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Some stuff will be random, but I like to try to keep the focus on neurodiversity (autism, tourettes, and stuttering)

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It hits you

There are times when some people with differences (or maybe just me) will sometimes think “Maybe it was just in my mind.”  “Maybe I’m cured now.”  Later, something happens & it hits you:  *It’s trying to say “thank you” over the phone, but nothing comes out. * It’s wanting to buy a particular food, but the box contains an odd number, so it’s not right.  After several minutes, you can’t make yourself get the food. *It’s walking through an unfamiliar store & everything starts to close in, which causes you to spend 20 minutes in a busy restroom. * It’s lining up items in a store when you planned to just be in & out * It’s experiencing things that happened over 10 years ago as if they just happened today. * It’s going to celebrate a loved one, but feeling sick and overwhelmed because of the environment that so many others love. * It’s ignoring your physical and mental state at an expense because you believe certain people come first at the moment. * It’s looking at an object & thinking about the things you could do with it, but you know you never would. *It’s saying “butter” & phrases out of context for over 10 minutes because your mind keeps going. * It’s jerking, punching, and screaming to the point that you pull over for safety * It’s coming home & having a meltdown while a wannabe puppy crushes your lap & licks your face. * It’s still feeling physical pain after hours of what would seem like nothing & not even knowing why certain areas hurt.  Sometimes the universe will be kind for months before it spends 2 days hitting you.  At your down points, it can be a comfort to know “tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet.”

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Here’s to all the aces who are pushed out of ace spaces

To the disabled aces

To the neuro-divergent/aneuro aces

To the aces who survived trauma

To the Aces of Color

To the gray aces and WTFaces

To the older aces

To everyone who spent years of struggles before learning they were ace

You are all still valid and amazing people. We are working every day to make the community fully inclusive.

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Here’s to being ace!

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@ all ace lesbians

Shout out to all the ace lesbians that don’t feel like “real lesbians” because they don’t experience sexual attraction

Shout out to all the ace lesbians that struggled to figure out their identity because they thought their crushes on girls were platonic due to compulsory heterosexuality and internalized homophobia

Shout out to all the ace lesbians that say they’re lesbians because they don’t want to lecture everyone on asexuality but feel guilty about it because they’re erasing a part of their identity

Shout out to all the ace lesbians that get told by non-aces they only ID as ace because of compulsory heterosexuality/internalized homophobia 

Shout out to all the ace lesbians that like sex / don’t like sex / are indifferent to sexual activities

You’re all wonderful. You’re all valid. You’re all welcome here. I know it’s hard but you’re not alone in this!!

Reblogs by non ace lesbians are appreciated!! I don’t see a lot of positivity for us going around and we really need it

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30 days of Autism acceptance

Day 1.      Make yourself known.  Tell the world your name and age.  Talk about your diagnosis.  Are you self or professionally diagnosed?  Do you think self-diagnosis is valid?  When did you realize/find out you were autistic?  Post a photo of yourself if you’d like. My name is Bri and I’m 25 years old.  I was professionally diagnosed with ASD in December 2015.  I feel like self-diagnosis is just as valid as a professional diagnose.  I first thought I might be autistic after learning about autism in college.  After looking up more information, I felt like many of the signs described me too much to be a mere coincidence.

Day 2.      Talk about passing and/or being out.  Are you out as autistic?  How have people reacted?  Do they treat you differently after they found out?  Do you attempt to pass?  If you do try to pass have you experienced autistic burnout from trying to pass? I am now out as autistic.  I still have some people who may not believe me or give me the usual “you don’t look autistic”  (and you don’t look ignorant).  Thankfully, nobody has treated me differently thus far.  I experienced autistic burnout after years of trying to pass (unknowingly) & thought I was going crazy or suffering a mental breakdown while I was in graduate school.

Day 3.      Talk about relationships, both platonic and romantic.  Do you have anyone special in your life?  Have your relationships been affected by your being autistic?  Have you found it hard to make and maintain friendships?  Do you have a lot of friends or very few?   I have been on dates, but never actually had a romantic relationship.  The idea is only interesting sometimes, but not a strong desire.  It has always been hard to make and maintain friendships.  I would make a friend at school just because they approached me first, but the friendship ended once we weren’t in school together anymore.  I have few friends, but mainly because I don’t thrive on friendship.  The few I have are enough.

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Stay positive with your stutter!

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Turkish Delight & Russian tea ❤ #turkishdelight # Russian tea # happiness

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I talk about what an “aspie burnout” felt like to me.  I would really like to know if you guys have had any experience with this.

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I discuss using disability ID cards for Tourettes & ASD and how it has been beneficial for me.

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I talk about being on the verge of a meltdown in public tonight.  Pretty disappointed that I let it ruin an opportunity to have fun with a good group of people.

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Stutter problem: When you stutter on the phone and then the person decides to hang up after you have gotten your sentence out.

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Things I hate hearing when I stutter

1. Did you forget your name?  (I want to really hurt people who say this.) 2. Spit it out. 3. When people mock me 4. What’s wrong with your voice? 5. Why are you looking like that? 6. Do you just want to write it down?

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There is nothing wrong with your stutter.

Order the meal you actually want.

Stick up your hand and ask your question.

Phone and make an appointment.

Take the drive through.

Ask a stranger instead of google.

Volunteer to give the presentation.

Speak.

Be bold. Be inconvenient. Be proud.

And when they look away, stutter louder. When they giggle or stare or ignore, stutter louder still.

Your voice is beautiful, it is irreplaceable, and it deserves as much space and attention as any other voice on the planet.

There is nothing wrong with your voice. Your stutter deserves to be heard.

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I wish I would have known this when I was in school.

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I know what I’m talking about

It irritates the living daylights out of me when someone says ”you aren’t autistic”.  Just because I don’t fit the severe, stereotypical case that you may be used to seeing, doesn’t mean I don’t have my own challenges.  It’s called a SPECTRUM disorder for a reason.

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STOP demonizing Autistic people with low empathy

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Exactly.  I hate when people call me cold or selfish

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Being Part Of A Tribe

Seth Godin in his book “Tribes” writes: “A tribe is any group of people, large or small, who are connected to one another, a leader, and an idea. For millions of years, humans hav…

I love my stuttering tribe

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Channeling my inner Scarlett

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This video is about 2 years old by the way.