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love lives at the kitchen table

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that’s love babey!

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I find it fascinating that people who choose not to have children are generally assumed to feel really strongly about not having children (or even to feel really strongly against children, anyone’s children, in general). I am probably not going to have children, not because I REALLY REALLY HATE the idea of having children, but because I don’t really really love it. Out of all the major decisions I will make in my life, this one is the only irreversible one. I can sell a house, quit a job, divorce a spouse, whatever. I cannot unhave a child. I cannot opt out of being a parent once I become a parent. I can’t even take a step back for the sake of self-care or whatever, or else my child will suffer.

So for me, having children is fuck yes or not at all. The default will be to remain childfree. Having children should be an opt-in decision, not an opt-out one. Until/unless I develop really strong feelings about wanting to have children, I won’t have them, even if that means I never end up having them at all.

functioning-minne-holic

Sometimes you just come across something that puts into words what you have yet been unable to.

mmymoon

Yes, yes, YES. This is what I think exactly.

In recent years I’ve been calling out those assumptions, too, that childless people must all HATE CHILDREN SO MUCH, because it’s a cruel, awful cultural trope. People must once again make a false choice on another arbitrary binary. You’re not permitted to simply like children but recognize you do not wish to parent; you must either PERFORM PARENTING or else you HATE KIDS.

(And it’s completely understandable why young people, especially young women, play into this cultural trope. The incredible weight of cultural pressure from everywhere, constantly, all the time, makes you snap out the answer – since I’m not ready to have a child this very instant, fine! Clearly I hate them. I myself felt very pressured to perform this in my twenties, even though I was in no fit state to parent.)

It’s understandable, but it’s so, so sad, because children benefit so much from loving, connected aunts and uncles and non-gender-normative role models invented in their lives, taking on some of that heavy burden from the parent (who, as pointed out, cannot opt out, not ethically). It further widens the divide between parents and non-parents. I’ve even seen parents perform some vestiges of this, “Oh, ha ha, I mean, I like MY KID, but I hate kids…” Fine– sure– maybe you are the Very Special Adult Who Hates All Children (Except Yours), and it isn’t simply that children can all be draining (because they are, in fact, children)… but who is culturally benefiting from your performance of Hating Children? Of loudly announcing it? Of re-inforcing that the only way to tolerate or love children is within the mandatory confines of a nuclear family? Let’s normalize Liking Children for non-parents. Let’s normalize having a community of loving, concerned adults who COULD very easily opt out of a child’s life… but stay by choice. Let’s support the parents who make the choice, and understand those who don’t might have different goals in their lives. But let’s support CHILDREN wherever we may find them. That’s what Mr. Rogers would do.

everythingfox

House intruders (don’t call the police)

buttermyassroll

They’re so adorbssss

lmaonade

i should have acted out in school more none of the consequences mattered actually

nate-tm

i think about this too often

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Man found the stoplight cameras were activated during yellow lights and decided to cut the wires of it.

loremerchant

Florida Man: Chaotic evil. New York Man: Chaotic good.

timelessblasphemy

Holy shit. Nah dude look up the entire story, it’s INSANE.

The dude got arrested once before this for using a painter’s extension rod to point the stoplight cameras into the sky instead of cutting the wires. He didn’t cut the wires until AFTER he got out after being arrested the first time–which he did after posting facebook videos that prove that the stoplights are intentionally rigged to trick drivers into citations–the yellow lights at intersections with cameras only last THREE SECONDS, as opposed to the five seconds they last at other stoplights without cameras in the same county.

When he cut the camera cords, he reported his deeds to the news -himself,- and then politicians pressured the local police force into arresting him. The local police and sheriff deputies actually SUPPORT him for his actions because the lights have been killing innocent people! During his most recent arrest, one of the Sheriff’s Deputies actually -offered to bail him out-. When he got home again after these incidents, there was a surveillance camera planted at his house BY THE GOVERNMENT to watch him! His reaction to being surveilled? He painted over the camera in America’s flat out fucking ballsiest “fuck you” to the gubmint I’ve ever heard of. And it gets EVEN CRAZIER. After painting over the camera, suddenly this guy–his name is Stephen Ruth by the way–started GETTING ATTEMPTS ON HIS LIFE. He reports that a car intentionally tried to hit him in a head-on collision, and after talking about the car to his neighbors, they confirmed that the car in question (Or at least, one that was visibly identical, its occupants included) had been staking out his house! Somebody was legitimately trying to MURDER HIM over his discovery and his actions!

As a final insult to injury, Ruth pointed out that the VAST majority of the cameras were found SPECIFICALLY in lower-to-middle-class neighborhoods. As well, the victims of these rigged stoplights tried to go to the local news station to talk about the deaths of their family members that occurred from the rigging. Aaaand… The local station, “News12″, never aired their interviews. Remember how I said that, after cutting the cables and calling the local news station, Ruth was arrested because of pressure from politicians? Get this: News12 is actually owned by CableVision, who PROVIDES INTERNET SERVICE TO THE CAMERAS. Whereas mister Ruth was only trying to help people and save lives, he’s been caught up in a full-blown fucking government conspiracy that’s out for his blood. This guy isn’t Robin Hood, he makes Robin Hood look like a -CHUMP-.