bpd lesbians

a blog for borderline lesbians, but all wlw are welcome! trans & nb women-aligned people are included; terfs/twerfs are not.

[nonahbeans]

My mental illness/disability may influence my gender or sexuality, but that doesn’t make the way I identify any less valid.

[closetedlesbianopinions]

Me: I'm definitely bi men are so great! Me when a girl talks to me: [completely engrossed and interested in what she has to say] me when a guy talks to me: oh that's nice [checks phone]

[monty-green]

reminders for the young wlw out there

it’s okay to want to have sex with a girl

it’s also okay to be totally terrified at the thought of having sex with a girl- internalized homophobia affects all of us to a certain extent

it’s okay to want to make out with a girl for hours on end (seriously, it’s totally an okay thing to think about)

it’s okay to fantasize about girls, even in a sexual way. you are not dirty for doing this.

you can absolutely wear clothes that are stereotypically lesbian, such as flannels. in the same note, you can totally cut your hair short if you want. you aren’t perpetuating a stereotype, you’re embracing who you are

you can also completely stay away from any clothing that would signify you might be a wlw (especially if you’re in a situation where the suspicion that you’re a wlw could cause you harm)- it’s completely your choice, just don’t shame anybody that does decide to take on that style.

it’s okay to not immediately date a girl once you come out. take some time to figure out your feelings, it’s okay. you’ll find somebody that you want to date in your own time, or you can just decide you don’t want to ever date anybody. that’s also perfectly okay.

it’s okay to dream about a future with a wife

it’s okay to hold your girlfriend’s hand in public and be affectionate in public. it’s not gross or icky, it’s good and cute, i promise.

it’s okay to come out to everybody you speak to (there’s nothing wrong with you, and if people judge you, they’re the ones who are wrong), but it’s also valid to only come out to a small select group of people. both approaches are fine.

it’s okay to masturbate while thinking about girls. it’s okay, you’re not weird for doing this. it’s a common thing.

it’s okay to watch movies or tv shows with wlw, even the ones that are cliche and really cheesy. if they make you feel validated and happy, continue doing so.

being a wlw is not shameful

you are not broken

you aren’t somebody that needs to be “fixed”

your thoughts and feelings are valid

you are not alone

you are loved

[yotsuyugoebrutus]

Me: I barely have any money left, I should stop spending it *Anything even remotely distressing happens* Me:

[mulhollandrivedyke]

reblog, don’t repost!

[foxmulders]

okay can i just say that as a lesbian i for a long time wanted to go out with guys and wanted them to kiss me in theory and it was not about attraction or about what i was comfortable with but was instead about what i thought was supposed to want or what i thought was normal and i was so unhappy for the longest time whenever i thought about being with guys because i wanted to, but i was also so uncomfortable with the whole idea of it. it wasn’t what i really wanted except on the most basic “i want to feel included and accepted” level and yeah idk basically compulsory heterosexuality is so fucked up and hard to deal with and overcome and i was thinking about this while i was supposed to be sleeping and idk

[wlw]

okay so i'm currently identifying as a lesbian because i know i would never date/have sex with guys but i still find some cute? like with girls i can see myself with them and all that (with guys i can't) but i still feel like i find some cute i can't really call myself a lesbian ?? like ik people can find others cute and still be a certain sexuality but for some reason i feel like that doesn't apply to me? what do u think mom i trust you

honey you can be a lesbian and call a boy cute. If you’ve been in the closet for a long time dating boys as you grew up you know what a cute boy looks like. You’re not blind. Being a lesbian doesn’t make you blind to someone aesthetically pleasing but if you’re not sexually attracted to them and you know that then you’re still!!!!! A lesbian!!!!! It’s a very confusing road to figuring everything out when it comes to your sexuality but I promise you’re still a lesbian if you think a boy looks nice. It’s coercive heterosexuality that makes you think otherwise and I promise that little voice inside your head is wrong. You don’t have to be attracted to someone to know they’re good looking

[positive-lesbian-vibes]

Anyway it’s normal for lesbians to crave validation from men and attention from men since we are socialized to believe male approval is the Ultimate Goal and Marker of Success and it doesn’t make you any less of a lesbian if you do crave attention and approval from men. Its normal and common and doesn’t make you a “fake” lesbian

[fdygd-deactivated20181016]

s/o to lesbians who have a complicated relationship with pronouns

[butchthoughts]

anyway shout out to neurodivergent and traumatized lesbians. being a lesbian is lonely enough without the difficulties of struggling with mental illness and trauma. i see you and i assure you there are people like you out there

this especially includes trans lesbians and excludes terfs. 

[mental-ch-illness]

if you are lgbt+ and have bpd i want you to know that your identity is 100% valid and not just the disorder talking.

[bpdlesbians]

what is identity? can i buy that at a store or something?

[bpdsacred]

everyone with BPD has that exfp that they fucked up with before they learned how to cope or mediate their symptoms and it’s something i would like people to talk about more. 

[kaerlighedsbrev-deactivated2020]

people w pds are all wonderful no take backs

[dykes-deactivated20200607]

i wanna give a shout out to all lgbt people who thought they were another identity before realizing they were something else. lesbians realizing they’re trans men, bi/pan people realizing they’re a lesbian/gay, binary trans people realizing they’re genderfluid, etc. even if you don’t know if your current identity is the final stop, even if you think it’s a “phase”, or you don’t know what label fits you best, you’re on a journey to self discovery, every step matters, it shapes you into the person you are or aspire to be, and you’re not fake or a bad person for figuring things out.

[falasteen]

I barely see any posts about this so here’s a s/o to the questioning wlw who do not know whether they are bi or lesbian, who do not know if their attraction to men-aligned ppl is real or not, who can’t tell weather this is compulsory heterosexuality playing tricks on them or if it’s internalized biphobia.

As a lesbian who used to identify as bisexual, i know how frustrating it is to not know which one you are, how infuriating it is to always keep changing, to not know which community you belong to.

But in time I can assure you that you will finally figure it out. And weather you end up identifying as bisexual, lesbian or just sapphic/wlw, you have my full support. I wish you luck

(Terfs don’t touch)

[positive-lesbian-vibes]

Hey all mentally ill lesbians!!

I’m really proud of you. I know it’s really difficult and I know sometimes success seems impossible, whether that’s working a job or showering regularly or eating right or anything else, but you are so strong for working your hardest. You aren’t lazy, you aren’t ungrateful, and you are valid and important members of the lesbian community ❤❤ whether you hear it from other people or not, I’m proud of you, I see you working your hardest, and I believe in you more than you’ll ever know 💖💕💖💕💖