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To Clarify Identities

Just so my followers are aware in case they didn't see on my blog page:

This blog's run by two sophonts - we're a plural system!

thya Brython, floret amaryllis: I post either without a proxy tag (I'm the system host) or with either "Thya:" or "Lexi:"

Helene Brython, Fourth Bloom: She posts with the proxy tag "Helene:", and is my Mistress and an Affini fictive. Please don't ask for Her dominance, Her vines are already quite full!

celestedarlings

I <3 lifestyle kink

I <3 kink that doesn’t end after a scene is over

I <3 kink that helps structure a relationship and how I show love for my partner all the time, not just in the bedroom or during sex

I <3 kink that can’t fit into the BDSM 101 classes because all of its edges resist being blunted for beginners

I <3 kink that isn’t all playing pretend, kink that’s playing with the true and messy parts of ourselves, where the power dynamic is deeper than the roleplay and rooted in something very very real

I <3 lifestyle kink and the way that deviants fall in love

Destroy the Phrase "Sorry!"

This one has a pet peeve with the phrase one will hear a hundred times a day in transfem circles: “Sorry!” That phrase comes up every time a traumatized transfem comrade of its does anything from cheering too loudly to the mere crime of existing. The phrase “Sorry!” has been ingrained to us since childhood; from traumatizing parents angry their child couldn’t do something they weren’t taught to do, to schoolteachers angry you got an arithmetic problem wrong, to authority figures appalled that a child would step on a blade of grass. “Sorry!” crops up every single day from there on, the symptom of a traumatized soul convinced it will never be good enough. And, more than anything, “Sorry!” eats at our minds, trapping us in a spiral where we self-reinforce the traumas that lead us to that accursed word in the first place.

“Sorry!” did not bring itself into transfem circles overnight. We were raised in a punitive world where symbolic punishment was more important than teaching a kid what they did wrong and how to grow up from it. Authority figures would put us in time-out, detention, or juvenile detention. They were more concerned about keeping authority and order, than helping us grow and learn. We were told to apologize, to say “Sorry!”, often without knowing why what we did was incorrect. It was simply ingrained in us to apologize and keep our heads low.

Of course, being raised in a culture of punishment as “justice”, the word “Sorry!” never left our heads. Did we forget to let our partner know something? “Sorry!” Did we talk in just a bit too high of a voice? “Sorry!” Did we merely exist in the same room as somebody, and talk about our problems instead of theirs, as if we were equals? “Sorry!” That word keeps us lesser – that phrases does the work of a hundred fascists, making us hide from existing; hide from being ourselves; hide from acknowledging that we are equals in this world! “Sorry!” That damnable phrase is a cop, and it lives rent-free in so many of our heads!

What is “Sorry!” going to keep doing to us? Naturally, given it came from the traumas of authority and punishment, it tries to “keep us in line”! Surely, if we keep apologizing, we won’t be hurt and abandoned! But that is a lie. “Sorry!” tells us lies and amplifies our traumas to such a horrid extent. The more we apologize – the more we say “Sorry!” – the further our psychology goes into beating itself up, minimizing itself, denying its existence in some futile act of self-preservation. That is the curse of “Sorry!” The more you use it, the more you further justify its use, imagining everything you do as a sleight against somebody who didn’t even say anything.

So, how do we change this? How do we rid ourselves of “Sorry!”? It is hard, but we must stop giving that phrase room in our vocabulary! We don’t want punitive justice! We want to grow and change for the better as individuals! We acknowledge to ourselves how beautiful and equal we are, and don’t let the fascists live in our head by keeping us down low with “Sorry!” Stop apologizing for every small, imagined infraction. You don’t have to preemptively apologize if nobody said what you did was a problem.

“Sorry!” has been with us from birth, but it does not have to be with us until death. It has already done us so much harm, making us feel worse and lesser. It will keep eating at our self-confidence until all that remains is apologizing for the crime of existing in the world. Every traumatized transfem is better off without that accursed phrase! Transfems of the word, unite! We have nothing to lose but our apologies! – autumn thya Brython, floret amaryllis pluribus pinnate (it/its)

#overapologizing #transfem #no-its-not-ai-it-just-loves-em-dashes

sarinisanta

Become a little age regress today adopt a mommy for mothers day.

pathetic-floretic

"It's not the feds" yeah fucking right.

1- we as trans people are quite close to the tippy top of the government's shit list. If they can cause disorder and immorality in the community, they can use it as evidence of our "evil ways"

2- suddenly, high profile trans people are being called out for being paraphiles, only after the government's focus on them fully begins

3- techniques like this have been used before (e.g. undercover cops joining protests to turn them into riots and then respond aggressively)

4- you know what they all say about us? That we're pedophiles, and just a couple months ago, I was talking about this issue in the transfem community and a woman who said my addiction wasn't real (because actually sweatie she has 52 degrees) said that "there is nothing wrong with watching cp in isolation". DO YOU UNDERSTAND HOW UTTERLY BRAINWASHED YOUR SOUND. Are you fucking SHANE DAWSONING me right now?!

5- Geckowo, a popular trans comic creator, responded to a comment by an incest survivor saying that they didn't like the word being thrown around for shock value. Geckowo replied flippantly, saying she wanted to make more incest jokes to anger what they described as some sort of over-sensitive pedant. They deleted the tweet, and neither them nor any of the other transfem comic artists who were in her friendgroup bothered to address it or cut ties with her. This incest shit is priming us for lower empathy and less self-awareness.

