(…) the lonelier a person gets, the less adept they become at navigating social currents. Loneliness grows around them, like mould or fur, a prophylactic that inhibits contact, no matter how badly contact is desired. Loneliness is accretive, extending and perpetuating itself. Once it becomes impacted, it is by no means easy to dislodge. This is why I was suddenly so hyper-alert to criticism, and why I felt so perpetually exposed, hunching in on myself even as I walked anonymously through the streets, my flip-flops slapping on the ground.
hello! last year in october i adopted a stray cat and named her Siren
she was the closest thing to an antidepressant i had, and was the main source of my happiness until april of this year, when my family moved from idaho to missouri, and i had to leave her with our neighbour because our current house doesn’t accept pets.
my older brother’s apartment recently allowed them to have animals, and he’s willing to drive out to idaho and get her for me, on the condition that i pay for gas.
a rough estimate is i would need $500, and i’m running out of ideas to get the money, i’m unemployed and have crippling social anxiety, i hate asking people for money, but if you can spare a dollar, i would be beyond grateful, i can’t give much in return, but i am still offering friendship bracelets.
https://www.paypal.me/devinemerson
https://ko-fi.com/devinemerson
please, don’t even think of donating if you don’t have the money, but if you do, i’m forever grateful
People with low self-esteem are more likely to seek support from an intimate partner in a manner that tends to backfire, according to new re
“‘We were interested in studying social support seeking because a large body of research demonstrates that social support has important consequences for mental, physical, and relational well-being, but only a few studies had previously examined the determinants of how people seek social support,’ said study author Brian P. Don of Clackamas Community College.
‘By drawing on self-esteem to understand the roots of support seeking behavior, this study makes an important advancement in understanding why people are sometimes unsuccessful in their attempts to seek support from intimate partners.’
The researchers were particularly interested in a phenomenon known as indirect support seeking — meaning sulking, whining, fidgeting, and/or displaying sadness to elicit support. People are believed to engage in this type of indirect communication because they fear being rejected.
In two studies, with 176 couples in total, the researchers found that those with lower self-esteem were more likely to engage in indirect support seeking. This type of support seeking was, in turn, associated with a greater chance of a partner responding with criticism, blame, or disapproval.
Those with low self-esteem — but not those with high self-esteem — also viewed their partner as less responsive to their needs when they responded negatively to their support seeking.
‘People with low self-esteem tend to seek support in ways that actually hinder their partner’s ability to provide support, which in turn is has detrimental consequences for how support seekers feel about the relationship,’ Don told PsyPost.
‘Theoretically, this occurs because people who are low in self-esteem tend to be wary of social rejection, but this fear of rejection ironically results in behaviors that tend to elicit the very rejection that people who are low in self-esteem fear.’
‘One caveat is that, although the pattern of findings was consistent across both studies, the results did not fully replicate for all of the paths we tested. Thus, future work should look to continue to replicate these findings,’ Don added.
‘Given that support seeking is a relatively unexplored area, there are many questions still left to be tested, like how the support provider’s self-esteem may play a role in this process.’”
It’s called the crayola colorcycle program! As on its FAQ, they mention the following:
“Crayola ColorCycle will accept all brands of plastic markers, not just Crayola markers. That includes dry erase markers and highlighters! ColorCycle will eliminate placing hundreds of tons of markers into landfills.”
There do seem to be some limits, however, as far as I can tell, anyone can ship in a box of markers. “Any sturdy cardboard box with minimal outer markings will work. The more markers you ship, the more efficient this program will be. We suggest a minimum of 100 markers and a maximum of up to 40 pounds.”
oh my god i'm cleaning out my desk and i found my first phone
it was a fucking house phone that i was so stoked to have because it was mine that i kept in my own room and i cannot believe technology has progressed at the speed of FUCKING light to the point where this is a hilarious artifact to have had in like 6th grade and now theres kindergarteners with iphones
each button made a different tone so the numbers you dialed a lot became a subconscious melody in your head and if you hit the wrong button by accident it would sound like a wrong note in a song you know by heart
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