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it’s so disturbing to think back and realize the stuff you allowed people to do to you simply because you didn’t respect yourself enough to not let it happen

desnos

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unrelentingembers

the wild thing about trauma is I’m always going to feel older in some situations but like a toddler in others and that’s frustrating

cheaphalloweencostume

me: I should do laundry

my brain: you should die

me: touché

darkwingatlarge

not even an exaggeration

warm-positivity-deactivated2022

So take breaks when you need them!

saintsoup

“hey i’m emotionally unstable and not good at texting do you wanna date me”

ourdaysareover

overrated-normalcy

Sleeping all day because it’s hard to find any reason to be awake anymore.

tordenvejr

You will always remember, your truth can never slip through your fingers. It’s resting in the seams of who you are, and sooner or later you’re gonna stumble across a pond or a mirror.

overdid

do you ever feel lonely and unwanted even if you are with your friends

thisisthesadplace

Just because someone was abused in the past doesn’t mean they have the right to abuse you.

omgthatdress

Putting these up for anyone who needs them today.

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward

Why Does he DO That: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

superopinionated

Cannot recommend WDHDT highly enough. I’ve found it helpful not just for romantic relationships, but also for growing up w a “unexplainable/uncontrollable” dad.

IT HAS ALSO BEEN REALLY HELPFUL FOR UNDERSTANDING ONLINE MOB HARASSMENT.

So if you’ve ever been bombarded w threats to be raped/killed, (so…if you’re a minority and you’ve been on the Internet for a while), this book might be useful for getting clarity around the whole entitled, abusive mindset that drives certain kinds of people to behave that way. And by “getting clarity”, I mean (for me) being able to go “oh, that’s what’s happening” and not really feel scared anymore. Or angry, or drawn out into it, or anything.

And if you’re still standing around going “but how does something like GamerGate happen?” or “but why do men hit their wives?” or whatever – please read that book and learn something.

omgthatdress

^^^^ truth WDHDT is fantastic at cutting down MRA bullshit and calling it what it really is

kithnkin

Also recommending

swampseer

Please consider reading these. WDHDT is really, really helpful. And I know some of you are struggling with abusive relationships, friendships, families, etc. You’re not alone. There is help.

heysawbones

Yo. This family holiday, please, please take care of yourself. You aren’t there to be anybody else’s cushion.

robotsandfrippary

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

Reading any of these books does not mean you don’t love your parents or family. It’s just self care for helping you cope and not repeat the behaviors.