Just some thoughts related to the broad topic of mental health. Forgive me as this will probably be long and I will likely go off on a few tangents. I'm not the greatest at expressing my thoughts, okay? I’m an INTJ and have always been better with books than sharing with others.
Motivation for living: Okay, so I've had depression before and even had suicidal thoughts at one point in my life. Now this doesn't mean that I am an expert in the subject. Oh no. I do not claim to know jack about other people's situations. How could I really? I am not them and have not shared their experiences. There is one thing that I know though. In order to climb out of that pit, you need more than just the love of others. You need to live because you have your own dreams and love yourself enough to allow yourself to go for them, even if there is a chance you may fail. With successes or failures, you then need to dare to dream up more. As such, you need purpose in life and to be able to allow yourself to enjoy the journey of life itself with all its flaws. Now I'm not saying that having others' love is not essential to this however. On the contrary, people need support. Having the love of family and friends means that there is even more hope for a person because it means that there is something good about that person which they know and love. With their help, they can even help a person to see these good points which perhaps they had never even noticed about themselves. Doing so could help that person to begin loving themselves again. But as stated, their support can only ever be that. Support. The way that they see themselves as a whole has to change because living for others alone for most is not enough. If you are loved one of somebody that is having suicidal thoughts, please remember these truths, lend your support, and help your loved one to seek counseling. You alone cannot be a person's cure, so do not bear that burden alone.
Living solely for others: Is this humanly possible? I think not. There's some good TED talks on this. Everybody alive has at least some internal reason for living. But what of those people in history who have lived altruistically, giving their everything for others? Let me ask-Was there ever really such a person that lived their entire life for other people? Does altruism really exist? Jesus Christ may be who Christians think of. I will just say this: Nobody on this green earth is Jesus Christ, so we cannot be expected to live like him. But what about parents? Parents live for their children, right? ...But even they still have their own personal reasons for going on. Maybe they are living vicariously through their children. Maybe they derive satisfaction from being a good parent. Maybe there are several other reasons, but be it personal satisfaction or planning for the afterlife or whatever, we are human and the only way we can ever live is as humans-For ourselves!
One more topic that is related a bit more to the first and is the big reason for all these thoughts being penned, err, typed-Psychiatric counseling: It's always surprising to me how much people resist seeking help. It is true that people in society do still negatively stereotype psychiatric patients. It's such ignorance that society should be ashamed of. It doesn't help anyone. What does it mean to have mental illness even? I really wish people would start thinking of it as something more physical. Because it is. It is illness just like any other physical illness. Read up a bit on neurobiology and you will understand. Genetic, environmental, chemical changes and early life experiences physically alter the way people think. But no. Society likes to slap labels on people such as "defective" and "incurable.” Thus, people are so scared of being labeled as a "nut job" or being "permanently locked up" or rejected that they don't seek help on their own and often vehemently resist anyone who even suggests that they do; even when they are in an obvious crisis. It's really bad.
For those depressed, they choose bottle everything up and try to live with it on their own, but in the end it's really too much and then, boom, they do something drastic. They need to seek help. Chemical means can help, but they also need someone to talk with that allows them to be completely honest. And sometimes people can try to open up to others, be it a counselor or a friend or family member, and it does not help. This may be for a number of reasons. Maybe the family member or friend cannot lend them the support that they need because it is too much for them themselves to deal with. Perhaps they don't see it as something serious, writing it off because "everybody has problems." Maybe they just don't know what to say and start avoiding that person because they feel inadequate to help. Perhaps the counselor could not connect with the individual. Counselors or psychiatrists don't always say the right things. They are only human, too, after all. The great thing about seeking professional help though is that if what they are doing is not helping, all they have to do is see someone else! When they finally get help, when they actually feel free to let those walls down and open up, it’s a truly amazing thing; like night and day. People in crisis have so much fear and resistance and think nothing can help them…But then they actually seek help and after it all are glad that they went. Then they continue working towards gaining control by going to outpatient meetings, continuing counseling, and taking medications. Those that stick with it, climb out of that pit and go on to live their lives, perhaps even going on to help others that face similar challenges.
Okay, enough for now. Tired. Bed time.















