WHY DO I LIKE THIS STUFF?
I got a funny message recently: “You must HATE big guys!” With no further context I wasn’t sure how to interpret it. If we’re kinda role-playing/staying “in character” then: “HELL YEAH, BRO. I love cutting those big cocky fucks down to size LIKE THEY DESERVE.”
But if we’re taking the question sincerely, I have to wonder how much our society’s plummeting media literacy and social media addiction have twisted the way we discuss kink/fetish content. This makes sense, considering the fact that many people nowadays consume kink with no context and on an endless scroll, the same way they keep tabs on their friends and their favorite celebrities, THE SAME WAY THEY GET THEIR NEWS.
Let’s start from the basics: kink doesn’t make any sense. It’s not supposed to. I don’t just mean it the way straight people are confused by foot fetishists because their narrow “penis into a vagina” definition of sex doesn’t include, y’know, “foreplay” or mental stimulation.
You can form a cogent thesis about how your kinks correlate to your childhood all you want, but the truth is, a kink is indecipherable to someone without that kink—and to those who have a kink, it’s the greatest thing ever (sometimes the ONLY thing ever) and it just, “is.” The CEO doesn’t hire a dominatrix because he’s so “in control” in his everyday life that he needs to be bossed around; he does it because it makes his dick twitch and his hole throb and makes all other forms of genital stimulation seem inconsequential in comparison AND HE DOESN’T KNOW WHY (or care—nor does anyone post-orgasm).
So why does the idea of a muscled escort being turned into a twink version of himself (or a donkey, or an elderly man, or a 600 lb man, or a sentient dildo) get my gears turning? It’s just how I’m wired, period. There’s nothing more to learn.
With that thesis in mind, take it a step further: what I choose for my fantasy space doesn’t necessarily reflect what I would choose for my real life. I don’t wish the things in my fantasy content would happen in real life, period.
Fantasy is JUST THAT. I don’t secretly wish for Nick Walker to wake up a skinny femme twink, though I’ll write a story (and record an audio, generate an image sequence) about it and indulge in the idea in private time… but I’ll still cheer for his bodybuilding success and marvel at his freakish big-ness whenever I see him, because fantasy is just that. And if your only context for kink, fetish and fantasy is online porn, you are undereducated. Enjoy it all you want, but before you form an opinion or make a comment, take a moment to consider your lack of experiential context and maybe fall silent.