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Managing Splenda Expectations
While we all dream of one day meeting that mythical SD that can offer us $10k/month with presents and travel and mentorship and support, the truth is there arenāt many of those to go around. Theyāre called the 0.1% for a reason.Ā
What there are a lot of though, are kind, generous, wonderful potential Sugar Daddies - with limited budgets. These men are genuine about spoiling you, and for a lot of them, they would give more if they could - they are the perfect SD in all but budget. Right now, realistically, $500 or $1000 a month is all they can offer. Now, if that doesnāt work for you, it doesnāt work for you. Donāt push them to spend more than they can afford. That just leads to unhappy SDs piling a bunch of expectations and pressure on you to justify their overspending.Ā But if youāre thinkingĀ āHey, yeah, $1000 a month from a man whose company I enjoy is nothing to sneeze atā - then it just becomes a question of making sure everyone is on the same page with expectations.Ā Where things can go a little wonky is when these men with $1000 budgets want $10k worth of your time. They want to see you several times a week, and text all day, and plan trips with you, and it can be difficult to set limits on that without outright sayingĀ āI want $x/hour, and if you have $x spend, you get that many hoursā - that can be uncomfortable for everyone involved. I ran into this uncomfortable conversation a time or two, and I didnāt always handle it well. But after a couple hits and misses, I developed the following short response that adjustedĀ ā$1000 for a couple of meetings a month and weekend tripsā toĀ ā1 weekend a month and some picturesā āIn the same way you have a financial budget to work with, I have a time budget. I have a lot of really ambitious goals that I am working towards, and I need to make sure that Iām investing my time in ways that best support me. I really enjoy our connection. And itās important to me that this arrangement be mutually beneficial, and doesnāt involve either of us overextending ourselves. I hope you can respect the amount of time I have available the same way I respect the amount of money you can spendā
Iām curious.
Is it me or do men respond better when youāre a total Bitch to them? You throw a hint of nice and sweet in there every now and then to keep emā hooked, but for the most part; they respond better to that. At least in my experience. What are you guys experience?
When he says he doesnāt feel comfortable with allowances...
Hereās something thatās been in my drafts folder for a while. Based on some of the posts Iāve read recently, I think it might come in handyā¦PLEASE DO NOT COPY AND PASTE. READ CRITICALLY. Take bits and pieces, make it your own, or summarize it in some way as a come back for those messages, texts, or dinner dates.
Him:Ā Hi. Thanks for reaching out to my earlier message. Your pics are beautiful. While I completely understand the importance of chemistryā¦but should we get to a point where this matters, Iām a little uncomfortable with having our relationship defined by allowances. As I said in my profile, I am quite generous, and understand the importance of āspoiling my partnerā but still, the set allowance would probably not work for me. I hope you understand my thoughtsā¦.
Me:Ā Thank you for your thoughts. I understand that you are in search of an escape and so am I. My escape would involve a real connection and a refined lifestyle. I am a little uncomfortable with having a relationship that is only defined by sex⦠especially when the guy is attached and somewhat unavailable. Iām a beautiful young woman with no lack of suitors. I have a busy social life and Iām currently working to build a business/ pursuing my degree. I chose this kind of relationship in part because I have so little time for love. Thatās not to say that my (romantic) time is not very valuable to me. It is. What I donāt value are shoes, handbags, and/or expensive dinners. These are things that I can purchase myself. Furthermore, these do nothing for me in the long run as much as say you investing in my company/ education would. I hope you understand that Iād need tangible showings⦠actions that illustrate I am valued⦠that my companion wants to put a smile on my face/ make me feel special/wants the best for me. AN ALLOWANCE WOULD DO THAT FOR ME. By the same token, I want my companion to feel comfortable telling me specifically how I could put a smile on his face/make HIM feel special/ valued. In any case, I am a rare catch and therefore am in no rush to find the man who āgets itā and me. Good luck on your search!
Now doesnāt this sound better than sayingĀ āBitch Please! I am hot and young and you want me to spend my time on your old ass while your wife gets the unlimited credit card and I get nada! FUCK YOU!ā
Iāve been looking for this post!!
I see this a lot on tinder
Older men will say āif youāre a sugar baby you should get a job or donāt swipe on me etc etc. I find that so funny!
