Goddess.

💸C.R.E.A.M 👸🏾Stay Golden. ✨

[brownsugaaabae]

Is this thing still on? Does anyone still use this?

[thepoliticalwhore]

Managing Splenda Expectations

While we all dream of one day meeting that mythical SD that can offer us $10k/month with presents and travel and mentorship and support, the truth is there aren’t many of those to go around. They’re called the 0.1% for a reason. 

What there are a lot of though, are kind, generous, wonderful potential Sugar Daddies - with limited budgets. These men are genuine about spoiling you, and for a lot of them, they would give more if they could - they are the perfect SD in all but budget. Right now, realistically, $500 or $1000 a month is all they can offer. Now, if that doesn’t work for you, it doesn’t work for you. Don’t push them to spend more than they can afford. That just leads to unhappy SDs piling a bunch of expectations and pressure on you to justify their overspending.  But if you’re thinking “Hey, yeah, $1000 a month from a man whose company I enjoy is nothing to sneeze at” - then it just becomes a question of making sure everyone is on the same page with expectations.  Where things can go a little wonky is when these men with $1000 budgets want $10k worth of your time. They want to see you several times a week, and text all day, and plan trips with you, and it can be difficult to set limits on that without outright saying “I want $x/hour, and if you have $x spend, you get that many hours” - that can be uncomfortable for everyone involved. I ran into this uncomfortable conversation a time or two, and I didn’t always handle it well. But after a couple hits and misses, I developed the following short response that adjusted “$1000 for a couple of meetings a month and weekend trips” to “1 weekend a month and some pictures” “In the same way you have a financial budget to work with, I have a time budget. I have a lot of really ambitious goals that I am working towards, and I need to make sure that I’m investing my time in ways that best support me. I really enjoy our connection. And it’s important to me that this arrangement be mutually beneficial, and doesn’t involve either of us overextending ourselves. I hope you can respect the amount of time I have available the same way I respect the amount of money you can spend”

[brownsugaaabae]

I’m curious.

Is it me or do men respond better when you’re a total Bitch to them? You throw a hint of nice and sweet in there every now and then to keep em’ hooked, but for the most part; they respond better to that. At least in my experience. What are you guys experience?

[minxundercover]

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowances...

Here’s something that’s been in my drafts folder for a while. Based on some of the posts I’ve read recently, I think it might come in handy…PLEASE DO NOT COPY AND PASTE. READ CRITICALLY. Take bits and pieces, make it your own, or summarize it in some way as a come back for those messages, texts, or dinner dates.

Him: Hi. Thanks for reaching out to my earlier message. Your pics are beautiful. While I completely understand the importance of chemistry…but should we get to a point where this matters, I’m a little uncomfortable with having our relationship defined by allowances. As I said in my profile, I am quite generous, and understand the importance of ‘spoiling my partner’ but still, the set allowance would probably not work for me. I hope you understand my thoughts….

Me: Thank you for your thoughts. I understand that you are in search of an escape and so am I. My escape would involve a real connection and a refined lifestyle. I am a little uncomfortable with having a relationship that is only defined by sex… especially when the guy is attached and somewhat unavailable. I’m a beautiful young woman with no lack of suitors. I have a busy social life and I’m currently working to build a business/ pursuing my degree. I chose this kind of relationship in part because I have so little time for love. That’s not to say that my (romantic) time is not very valuable to me. It is. What I don’t value are shoes, handbags, and/or expensive dinners. These are things that I can purchase myself. Furthermore, these do nothing for me in the long run as much as say you investing in my company/ education would. I hope you understand that I’d need tangible showings… actions that illustrate I am valued… that my companion wants to put a smile on my face/ make me feel special/wants the best for me. AN ALLOWANCE WOULD DO THAT FOR ME. By the same token, I want my companion to feel comfortable telling me specifically how I could put a smile on his face/make HIM feel special/ valued. In any case, I am a rare catch and therefore am in no rush to find the man who “gets it” and me. Good luck on your search!

Now doesn’t this sound better than saying “Bitch Please! I am hot and young and you want me to spend my time on your old ass while your wife gets the unlimited credit card and I get nada! FUCK YOU!”

[mygingersweets]

I’ve been looking for this post!!

[shotgunsuzie]

I see this a lot on tinder

Older men will say “if you’re a sugar baby you should get a job or don’t swipe on me etc etc. I find that so funny!

