idk what trans girl needs to hear this but u can in fact just. wear a harness over yr hardware if ur uncomfortable using it or for literally any reason u want (fun colors, vibrations, want something bigger, etc) it's literally not a big deal. I dealt with some trauma that made me go into panic attacks at the very idea of penetrative sex and using a strap genuinely helped me feel comfortable not only with sex but overcoming my fear of being seen as the "aggressor" as well

















