Opinions and facts
Opinions are not facts. They are a persons point of view, formed by experience or a perceived experience (often on the back of another persons opinion or experience). They are made up of emotions resulting from a timely experience. They are fluid and can change depending on moods, age, experience, PMS, the amount of sleep, your birthplace, your friends, the newspaper you read - hell, even the weather! In fact opinions are slippery little devils. But one thing is for sure, and I repeat: they are not facts. Facts are proven. Facts are of a time - they have happened and evidence shows that they have happened or scientific evidence prove they will happen or do happen. Facts are solid objects in time - they stand as a marker through life. They are immovable - unless (in the case of science) another fact comes along to disprove the). One thing's for sure, facts cannot be changed by opinion. So if that's the case why do opinions so often seem to form the basis of facts? Why does one persons opinion in my head become the huge towering fact that overshadows my mind in dark hours? And why can I not see it for what it is, the slippery, ever-changing opinion of another? When I look back at all my worries and concerns I discover that a lot of what I worry about is of what people will think of me, but what I don't take into consideration is that what they think of me can and will change, for all the reasons above - they are opinions. Now they can nail some facts about me - the colour of my hair, my age, where I went to school but they can't nail an emotional, inner description of me - because I change. So if they deem me to be a failure now (and that is my worst fear) - it is nothing more than an opinion. And opinions will change. Going to try and remember that the next time I feel judged or have the need to be defensive.