Okay then why the fuck is your age preference so low? It’s not always the case but younger women aren’t going to be attractive to you just because your handsome… it’s your wallet we like. And if you’re so concerned about sugar babies… maybe you should go ahead and raise your age preference closer to your age. But hey that’s just me.

But little do they know we have jobs. Plus the job of pretending to like you and pretending to like your jokes… That’s work in itself ☺️

[seductr3ss]

How to Hustle & Be a Long-Term Sugar Baby

I have been with my current SD Red for almost a year and a half now. We have been through a lot of ups and downs because he is married. But I think our arrangement has developed into a strong friendship and relationship. Because of Red, I have been able to travel to Punta Cana with friends, New Orleans, San Francisco, Florida, and soon Canada. I’ve been able to have plastic surgery (breast implants), get a new car (soon), pay for school courses, help out my family, spoil my friends, pay off my credit cards twice now, been given gifts (MacBook Air, Beats, Prada bag, LV), etc. I’m extremely thankful for everything I have received from my SD.

So I wanted to share some tips on how to hustle to get the most out of your arrangement and also some tips on maintaining your hustle as a long-term sugar baby. Most sugar arrangements only last a few months because any number of reasons (SDs’ work schedules and work traveling conflicts, age and maturity differences, differing allowance expectations, finding other SBs/SDs, SB choosing to date traditionally or settle down, etc.). Hopefully you dolls find these insights helpful for your sugar hustle :)

COMPANIONSHIP:

-Time with your SD should be stress-free and carefree. Your SD probably has a lot of stressors in his life (work, kids, wife), and he looks to you to be his “escape.” I remember one of the last times I hung out with Red that he was visibly disappointed that he had to leave me early to go run an errand his wife requested. Being with a sugar baby means being with someone who can make you forget about your real everyday life. Do your best to be positive, happy, and funny when you’re with your SD. He has enough drama in his real life. I’ve never gotten visibly angry with my SD because he’s said before how his wife can be a bitch and has anger issues. The last thing you want to do is remind him of his wife.

-But do be real with your SD. Red and I share similar family dysfunctions when it comes to our families. We open up to each other and discuss family issues. I read about another SB who basically said you need to be happy 24/7 around your SD, and I don’t think that’s always the case. You’re a real person who has real issues too. You can’t be expected to be a robot, you have to be authentic. I’m not saying to make your SD your personal therapist and have crying sessions. But sharing some of the problems in your life shows you’re a real person and this communication connects you two emotionally. Relating to your SD despite your age, maybe race, and socioeconomic differences can only help strengthen your bond.

KEEPING THINGS SPICY SEXUALLY:

-Buy lingerie and model it for your SD. You get to be your sugar daddy’s ultimate fantasy. Chances are, any sex is great sex to men (lets be real here). But you want to ensure you keep your sugar daddy satisfied so he doesn’t go looking for a side sugar baby, or drop you altogether. I like buying inexpensive Yandy lingerie online and surprising my SD with outfits. Send your SD “sneak peak” or “preview” pictures to indulge him and get him really excited for your next meet. Men are visual creatures. Try out different looks (school girl outfit, really trashy looking body stockings, teddys, bras and undies) to keep your SD on his toes and intrigued with what you’ll be wearing next. Don’t wear lingerie each time you see your SD though, you naked works just as well sometimes.

-Research and practice. Read AskMen or Cosmo (sometimes questionable) or the Kama Sutra for new sex positions or sex tips. You can also bring sex toys into the bedroom (whips, handcuffs, vibrators, dildos) to keep things interesting. If you’re not into sex toys, try different flavored lubes, whip cream, syrups. Just be sure to clean up after! You don’t want to leave any marks or residue on your SD when he has to leave to head home. 

-Give good blowjobs. I cannot stress having a good head game enough. Men will literally turn to putty in your hands. Watch porn or read online technique posts for inspiration.

-Practice safe sex. My SD and I still use condoms when we have penetrative sex. Sometimes I get the feeling that he doesn’t want to, but he always does. You can’t risk your sexual health for any amount of money. A lot of men from the older generation seem to be uninformed about current STIs, birth control, etc. So educate yourself and educate your SD too.

-Dress to impress. Sometimes you can be sexy without even trying. I wore fishnet tights underneath a tight skirt with a loose top on a date with my SD. I thought my outfit was fairly relaxed. But Red said he couldn’t stop staring at my legs and still thinks about that outfit to this day. You can be unintentionally sexy and leave a lasting impression with just one outfit piece.