Okay then why the fuck is your age preference so low? Itās not always the case but younger women arenāt going to be attractive to you just because your handsome⦠itās your wallet we like. And if youāre so concerned about sugar babies⦠maybe you should go ahead and raise your age preference closer to your age. But hey thatās just me.
But little do they know we have jobs. Plus the job of pretending to like you and pretending to like your jokes⦠Thatās work in itself āŗļø
How to Hustle & Be a Long-Term Sugar Baby
I have been with my current SD Red for almost a year and a half now. We have been through a lot of ups and downs because he is married. But I think our arrangement has developed into a strong friendship and relationship. Because of Red, I have been able to travel to Punta Cana with friends, New Orleans, San Francisco, Florida, and soon Canada. Iāve been able to have plastic surgery (breast implants), get a new car (soon), pay for school courses, help out my family, spoil my friends, pay off my credit cards twice now, been given gifts (MacBook Air, Beats, Prada bag, LV), etc. Iām extremely thankful for everything I have received from my SD.
So I wanted to share some tips on how to hustle to get the most out of your arrangement and also some tips on maintaining your hustle as a long-term sugar baby. Most sugar arrangements only last a few months because any number of reasons (SDsā work schedules and work traveling conflicts, age and maturity differences, differing allowance expectations, finding other SBs/SDs, SB choosing to date traditionally or settle down, etc.). Hopefully you dolls find these insights helpful for your sugar hustle :)
COMPANIONSHIP:
-Time with your SD should be stress-free and carefree. Your SD probably has a lot of stressors in his life (work, kids, wife), and he looks to you to be his āescape.ā I remember one of the last times I hung out with Red that he was visibly disappointed that he had to leave me early to go run an errand his wife requested. Being with a sugar baby means being with someone who can make you forget about your real everyday life. Do your best to be positive, happy, and funny when youāre with your SD. He has enough drama in his real life. Iāve never gotten visibly angry with my SD because heās said before how his wife can be a bitch and has anger issues. The last thing you want to do is remind him of his wife.
-But do be real with your SD. Red and I share similar family dysfunctions when it comes to our families. We open up to each other and discuss family issues. I read about another SB who basically said you need to be happy 24/7 around your SD, and I donāt think thatās always the case. Youāre a real person who has real issues too. You canāt be expected to be a robot, you have to be authentic. Iām not saying to make your SD your personal therapist and have crying sessions. But sharing some of the problems in your life shows youāre a real person and this communicationĀ connects you two emotionally. Relating to your SD despite your age, maybe race, and socioeconomic differences can only help strengthen your bond.
KEEPING THINGS SPICY SEXUALLY:
-Buy lingerie and model it for your SD. You get to be your sugar daddyāsĀ ultimate fantasy. Chances are, any sex is great sex to men (lets be real here). But you want to ensure you keep your sugar daddy satisfied so he doesnāt go looking for a side sugar baby, or drop you altogether. I like buying inexpensive Yandy lingerie online and surprising my SD with outfits. Send your SD āsneak peakā or āpreviewā pictures to indulge him and get him really excited for your next meet. Men are visual creatures.Ā Try out different looks (school girl outfit, really trashy looking body stockings, teddys, bras and undies) to keep your SD on his toes and intrigued with what youāll be wearing next. Donāt wear lingerie each time you see your SD though, you naked works just as well sometimes.
-Research and practice. Read AskMen or Cosmo (sometimes questionable) or the Kama Sutra for new sex positions or sex tips. You can also bring sex toys into the bedroom (whips, handcuffs, vibrators, dildos) to keep things interesting. If youāre not into sex toys, try different flavored lubes, whip cream, syrups. Just be sure to clean up after! You donāt want to leave any marks or residue on your SD when he has to leave to head home.Ā
-Give good blowjobs. I cannot stress having a good head game enough. Men will literally turn to putty in your hands. Watch porn or read online technique posts for inspiration.
-Practice safe sex. My SD and I still use condoms when we have penetrative sex. Sometimes I get the feeling that he doesnāt want to, but he always does. You canāt risk your sexual health for any amount of money. A lot of men from the older generation seem to be uninformed about current STIs, birth control, etc. So educate yourself and educate your SD too.
-Dress to impress. Sometimes you can be sexy without even trying. I wore fishnet tights underneath a tight skirt with a loose top on a date with my SD. I thought my outfit was fairly relaxed. But Red said he couldnāt stop staring at my legs and still thinks about that outfit to this day. You can be unintentionally sexy and leave a lasting impression with just one outfit piece.
