You've got to jump off cliffs all the time and build your wings on the way down.
20 years ago, I found out I had wings. At 12 years old, I marched up to my dance instructor with a vivid idea and a tiny caboodle of hard earned MAC Cosmetics. I told her I had designed a look for the jazz section of the performance and wanted to provide makeup for the troupe. I carved sharp black contours using a plastic key card across my peersโ faces and felt so engaged in the process, I immediately fell in love. My wings stretched out for the first time.ย
The 10 years directly following, I bound my wings to my ribcage. I was told that what I loved wasnโt a career, that it wasnโt even a โreal choiceโ to make. I tried to find other outlets. Out of high school, I tried more mainstream work between my times with beauty brands. In college, I studied cosmetology AND marketing. I covered my bases in all areas to make myself โwell-rounded.โ The battle raged on as I kept standing on the edge, believing that if I jumped that my wings couldnโt keep me up. But even then, no matter what I was doing to pay the bills, I never put down my brushes.ย
ย I was in New York when I was 22, having a conversation with an incredible woman. (I was helping her daughter write her resume.) She asked some general questions about me, like a casual conversation would allow. As if she had known me for years, she summed up our moment together by asking me, โIsnโt it exhausting to live so fragmented? Youโll find a better way some day.โ โYes. It is.โ I replied, without knowing there was any other way to be. Her words swirled in my mind the whole flight home, why was I just hoping it would change instead of working it out? I cut the bandages off of my wings that day, and jumped. Throughout the past 10 years, I worked in television, stage, and film, beauty, bridal, and beyond. Iโve worked with photographers, directors, models, and wedding planners. I was an artist and leader for THE powerhouse brand in cosmetics, began leading talent in medical industry beauty, and went through yoga teacher training. I have learned more, been happier, and personally grown greater than any other time in my life. I leaned in to who I was, and what I loved, and today I know that not only do I have wings, but I can fly.ย
ย All of this is simply to say, wings are for using. I had 10 years of life I could have enjoyed more. 10 years I could have focused on flying lessonsโฆPeople sometimes say they โdonโt know what to feel passionate aboutโ when in reality theyโve already felt it, and told it to go away. You can find a way to make your passion something that works for you, if you stay diligent and open-minded. The path may not be straight, but it can be enjoyable. I love to live in beauty. I love health and wellness. I love empowering people. I love an industry that never rests. I love having my creativity be awake throughout my days, and I love to feel in love with what I have done in my life. The only thing I donโt love is how much time it took me to step off the ledge.ย
ย So today, I encourage you to jump. Youโll build your wings on the way down.