoos? 8: Want any tattoos? 9: Got any piercings? 10: Want any piercings? 11: Best friend? 12: Relationship status 13: Biggest turn ons 14: Biggest turn offs 15: Favorite movie 16: I’ll love you if 17: Someone you miss 18: Most traumatic experience 19: A fact about your personality 20: What I hate most about myself 21: What I love most about myself 22: What I want to be when I get older 23: My relationship with my sibling(s) 24: My relationship with my parent(s) 25: My idea of a perfect date 26: My biggest pet peeves 27: A description of the girl/boy I like 28: A description of the person I dislike the most 29: A reason I’ve lied to a friend 30: What I hate the most about work/school 31: What your last text message says 32: What words upset me the most 33: What words make me feel the best about myself 34: What I find attractive in women 35: What I find attractive in men 36: Where I would like to live 37: One of my insecurities 38: My childhood career choice 39: My favorite ice cream flavor 40: Who wish I could be 41: Where I want to be right now 42: The last thing I ate 43: Sexiest person that comes to my mind immediately 44: A random fact about anything

[dorothylarouge]

[kayla-denker]

Here's what's going to happen: "Transandrophobia" is going to get picked up by and spread among "mainstream" tme "feminism" to become a widely accepted and normalized idea. It's already well on its way. Then in a few years some prominent tme "feminists" are gonna hear about transmisogyny and accuse us of "inventing a word to copy transmascs" and claim that "transmisogyny doesn't exist, that's just transphobia" and that is going to become the mainstream accepted narrative.

I know it, I can see it happening clear as day. And since 99.9999% of tme's don't give two flying fucks about trans women, there's nothing we can do to stop it.

[charlotte-in-scarlet]

reblog if someone should be groping you right now

[iancsamson]

Redo of a 2006 joke, and followup! That original joke is so dated nowadays! But glad Link 63 is still fun to draw and play with even now.

Original after the jump!

[sailatina3]

what is csm? i just tried to look it up but i cant get any info on it online

Chainsaw man

[bookyred]

No it's chocolate sex maid

[quantumshade]

also can’t get over that guy who said he WOULD just identify as a straight trans man but he doesn’t like straight women/thinks straight dating is “icky” so he identifies as a lesbian so he can date lesbians. how am i supposed to react to a guy saying that with his whole chest. what am i supposed to say to that

[quantumshade]

just saying if a trans woman did anything like this she would be called a predator or some sort of faker. remember how yall reacted to bi lesbians.

[bookyred]

No he's just homophobic and also probably bioessentialist.

[analog-delight]

question for the "trans men can be lesbians" crowd:

what word is there to communicate to others "I'm a woman who loves women"?

[ensignrobin]

hi sorry for using this short post as a jumping off point for a long one, but this sparked a lot of thoughts for me!

this is something that I wish people would take more seriously. I am a woman who loves women and no one else. that's my sexual orientation. I didn't pick it, it's just who I am.

there's currently no single word I can use to communicate that. when I say I'm lesbian, queer people consistently assume that I mean it in the most expansive way possible.

and no one wants to say it, but the reality of what's happening when people make those assumptions is that they hear the word "lesbian" and replace it with the word "bisexual." they think I'm attracted to all genders, even men, as long as they're the good kind (AFAB).

the problem with this, which should be obvious, is the misogyny. people don't want to accept that a woman could ever be satisfied by only loving other women. they have to squeeze other genders in there to make it make sense to them. and they have to push the limits of lesbianism to include people who are more and more in proximity to manhood until it's assumed as a matter of cour that lesbians are all attracted to men.

we're already very far down that road. I can't call myself a lesbian without having people make all kinds of wild and wrong assumptions about who I am and who I'm open to dating (which leads to sexual harassment and feeds into all other kinds of misogyny that women face from the rest of the queer community).

I don't know whether the right way to reduce the harm here is to push back on the idea that men can be lesbians, or to come up with a new word that specifically means women who love women, or both. If there's a new word then it'll be corrupted sooner or later. That's already happened with sapphic, and, incredibly, "WLW".

either way the situation leaves me with no sympathy for trans men who call themselves lesbians.