KEEPING THINGS INTERESTING CONVERSATIONALLY:

-People love to talk about themselves. I’ve taken a few psychology and sociology courses and I learned that people are very egocentric by nature. So asking your SD an open-ended question about HIMself, HIS work, HIS family, HIS hobbies, his cars, his interests etc., and then asking follow-up questions off that is a sure way to keep the conversation flowing.

-There are always safe topics. If you can’t seem to find the words, you can always refer back to safe topics like your day, his day, your school, his work, his family, your family, summer plans, plans together, talk about the food you’re eating, weather. Or just smile and flirt if all else fails! 

-Deeper conversations show maturity and intelligence. I also like to have somewhat deeper conversations with my SD about policy (minimum wage, cost of college, wealth disparity in this country), politics, family, relationships, marriage, religion, etc. People are complex individuals and I just enjoy learning about people’s thoughts and lives. It’s fun for me to pick the brain of someone twice my age who is successful, a white male, intelligent (Ivy league educated), and married. 

-Cherry picking is a conversational technique. It’s pretty useful in keeping a conversation going. You can read more about it here. I think I first read about cherry picking in a psychology/dating book. You’ll have much better active listening skills once you practice this too.

HOW I HUSTLE:

-The “planting the seed” hustle. I was able to get my SD to agree to a boob job, and now a new $20k car among other great gifts by “planting the seed.“ You don’t want to come right out and ask your SD for something big out of nowhere. I wouldn’t plan a whole speech or sitting your SD down at dinner and asking him point blank. He will feel ambushed and most likely say no. I would first bring up what I wanted casually and jokingly in conversation while we were having fun at dinner, or in private. You have to choose the “right” moment to bring it up initially and then continue to “water” and “feed” what you planted in his mind :)

-The “benefits you too” hustle. For my boob job, I didn’t even know I wanted one until I thought it would be cool to get big boobs one day. I decided to bring it up with my SD while we were being intimate (it’s hard to say no to a girl sucking your penis). My SD said he would think about it, but he soon said yes. I was able to sell him on me getting boobs because he gets to enjoy them too! My SD even said that he really liked the idea of buying me boobs because he got to be with the young/innocent (aka flat chested me), and then the bombshel/slutty (aka big boobed me). I also pointed out that getting me a car benefits my SD because I’ll be able to drive to him now when we meet. He agreed and said he didn’t think of the benefit to him before. The best sales people make you think you need to buy whatever it is they’re selling. So hustle smart, not hard.

LASTLY… -No doesn’t mean no. My SD has told me no before when I’ve asked for things. But no doesn’t necessarily mean no. My SD has changed his mind before on things I’ve asked for. It never hurts to ask again, and the worst thing your SD can say is no. Do not be resentful because your SD will be as generous as you are with him. 

-Be YOUnique. Be yourself. Just because you’re a sugar baby doesn’t mean you have to be a glam goddess 24/7. Be real, ladies. We are young! Be a little crazy ;) Red and I can appreciate each other for who we are as people and not just who are are in an arrangement, and because of this we have true companionship.

[honeycountry]

Stay safe X

[melaninsugarbarbie-blog]

I needed this reminder. Especially the first one. Even with a platonic that is important!!

[brownsugaaabae]

Can you be a plus size SB ?

Girl you can be whatever the fuck you want to be. When I first started I was chubby and still snagged a nice SD. It’s possible.

[brownsugaaabae]

Hey love! I’m on Tinder. And was wondering how to approach them when you match. Do I just be straight up with them in the first message to save time?

In all honesty, I’ve never messaged anyone I’ve matched with. My profile is clear about what I’m looking for. I leave it up to them to decide if they want to talk to me. Enter at your own risk.

[brownsugaaabae]

How often should strippers/ sex workers get their nails/toes done? Like once a month or?

I go every two weeks like clock work. I get gel on my toes because it lasts much longer. If you’re looking to save money, just get gel. You can slide with getting them done once a month, if money is tight. Your toes that is. I don’t know if a filling will last you a whole month lol.

[brownsugaaabae]

Black Pot. 🚮

I was supposed to have a date with a black guy last night but it didn’t quite workout. He texted me as I was getting ready to fill in my eyebrows and said “I noticed you said over dinner, I’m sorry darling but I don’t meet anyone over dinner for the first encounter”. I find that strange because he said it was his first time. Ole lying ass. First off, it is Monday night. I have to work tomorrow, our date is already at 9:45pm so we pushing it already there, and I also don’t drink and drive. Period! Would you like to get me a Lyft? Or an Uber maybe? Then he asked if a $210 bottle of Creed (perfume) would get me over to his house after drinks. Uhm no. What the fuck do I look like? 🤷🏾‍♀️ This is why I steer clear of black men while I’m sugaring. I try to give them a chance and they disappoint me every time. On to the next.

