I donât usually blog about serious things, but here goes.
If your parents donât believe Middle Child Syndrome exists I GOT YOU! Please feel free to direct them to this post. Iâll put the things I want to get across to the parent in BOLD.
I had no clue Middle Child Syndrome was a legitimate psychological issue until about a year ago when my friend decided to do a school research project on this topic. You hear that? SCHOOL RESEARCH PROJECT. I highly doubt the school would accept an assignment done on something that is non-existent. She did this topic because she was once a middle child of three children, but her older brother passed away, and she saw a CLEAR difference in how her parents treated her as a middle child, and how her parents treat her now, as the oldest child.
She came to me to ask me to do a survey because I am a middle child of three children. It surprised me how my personality was consistent with traits of middle children.
PARENT: Please do not think this syndrome is limited to only families of a certain size. Once there are more than two children, this syndrome can and probably does exist.
I had a look at my friendâs research project, and did some research of my own as well. This syndrome happens due to the variation in the way parents view/treat their children. The oldest of the children gets the most responsibilities and gets to do as they please with respect to the other siblings. The oldest feels important, and basically thinks he/she is a God among the other siblings. The youngest of the siblings is the familyâs âbabyâ and thus gets spoiled and get whatever his/her little heart desires. The youngest gets away with being a brat and can whine his/her way into to getting ANYTHING. (Hi again, parent! If your kid is having you read this, the youngest is a spoiled brat. No, no, stop denying it. My mother denied it initially too, she is finally seeing the light though.) Then, that leaves the middle children. The middle child has the most realistic view of themselves. This is because they never get any special treatment. With big bro/sis being a âGodâ and the little one being spoilt rotten, the middle child is left to wonder, am I not important?
The psychological issues start here. They donât feel loved. And parents, donât give me that âI love my kids all the sameâ bullshit, that ainât gonna fly. Actions speak louder than words, and if you ignore the shit out of your middle kids, they are going to resent you for it. Your child cares enough to make you aware of the situation, and if you continue to treat them the same after this, KNOWING about this, thatâs just horrible. MAKE AN EFFORT.
Also, hey there fellow middle child! *high fives* I know that feel, bro. Please, donât expect things to change overnight. Itâs probably been YEARS that your parents have been treating you differently and years of habit isnât going to change just like that. Be patient with your parents, donât rage on them if they still do things subconsciously that hurt you. Talk to them. Once they accept that there is a problem, give em a hug for at least doing that. And applaud their effort to change.
Anyhoos. In my personal situation, I was depressed for about a year, and my mom didnât notice. She only asked me if I was âokayâ ONCE. ONCE. And I remember the day clearly. I just said âyeahâ and then it was life as normal for her. Also, I always do/did very well in school (better than my siblings), and I get little/no acknowledgement. And then, when my siblings do well in school they get a gift, a trip, money, a parade, etc. I asked my mom why this was. She said because they âexpectâ me to do well because Iâve been doing well for so long. Wut!? Canât a nigguh get a little recognition? Anywayyyyz. I digress.
FUN FACT: Middle kids tend to have nicer personalities than their siblings. While they do tend to be withdrawn, and have low self esteem, they also are some of the nicest people you will ever meet. THEY ARE TOO NICE. TOOOOOO NICE. People sometimes take advantage of this.
 Hey there parent, what have you been missing out on? Pay a little more attention to your middle kids, k?
http://rawstoriesoflife.blogspot.com/2010/03/middle-child-syndrome-symptoms-top-10.html
http://www.wisegeek.org/what-is-middle-child-syndrome.htm
http://www.livestrong.com/article/110771-middle-child-syndrome/
GO FORTH AND EDUCATE THY SELF! Hope this helped.
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