I decided to create this blog for personal reflection after the hardest breakup I've ever had to deal with. I don't exactly know if anyone will ever see this blog but I felt it was important to record some of the most wisdomous advice that my friends and family have given me to get through this rough time in my life. Here is a little back ground to my story.
I know everyone always says their breakup is the hardest, especially when they are still dealing with a fresh separation. I'm sure there are plenty of harsher breakups that have occurred in the history of couples but here is mine. I had been dating my girlfriend for over 6 years. We met each other in college after both having dated a good number of people before to kind of know what we are looking for in a mate. This relationship had gone through many ups and downs and through all the madness, we had found a good place where both of us could be overall happy. The last 2 years was dealing with long distance. Luckily we did not have to deal with any time difference but it still required a flight to see each other. Not only that, I had to support a law school student. Anyone who knows anyone in law school knows that the first year means everything. They always joke that every law school student can pick 2 of the 3 choices: School, Sleep, Relationship. One always gets left behind. Luckily we made it through a grueling 2 years. It wasn't until I was planning to move to her location that she realized that I was not the "one". I had originally put off buying a house in my current location so that I could buy one the moment I moved to her. I had been fired by my current job because they found out that I was looking elsewhere for work. And I had gotten a DUI a few months before all of this happened. Needless to say, this was the worst year of my life. A few weeks before I was trying to finalize my plans to move up, she let me know after a fight that she was having doubts if I was the "one". I begged and pleaded to no avail. She left on a plane to finish her last year of law school and I was left devastated. It completely blindsided me. It was only a few weeks ago that she was telling all of our mutual friends that we were doing very well and she was going to marry me. I had the next 6 years of our lives planned out. I was going to move. Then look for a house to buy. Shortly after I would be looking for a ring to propose right after she graduates and we would get married 1-2 years after. My life plans have been completely blown up now. Being devastated I looked to my loved ones for support. Many offered many different forms of advice. Some were good, some were horribly bad. But for the ones that really stuck with me. I wanted to write down so that I could use as motivation and therapy when I have my moments of weakness. I know I'll have many more. Here are a few. Hopefully these help more than just myself.
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