KEEPING THINGS INTERESTING CONVERSATIONALLY:
-People love to talk about themselves. Iāve taken a few psychology and sociology courses and I learned that people are very egocentric by nature. So asking your SD an open-ended question about HIMself, HIS work, HIS family, HIS hobbies, his cars, his interests etc., and then asking follow-up questions off that is a sure way to keep the conversation flowing.
-There are always safe topics. If you canāt seem to find the words, you can always refer back to safe topics like your day, his day, your school, his work, his family, your family, summer plans, plans together, talk about the food youāre eating, weather. Or just smile and flirt if all else fails!Ā
-Deeper conversations show maturity and intelligence. I also like to have somewhat deeper conversations with my SD about policy (minimum wage, cost of college, wealth disparity in this country), politics, family, relationships, marriage, religion, etc. People are complex individuals and I just enjoy learning about peopleās thoughts and lives. Itās fun for me to pick the brain of someone twice my age who is successful, a white male, intelligent (Ivy league educated), and married.Ā
-Cherry picking is a conversational technique. Itās pretty useful in keeping a conversation going. You can read more about itĀ here. I think I first read about cherry picking in a psychology/dating book. Youāll have much better active listening skills once you practice this too.
HOW I HUSTLE:
-The āplanting the seedā hustle. I was able to get my SD to agree to a boob job, and now a new $20k car among other great gifts by āplanting the seed.ā You donāt want to come right out and ask your SD for something big out of nowhere. I wouldnāt plan a whole speech or sitting your SD down at dinner and asking him point blank. He will feel ambushed and most likely say no. I would first bring up what I wanted casually and jokingly in conversation while we were having fun at dinner, or in private. You have to choose the ārightā moment to bring it up initially and then continue to āwaterā and āfeedā what you planted in his mind :)
-The ābenefits you tooā hustle. For my boob job, I didnāt even know I wanted one until I thought it would be cool to get big boobs one day. I decided to bring it up with my SD while we were being intimate (itās hard to say no to a girl sucking your penis). My SD said he would think about it, but he soon said yes. I was able to sell him on me getting boobs because he gets to enjoy them too! My SD even said that he really liked the idea of buying me boobs because he got to be with the young/innocent (aka flat chested me), and then the bombshel/slutty (aka big boobed me). I also pointed out that getting me a car benefits my SD because Iāll be able to drive to him now when we meet. He agreed and said he didnāt think of the benefit to him before. The best sales people make you think you need to buy whatever it is theyāre selling. So hustle smart, not hard.
LASTLY⦠-No doesnāt mean no. My SD has told me no before when Iāve asked for things. But no doesnāt necessarily mean no. My SD has changed his mind before on things Iāve asked for. It never hurts to ask again, and the worst thing your SD can say is no. Do not be resentful because your SD will be as generous as you are with him.Ā
-Be YOUnique. Be yourself. Just because youāre a sugar baby doesnāt mean you have to be a glam goddess 24/7. Be real, ladies. We are young! Be a little crazy ;) Red and I can appreciate each other for who we are as people and not just who are are in an arrangement, and because of this we have true companionship.
Stay safe X
I needed this reminder. Especially the first one. Even with a platonic that is important!!
Can you be a plus size SB ?
Girl you can be whatever the fuck you want to be. When I first started I was chubby and still snagged a nice SD. Itās possible.
Hey love! Iām on Tinder. And was wondering how to approach them when you match. Do I just be straight up with them in the first message to save time?
In all honesty, Iāve never messaged anyone Iāve matched with. My profile is clear about what Iām looking for. I leave it up to them to decide if they want to talk to me. Enter at your own risk.
How often should strippers/ sex workers get their nails/toes done? Like once a month or?
I go every two weeks like clock work. I get gel on my toes because it lasts much longer. If youāre looking to save money, just get gel. You can slide with getting them done once a month, if money is tight. Your toes that is. I donāt know if a filling will last you a whole month lol.
