I have to make college decisions in a few months and I’ve been dating this guy for over a year but he doesn’t go to a very versatile university for my possible majjors. I feel so bad but I honestly don’t know if I can be happy knowing I could have made it into a world class school and I gave it up. I don’t want to break up though
Hi sis,
1) directly between your BF’s school and his house is Southern Methodist University. I don’t advocate it for location alone, I think you would love it. I believe the best education comes from people who disagree with you, and that’s just about the only statement I could make that all the SMU faculty would agree with me on. Our family is secular, SMU is religious; we’re liberal, SMU is conservative; and SMU began aggressively pursuing diversity in around 2011. You’ve got a lot of schools on your menu. I don’t know if I’d pick SMU over University of Virginia, or Georgetown, and I’d definitely pick Bowdoin or Johns Hopkins over SMU, largely because of the weight I place on biology. But SMU has as good a business program as you could ask for, and I think mom, dad, myself, and Noushin will be able to find you more east-coast connections than you can handle, no matter where you go to college.
2) Texas might not be the best place for your guy. If you find a way for him to move, he’ll probably move. He’ll talk about how he can’t leave his family, his school, his home, etc . . . people cite that stuff a lot, and they firmly believe it when they say it. Beliefs are fickle though. His family wants him to stay home, but they also want him to go places. And he wants the same thing. Noushin and I are still going through this process for her family. For most people, the subconscious controls a whole switchboard related to beliefs, and it arranges for them to match certain aspects of reality. That’s why in scenario after scenario and ideology after ideology, beliefs adjust to opportunities. If you want to bring him along, I’ll help you figure out a way.
3) Long distance has its perks. You get more done with your life. And if you or he one day wonders, “why am I with this person?” The follow-up thought won’t be something horrible like “I don’t know, but I’d better stick with this person because otherwise it’ll be a big waste of life . . . “
You’ve got a lot to think about, I just gave you some more. Not sorry. Goodnight sis.