[brownsugaaabae]

Hello! Is this thing still on? I took a long hiatus but I am back. Back better than ever. No seriously better than ever. I dropped a whole 30 pounds. Can we say stomach on flat flat?! Since I’ve dropped weight, the POTs have been practically throwing themselves at me. I wish I’d done this sooner.

Got myself some new wheels. Starting school in the fall. Life is really looking up for me. Now it’s time to get back in the game and steal someone’s father’s money. 😏

I have a nice date set up for myself tomorrow with my FIRST BLACK POT. This should be interesting. I usually steer clear, of his type because in my experience they usually are cheap but we’ll see.

Here’s to new beginnings! 🥂I missed you guys. I hoped you missed me.

[brownsugaaabae]

Is it possible to be an sb if ur not that attractive... Im probably a 4 tbh and my body isn't the best, i have a gut. Can i still try sugaring ot just get a 9 to 5?

Usually when a man has a SB she’s usually on the more attractive side. Though there are some men out there who aren’t all that attractive, so it is a slight chance they may not have the bar set too high. It’s someone out there for everyone. I’ve come across a few SBs who I don’t find attractive at all, but they have SDs, so it truly must be a confidence thing.

[luckyluxbaby-deactivated2018090]

Can men please exit stage left with this bullshit “im a great cook” line like in what imaginary fantasy land do you think me, a sexy young woman is going to get all dolled up to go eat dinner a random older man cooked for me, boy you better put on a suit and uber my ass to a 5 star restaurant before I slap the shit out of you

[f0reignluxe-deactivated20221120]

😂

[brownsugaaabae]

How is the bowl in Atlanta??

It’s okay. There’s money out here. You just have to go and get it. You have to be driven.

[brownsugaaabae]

where did you meet ur sugar daddy if u dont mind me asking i really want one any advice?

Tinder. He approached me and offered to be my suitor. He was truly a unicorn.

[brownsugaaabae]

hii! 💕 i meet a potential sugar daddy today and i think i might be in for the spoiled gf kind of role. i was wondering two things. (in new to this) what’s POT? i’m pretty sure it has something to do with a sugar daddy. and how long do you usually wait before meeting up with them and sleeping with them? do you normally wait until you have an arrangement first?

What’s POT? It means potential. 😳Secondly, I hope you’re not giving up anything without having an arrangement first. Hell not even after agreeing to the arrangement do you just give it up. He has to show and prove that he is worthy. No cash! No ass!

[rechbetch-deactivated20220314]

Dear Aspiring/Salt Babies,

Does this sound familiar…

“I want to sugar, but don’t want to give any sugar.” or “Is there a way for me to be a sugar baby without having to be seen with him, or have sex with him?”

Gggiirrrllll, I have found the perfect solution to your problems! Just follow this simple step and you won’t have to have sex with these older, successful men…

DON’T SUGAR!! Simple.

I have no sympathy for naive women who think they can post selfies and all the (LEGIT) SDs are gonna be like “😍😍😍💦💴💵💱💲👋🏼 drain my bank account babygirl!!” bitch, it don’t work like that.

You want him to buy you expensive stuff on the first/second/third date without having sex with him? That’s possible, but any man can do that… You want that allowance? You want that black card? You want his funds accessible to your every dying whim? Then bitch, you need to go on your knees & I’m not talking about praying. You need to be able to stomach a 40+ yr old ogling you from across the table - you can’t cringe when he reaches for your hand, or when he goes to kiss you - store associates will stare, waiters will stare, it seems everyone around you will stare. You need to be able to stomach putting a wrinkly dick anywhere near you and still sound convincing when you tell him how good or big he is & how much you love it. He will smell, he will be hairy, he will be out of shape, he will have kinks, and he will think he’s satisfying every inch of you. It’s your job to look him in the eyes, smile, and make him believe you are.

Did that sound like the “sugar baby Tumblr aesthetic” you’re so desperately trying to reach? Exactly. It’s not for everyone and that’s okay! But don’t insult us, or any sw in general, by thinking you’re oh-so-special enough to get what you want by doing nothing. It’s not cute.