Black Pot. š®
I was supposed to have a date with a black guy last night but it didnāt quite workout. He texted me as I was getting ready to fill in my eyebrows and said āI noticed you said over dinner, Iām sorry darling but I donāt meet anyone over dinner for the first encounterā. I find that strange because he said it was his first time. Ole lying ass. First off, it is Monday night. I have to work tomorrow, our date is already at 9:45pm so we pushing it already there, and I also donāt drink and drive. Period! Would you like to get me a Lyft? Or an Uber maybe? Then he asked if a $210 bottle of Creed (perfume) would get me over to his house after drinks. Uhm no. What the fuck do I look like? š¤·š¾āāļø This is why I steer clear of black men while Iām sugaring. I try to give them a chance and they disappoint me every time. On to the next.
Hello! Is this thing still on? I took a long hiatus but I am back. Back better than ever. No seriously better than ever. I dropped a whole 30 pounds. Can we say stomach on flat flat?! Since Iāve dropped weight, the POTs have been practically throwing themselves at me. I wish Iād done this sooner.
Got myself some new wheels. Starting school in the fall. Life is really looking up for me. Now itās time to get back in the game and steal someoneās fatherās money. š
I have a nice date set up for myself tomorrow with my FIRST BLACK POT. This should be interesting. I usually steer clear, of his type because in my experience they usually are cheap but weāll see.
Hereās to new beginnings! š„I missed you guys. I hoped you missed me.
Is it possible to be an sb if ur not that attractive... Im probably a 4 tbh and my body isn't the best, i have a gut. Can i still try sugaring ot just get a 9 to 5?
Usually when a man has a SB sheās usually on the more attractive side. Though there are some men out there who arenāt all that attractive, so it is a slight chance they may not have the bar set too high. Itās someone out there for everyone. Iāve come across a few SBs who I donāt find attractive at all, but they have SDs, so it truly must be a confidence thing.
Can men please exit stage left with this bullshit āim a great cookā line like in what imaginary fantasy land do you think me, a sexy young woman is going to get all dolled up to go eat dinner a random older man cooked for me, boy you better put on a suit and uber my ass to a 5 star restaurant before I slap the shit out of you
How is the bowl in Atlanta??
Itās okay. Thereās money out here. You just have to go and get it. You have to be driven.
where did you meet ur sugar daddy if u dont mind me asking i really want one any advice?
Tinder. He approached me and offered to be my suitor. He was truly a unicorn.
hii! š i meet a potential sugar daddy today and i think i might be in for the spoiled gf kind of role. i was wondering two things. (in new to this) whatās POT? iām pretty sure it has something to do with a sugar daddy. and how long do you usually wait before meeting up with them and sleeping with them? do you normally wait until you have an arrangement first?
Whatās POT? It means potential. š³Secondly, I hope youāre not giving up anything without having an arrangement first. Hell not even after agreeing to the arrangement do you just give it up. He has to show and prove that he is worthy. No cash! No ass!
Dear Aspiring/Salt Babies,
Does this sound familiarā¦
āI want to sugar, but donāt want to give any sugar.ā or āIs there a way for me to be a sugar baby without having to be seen with him, or have sex with him?ā
Gggiirrrllll, I have found the perfect solution to your problems! Just follow this simple step and you wonāt have to have sex with these older, successful menā¦
DONāT SUGAR!! Simple.
I have no sympathy for naive women who think they can post selfies and all the (LEGIT) SDs are gonna be like āšššš¦š“šµš±š²šš¼ drain my bank account babygirl!!ā bitch, it donāt work like that.
You want him to buy you expensive stuff on the first/second/third date without having sex with him? Thatās possible, but any man can do that⦠You want that allowance? You want that black card? You want his funds accessible to your every dying whim? Then bitch, you need to go on your knees & Iām not talking about praying. You need to be able to stomach a 40+ yr old ogling you from across the table - you canāt cringe when he reaches for your hand, or when he goes to kiss you - store associates will stare, waiters will stare, it seems everyone around you will stare. You need to be able to stomach putting a wrinkly dick anywhere near you and still sound convincing when you tell him how good or big he is & how much you love it. He will smell, he will be hairy, he will be out of shape, he will have kinks, and he will think heās satisfying every inch of you. Itās your job to look him in the eyes, smile, and make him believe you are.
Did that sound like the āsugar baby Tumblr aestheticā youāre so desperately trying to reach? Exactly. Itās not for everyone and thatās okay! But donāt insult us, or any sw in general, by thinking youāre oh-so-special enough to get what you want by doing nothing. Itās not cute.