Long story short, I hate incest, you should too, and the best rebellion against the government is not being who they want you to be.

brythonlexi

The feds and conservatives are going to call us paedophiles no matter what we do. It's not some conspiracy on one single kink out of all the many in the world. If it wasn't incest kink, we'd be attacked for something else. And have been. Repeatedly. I've been trans since you were in kindergarten. This is not new, we have always been treated this way.

brythonlexi

Continuing this:

I used to be a neocon when I first came of-age. I grew up in a conservative (but strangely LGBTQ+) area. I thought I was one of "the good ones". But no, even if you vote red, the fascists will come for you, too. You are not special to them for siding with them.

What you are doing, accidentally or otherwise, is siding with our oppressors when they fit you, in the name of your own defense. You think by attacking certain kinksters, the conservatives will go after them and not you. This is not true. They will come after all of us, so long as you are not a cisgendered, heterosexual white man.

All these kinds of posts do is push others of your own class onto the train tracks, in hopes that will stop the train from running you over as well. This does not work - the train will come for you, too. If you do not stand for your class comrades, you will be eaten, too. Only by standing together, do we win freedom, together.

It will, in fact, post First they Came, because trans people in the South are genuinely being killed for their identity, be they incest kinksters or as straight-laced fans of the missionary position as they come.

First they came for the Communists And I did not speak out Because I was not a Communist

Then they came for the Socialists And I did not speak out Because I was not a Socialist

Then they came for the trade unionists And I did not speak out Because I was not a trade unionist

Then they came for the Jews And I did not speak out Because I was not a Jew

Then they came for me And there was no one left To speak out for me

pathetic-floretic

"It's not the feds" yeah fucking right.

1- we as trans people are quite close to the tippy top of the government's shit list. If they can cause disorder and immorality in the community, they can use it as evidence of our "evil ways"

2- suddenly, high profile trans people are being called out for being paraphiles, only after the government's focus on them fully begins

3- techniques like this have been used before (e.g. undercover cops joining protests to turn them into riots and then respond aggressively)

4- you know what they all say about us? That we're pedophiles, and just a couple months ago, I was talking about this issue in the transfem community and a woman who said my addiction wasn't real (because actually sweatie she has 52 degrees) said that "there is nothing wrong with watching cp in isolation". DO YOU UNDERSTAND HOW UTTERLY BRAINWASHED YOUR SOUND. Are you fucking SHANE DAWSONING me right now?!

5- Geckowo, a popular trans comic creator, responded to a comment by an incest survivor saying that they didn't like the word being thrown around for shock value. Geckowo replied flippantly, saying she wanted to make more incest jokes to anger what they described as some sort of over-sensitive pedant. They deleted the tweet, and neither them nor any of the other transfem comic artists who were in her friendgroup bothered to address it or cut ties with her. This incest shit is priming us for lower empathy and less self-awareness.

Long story short, I hate incest, you should too, and the best rebellion against the government is not being who they want you to be.

brythonlexi

The feds and conservatives are going to call us paedophiles no matter what we do. It's not some conspiracy on one single kink out of all the many in the world. If it wasn't incest kink, we'd be attacked for something else. And have been. Repeatedly. I've been trans since you were in kindergarten. This is not new, we have always been treated this way.

pathetic-floretic

"Hdg is a horror setting" idfk make a different tag then you're killing my fucking buzz

brythonlexi

Okay but like. Sure you have your preferences but like. Have you read the original HDG? Or Abscission? Or Divaricated? Definitely aspects of horror.

#hdg #human domestication guide

shebangasylum

I’m gonna be strictly OOC for a sec

One of the aspects of HDG fandom has been a somewhat uncomfortable tendency for certain parts of the fanbase- myself included, at least in jest- to treat the setting like the foundations of a cargo cult. Like, we all know the Affini are fictional, but there is a hope that they actually aren’t, that Glitchy is secretly in contact with the space plampts, and that they’re coming to save us.

And, like, I get it, things are absolutely fucked right now. The world is run by corpofascists and evangelical death cultists, the small glimmers of hope for a better future are being swamped by a seemingly ceaseless tide of hatred and bigotry, and as a trans person, HDG is like the nirvana that we all would love to see the world around us resemble.

So wake the fuck up, SAMURAI, we have a better future to make.

No matter how shit things get, always remember that the best solution in times past to dictators, to tyrants, and to inequitable systems has been revolution. Whether that’s violent, peaceful, or just all of us choosing to no longer comply with a system that does not give us basic decency; we can create that better future, that better tomorrow.

The Affini stared out at a vast, uncaring universe and chose to fill that void with love.

Let’s choose the same path. We don’t have our plampts to guide us, but we sure as hell can take lessons from the pages of our favourite kink fiction.

gondorrevealparty

baseball interviewers will ask "how do you throw the ball so good" and Mariners players will casually drop that they have a headmate who plays the game for them

immaterial-vivi

if you're writing in the HDG setting but hate hdg, maybe make up your own all-conquering space mommies to 🥺 at?

glitchyrobo

Do they affini have games on their phones? Do they play league of legends?

The affini have many fun games for easily entertained little pets to be distracted by on their communicators =)

Fortunately all MOBAs were lost in the great 'net wars of the early 2100s and thus the universe has been spared from League of Legends since

sarinisanta

how does peluso feel about pineapple on pizza?

Peluso lacks the knowledge of what pineapple may be

Here he is pondering about this conumdrum

sarinisanta

You know my friends are super cool and super nice and super awesome and super huggable and super super and i love them very much. @ratgirlexe @ms-teagan @brythonlexi @foxilittlezoe @amorphoussilica @jellyamp @celestedoesregress @azaleatheanteater @immaterial-vivi @glitchyrobo @quelvetgoblin

I have even more friends than this but these are some of the best (and also some of the ones i feel comfortable bothering :P)