Healthy Twos are generous in their efforts to care for others, able to identify and name their own emotional needs without fear of being “needy,” create a comfortable safe space for others, aware they are more than the sum of their relationships, and maintain appropriate boundaries.
Twos are the first to respond in a crisis and the last to leave
Twos are extremely sensitive to criticism
Twos thrive under appreciation and gratitude
Twos focus their energy on meetings other’s needs
Twos give the impression they have no needs of their own
Twos care for those weaker or less capable than themselves
Twos need to feel indispensable
Twos rarely ask for help and don’t know how to receive it
Twos believe you have to give to get
Twos see themselves as generous and unselfish
Twos can sense others’ needs and automatically fill them
Twos want to please everybody and respond to praise
Relationships mean absolutely everything to Twos
Twos may self-identify through their relationships (“I’m Amy’s friend…”)
2w1: want to do things right and for others to see them as responsible and dependable; they are more self-critical, self-controlling, distrusting, and guilt-ridden. They have clearer boundaries but trouble expressing their emotional needs.
2w3: are more ambitious, image-conscious, and competitive. They focus more on their relationships than average Twos and are often more extroverted. They want others to see them as successful, and are willing to become whatever others need to achieve their desired results.
Under stress: Twos become demanding, controlling, or manipulative, struggle to forgive, and blame others for their unhappiness (unhealthy 8 traits).
When feeling secure: Twos accept and embrace that they need not love everyone and feel no need to pretend otherwise; they learn self-care and invest time and energy into creative projects, which enables them to feel good about themselves even when they aren’t helping someone (healthy 4 traits).
Advice for the 2: remember, you are still worthy of love even if you need to ask for help. Others will not abandon you if they no longer need you. Before you volunteer or offer advice, ask if this is your job or place or not. Remember, not everyone can sense your needs as well as you can sense theirs, so be open when asking for what you want. You can show your true self to the world, and still have people love you. Ask yourself, am I doing this expecting payback or simply out of kindness?
Influences on MBTI Types:
ISTJ: would use Si to attend to people’s physical and immediate needs, have a better-developed sense of Fi than other Enneagram ISTJs, but struggle to meet others’ emotional needs and express affection through action; would use hard work in an attempt to be ‘useful’ to others, and expect something in return, often disappointed in others’ unreliable nature.
ESTJ: would likely turn their desire to serve toward community needs and/or in answering them rather than individualistic basis; Te-dom would seek service through creating or expanding an organization built on broad impact; repressive of inferior Fi needs, may develop an attitude of how those not ‘serving’ a cause ought to be.
ISFJ: often where the 2 shines most; a eager and expressive ISFJ, often incredible at attending to others’ immediate, present, and physical needs, but cautious in asking others to commiserate with them or help them talk through Fe-issues; can identify entirely through being acts of service, and feel displaced if others no longer ‘need’ them in some capacity. Uses Fe + 2 to read and meet others needs in advance.
ESFJ: another ‘most likely’ combination; but far more focused, like the ESTJ, on the broader community’s needs rather than individuals; likely to set up hospitals, social organizations, help groups, and create movements to meet immediate local needs; low Ti + 2 leads to a lack of self-analysis, and fears of others not needing their influence; can be pushy in trying to fix others’ problems for them, if immature or imbalanced.
INTJ: quite unlikely, but Ni + 2 would read into situations, formulate ideas on what this person may need, and give it to them in an effort to bond; a more emotional INTJ than some, but resistant toward admitting personal needs; like the ISTJ, may rely on steady work ethics and/or turn the 2 toward problem-solving and warning others of the consequences of poor decisions, with the expectation others will repay them in kind, through similar gestures.
ENTJ: would feel a burning need to make massive changes on society, in pursuit of some futuristic vision; less hard-assed than many Te-doms, but also more vulnerable, and self-conscious about whether they are ‘everything their loved ones need’ (inferior Fi worries); often out of touch with their feelings, and prone to loneliness in their troubles, but covering it up through aggressive Te/Se behaviors.
INFJ: gifted at figuring out not only what people need, but what they need to hear, in order to shape them toward a greater version of themselves, which can lead them into manipulative behaviors if unhealthy; when healthy, an effective counselor-type personality, able to forewarn of troubles, usually strongly reliant on their relationships and concerned with appropriateness; sometimes with a greater over-reaching vision they want to see come about.
ENFJ: an aggressive social activist who thinks in the long term, rather than on short-term concerns and needs in the community; often wants to shape society for future great rewards; but prone to inferior Ti + 2 problems of not wanting to appear weak, and fearing unless others praise and follow them, they will leave no lasting impact on the world.
ESTP: an amiable problem-solver, skilled in reading people and responding in the moment to their needs, often with high tert-Fe development, which softens the ESTP’s usual blunt methods into greater social awareness and a desire to help rather than criticize.
ISTP: a softer inferior Fe, but one still out of touch with how to soften criticisms in order to find acceptance; may repress their advice and/or draw into themselves, to avoid creating conflict, but also can read people (tert Ni) and feels a need to forewarn them of impending troubles.
ESFP: is much more of a “doer” than an “emotional talker,” often taking direct Te-actions to organize events and problem-solve, rather than truly listening to others’ needs; may give impractical and/or generous gifts out of a desire to help, but a lack of social appropriateness or imagining how the other person might feel. May be distressed that they cannot connect to others as easily as the SFJ-2’s can.
ISFP: softens Fi-dom into a helpful and non-critical personality, eager to help others but uncertain how to do so on an emotional sharing level; the 2 can increase their sensitivity and take the rough edges off inferior Te. May enter nursing and/or doctoring professions, where their Fi-dom detachment allows them to offer care without over-expression.
ENTP: much like the ESTP, it would soften the bluntness of the TiFe axis, and make the ENTP anxious to find creative and unique ways to help others; often charming, and intuitive in reading potentials and forming conclusions off them, but somewhat forgetful of daily needs (in other words, may turn their helpful skills to abstract themes such as cognitive therapy or psychology, rather than hands-on usefulness).
INTP: a continual push and pull between the frankness of Ti-dom’s system building and inferior Fe’s desire for social acceptance, often mild-mannered and eager to please, but also independent; the likely effect on inferior Fe would be a sense of morals defined by vague concepts and ideologies formed around social betterment and higher consciousness.
ENFP: more socially-aware, eager to please, and harmonious than most ENFP combinations, focused on maintaining their relationships and volunteering to help out, with the expectation that others will do the same for them without being asked; non-confrontational, and angst-ridden when in trouble, but devotes a lot of their ‘helpfulness’ toward psychology or tert-Te direct decisive action, more than long term care.
INFP: the quiet, sensitive helper who thrives on others’ loves and gives it selflessly in return, but who ‘introverts’ their feelings and needs, vanishes in troubled times in their own life, and feels a sense of loss when they cannot find their place in the world.
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