[ensignrobin]

oh and you (the reader) might think, why are trans women the ones who seem to have the strongest opinions about this? it's because everyone else sabotaged their misogyny radar (misogydar, if you will) when they decided to twist their feminism into knots in order to exclude us from it.

[mist-etc]

i agree entirely that queer people don't take this question seriously enough, but unfortunately a word that defines a woman who only loves women would not solve this problem.

all the words we have to describe 'sexual orientation' are descended from the diagnostic categories that a heterosexual and cisgender society used to define us as ill. those terms were then changed over time and redefined to become the vague boundaries of rights based social movements as we ourselves, the queer people who were categorized under them, engaged in social struggle. part of this redefinition was the idea that identity labels *do* have strict definitions and categorize people distinctly, but for the purpose of communicating our true and beautiful inner selves (which are of course completely categorizable) and sorting us into groups only with those who completely share the key traits that define our identities: some people were just born this way as women who only love women (itself a socially defined category...) and they must be categorized strictly in order to ensure that nothing and no-one gets mixed in somewhere where its not supposed to be (impositions which words and categories can surely protect us from). this was strategically crucial to the hugely important victories won by lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender rights movements under the traditional social organization we live under, but it is not a truthful or liberating model; it is a model built for compromise with a tyrannical, puritan society which in this case especially operates through the institutions of psychology and state power.

i don't think that model is what anyone needs. the words we use don't just exist as language for communication, they make possible understandings of what is and what can be. a diagnostic category makes a group of people real, and by grouping ourselves in these categories we restrict our agency in order to prioritize the agency of a system of categorization: a system of categorization which, as you've noted, is always malleable to the will of the powerful. in our gendered social hierarchy that means that men have an outsized influence on the definitions of identity categories: again, categories which not only are defined, but also define us in response. categories that we must actually live within.

besides, our experiences with people harassing us, assuming who we are and what we want, and imposing their will over our autonomy don't happen because we don't have the words to describe our exact identities to those around us, it is because we all live in a fundamentally misogynistic society. these things happen because we live in a society where, principally, men can impose their will over women through the exercise of brutal patriarchal power. to reach autonomy we must struggle to transform or destroy this social reality, not to rearrange the identity labels that form a part of it.

[thats-pretty-doggers]

Sincerely thank you for saying this mist-ect. I am a firm believer that we need to move away from labels-as-boxes. cis het society is all about boxes and it sucks fucking ass, we shouldnt be shoving ourselves into our own boxes in our efforts to get out of their boxes

[recoveredcombatsister]

so yalls solution to "how do i communicate that im a lesbian" is "abolish the concept of lesbianism"? get your shit together

[thats-pretty-doggers]

I did not say that. I said queer labels are not boxes that one needs to perfectly fit within, they are not carved in stone definitions. Queer labels mean different things to different folks and that is important and fine actually. To some lesbians "lesbian" means "I am exclusively attracted to women" and to some lesbians "lesbian" means "I have strong sapphic attraction to women" and both are fine definitions.

If you want to make absolutely certain your definition is the one you want to convey when you refer to yourself then state it. "I am exclusively lesbian" instantly conveys what you are wanting to say

[recoveredcombatsister]

you know its okay to call yourself bisexual right? you dont have to contort lesbian to fit around your attraction to trans men, you can just be bisexual

[thats-pretty-doggers]

Im actually a lesbian who is also bi ^_^

bi lesbians have been around for a very long time and we will continue to be 👍🏽

[recoveredcombatsister]

okay. just because youre a bi lesbian doesnt mean the rest of us should need to say "no im a lesbian lesbian" tho

[bookyred]

"Bi lesbian" can only function in the sense of "Theoretically attracted to men but not in reality" (because men suck) and even then I think like. Saphhic lesbian would work better akthough neither are perfect.

"I'm a lesbian who is only attracted to women and not men." is a sentence that you shouldn't believe anyone should have to say unless you believ in abolishing the "lesbian" label, in which case people will just make another word and the Thing will happen again, that's just how language works.

(Not directed at emmacombatsister)

[reluctantlybouncingonit]

I've decided. I'm taking your two littles who are up for grabs. Mine now.

Just like stealing them??? Wait no wait I need them!

[reluctantlybouncingonit]

🩶: Anon saying this like their eyes won’t be in scratching range

[bookyred]

But the sunglasses for protection...