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i'm too tired to correct anything so whatever
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i gave up on trying to find a style that fit my persona so have this
I don’t know who needs to hear this but you’re neither lazy nor useless, fatigue is a symptom of your illness(es) and it’s completely reasonable that a fatigued person would struggle with the things you’re struggling with
this meme made me realise that other people apparently know how to show empathy without personal anecdotes
… how…. please teach me
I’m pretty sure none of us will get answers but please…if someone knows the secrets to showing empathy without personal anecdotes please speak up. We need answers
(Me (adhd + autism) can show empathy, but not sympathy. For me, it’s like I do the exact same thing, but as well as showing empathy through anecdotes I show sympathy through empathy).
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I have somethin I guess? I’ve been the Support Friend for most of my life so I managed to get it down to a formula. TW: dog death
1. Ask Questions
This is mainly to keep them talking, that way a) they feel like they have a confidante in you, and b) the pressure is less on you to Say Things. In fact it shouldn’t be about you Saying Things at all, it should be you figuring out where they’re at and trying to understand. E.g. “My dog died, I miss him.” Ask questions, and when they start talking, let them talk. “What was his name?” “How and when did he die?” “Tell me about him.” “What was he like?” “What’s your favourite memory of him?” “When did you first meet him?” “Did you teach him any tricks?” Again the point is to keep them talking, the questions are just to get them on a roll. If you’re worrying about what to say next, listen to what they’re saying and ask details of what they’re currently talking about, or mentally prepare your next question.
2. Listen
Let them talk. The more you listen to them talk, the more they feel like it’s okay to talk to you. If they dwindle off, ask them something else to get them talking again. Upset people usually have a lot to say.
Every now and again you can throw in little sentences like “Wow, what a bitch!” “Aw, so sad.” “What the fuck? Why?” just to prove you’re still listening and following, and haven’t wandered off into space.
3. When they’re done, give it back to them
It’s a technique called mirroring. Sum up whatever you heard in short form - if they’ve talked for half an hour about the little details of their deceased pet, say something like “It sounds like he was a very good boy/sounds like he meant a lot to you/sounds like you will miss him.” It’s been known to make people dissolve into a sobbing mess, because this is the part where you prove you’ve done your homework, you listened, you care, you get it.
4. If you really want to offer a solution, ask first. You can just skip this step altogether tbh.
Only when someone has finished talking about whatever is upsetting them, ask if you can help. “Can I offer some advice?” Now is the time for SHORT anecdotes. Short. It’s not about you sharing your story, it’s about them getting advice. Remember they don’t have to take your advice, again it’s about them and their emotions, and they know themselves best. “When my dog died, I did this. Would that help?” “I read somewhere about doing this. Maybe try that and see how it goes?”
Hope this helps y’all. The TL;DR of all this is basically listen, and prove you’re listening.
Thank you!!!
That explanation really is so good!
as someone with ADHD: this has saved me
My intense emotions make it hard to be myself around others. Emotional Dysregulation is a MASSIVE and underrated topic in ADHD.
THAT’S ADHD?????? WHY THE HELL DO ALL MY PROBLEMS STEM FROM ADHD???!!! YOU WANT TO TELL ME I FEEL LIKE I’M IN HELL EVERY DAY BECAUSE NOBODY HAS BOTHERED TO FUCKING DISCUSS ADHD WITH ME PROPERLY AND PERHAPS EVEN MEDICATE ME???? YOU WANT TO TELL ME THAT I LOST YEARS WORTH OF LIFE BECAUSE OF UNMEDICATED ADHD???? WHICH ISN’T MEDICATED IN THE FIRST PLACE BECAUSE I AM “SUCH A GOOD CHILD” SO EVERYBODY IS LIKE “BUT YOU DON’T NEED MEDICATION, YOU ARE NOT THAT HYPERACTIVE, PLUS YOU DON’T HAVE ANGER OUTBURSTS!” ???
Are u ok
Just having an identity crisis!
I laughed way more than I should at this reaction
Reminder that it really doesn’t matter what ways you’re marginalized, if you’re not black you’re just as capable of anti blackness as white cishet people. No amount of “but I’m gay!”, “but I’m trans!”, or “but I’m not white!” changes that.
And being neurodiverse/disabled isn’t an excuse for anti blackness either.
Don’t like this post if you’re not gonna also reblog it.
Boost my voice, don’t just like it for woke points.
I’d fucking love it if white people didn’t use this post to pat themselves on the back. I guarantee that no amount of “don’t people know this already?” or “isn’t this obvious?” will actually make you a good ally to black people.
The only things that will make you a good ally to us is listening to us, boosting our voices, defending us when we need it, calling out your fellow whites when they display overt and/or covert racist behavior, and checking yourself consistently.
reminder that this blog, while not politically focused, supports BLM. bootlickers and racists aren’t welcome here, and never will be.
i am not black, but i see you.
i am not black, but i hear you.
i am not black, but i mourn with you.
i am not black, but i see the injustice that you face.
i am not black, but i see the fear for your sons and your daughters. your brothers and sisters.
i am not black, but i will stand with you.
i am not black, and i will never truly understand how it feels to be black in america, especially in times like these.
but inaction is also an action. and i will not stay silent.
i don’t see your color. i appreciate and honor your color and your roots and experiences. you are valued and respected.
make this post not the only contribution you make the blm movement.
spread awareness, sign petitions, donate, and protest if you are able.
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https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-0KC83vYfVQ-2freQveH43PWxuab2uWDEGolzrNoIks/edit
PLEASE SIGN PETITIONS, DONATE, CALL AND EMAIL TO DEMAND JUSTICE, AND SHARE WHITE HOUSE PETITION PROMOTING THIS EXTRA BECAUSE IF IT GETS AT
https://twitter.com/smpjmth/status/1266060168044974081?s=21
“a list of petitions to sign! please sign and share it!! #BlackLivesMatter 🔗https://t.co/MsdHFWk6QO 🔗https://t.co/jfpIeeUn5k 🔗https://t.co/
he really just called me ugly in four different languages
don't remember these but it looks like i'm completing @strugglebugs sentences
This goes for everyone on Tik Tok who cosplays:
Do NOT cosplay as a real ass person and do a POV of their death
Examples: 1.) Anne Frank. 2.) A School Schooter Victim. 3.) A Police Brutality Victim. 4.) A Serial Killer Victim. There may be more but that's all I've seen so far.
Y'all disgust me when you do that, I get it, you are trying to spread awareness but seriously?? Making it a POV??? Do NOT use someone's death to get clout.