Cringe Containment Zone

She/they. Don't tell me I'm cringe, I already know.

[cainshitincorporated]

it's so obviously intensely the case that most people violently despise trans women and the few that don't aren't trans positive they're merely neutral and disinterested. our "allies" won't waste their breath talking about us or what happens to us

and it's tragic, of course, because it results in us living in hiding, accepting mistreatment, accepting being stepped on by our own communities, begging for scraps. it results in us romanticizing the mundane, begging for the bare minimum, utterly unable to envision anything more

[tboy-trash]

the outcries about shinigami eyes being used to keep an eye out for transmisogynists and transphobes in general and how this rots your brain [sic] or something are really funny considering crowdsourcing (which btw is not synonymous with "not making your own judgement ever") is one of the things the internet excels at. once again this just falls into the category of "you just don't like it when it's trans women doing it".

[tboy-trash]

like, this extension is basically a version of "does the dog die" (beloved by most people on this site!) but for transmisogyny. there's nothing keeping you from interacting with red marked users or looking for the reasons they're marked red to see whether you agree (i often do this myself even though there's never any false flags, i just like to know what particular brand of transphobe i'm dealing with). you're just mad trans women are trying to keep each other safe from you lol

[recoveredcombatsister]

trans unity is a fucking scam

[recoveredcombatsister]

if you trannies would just shut up about how we treat you we can form a united front against a nebulous oppressor until we achieve an undefined liberation, then we can talk about abusing you less i promise 🤞

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

It's always "stop harming yourself or we'll have to lock you up!!!" and never "what do you need to change to want to harm yourself less and how can we help you make some of these changes?" and that's why we're not getting anywhere

[hauntedfragmentgeode]

Queer unity has been trying as hard as possible to downplay any possible transfem issue. Pay gap adding up to thousands a year? Not a big deal. V coding? Never mention it. Trans women are much more likely to be sent to an early grave than their male counterparts? Stop bringing that up. Trans people collaborating with kiwifarms? Just internet drama.

You know what IS an important issue? Getting called a fucking birthday boy. They get all hands on deck about it. They will write VERY long posts about how important it is you not use it, and that anyone who does must be punished as severely as possible

There's only one explanation. The lives of trans women are so worthless to them, so fucking disposable, that a trans man getting invalidated is actually more important to them. That's how these people, who demand we view them as family and allies, who think we should be ready to die for them, view us.

I know people who treat house flies with more respect than that.

[mousidy]

only trans women have feelings and experiences

[mystery-incorporated-whore]

isnt it funny (read: im fucking exhausted) that at the end of the day it all comes back to binaristic thinking, no matter how much tmes claim they want to "abolish the binary entirely"

"transandrophobia has to exist as the transmisogyny but for trans men." "why cant we get umamusume but with anime horse boys :(" "trans women and trans men suffer differently but equally." "forcemasc." "but i want a blue version :((((((("

you see two classifications that happen to be related by a common factor (transness) and have arbitrarily decided they must be equal and opposite in every way. i cannot think of anything that is more "adhering to a binary" than that

[cainshitincorporated]

hi

i wish you have a very good day

mwah

holy shit a message in my inbox that isn't accusing me of war crimes or something

thanks anon

[pokeballvictimized]

A pretty common strategy for vulnerable minorities is to be intentionally provocative in a relatively safe place to weed out people who are unsafe; express an opinion in an intentionally inflammatory way and you know that anyone who reacts poorly is not safe for you to be vulnerable around.

[cainshitincorporated]

tumblr recommending me terfs posts very cool very epic

[cainshitincorporated]

the TMRA dweebs love to use men of color as a gotcha to win arguments by pretending to care about them. "well if you say all men are dangerous, what abt black men? sounds pretty racist of you" coming from somebody who never engages with issues of racial justice and systemic racism outside of using it to defend men

[cainshitincorporated]

i confess to having anons on in the first place almost entirely because i know it's the way to get shit like that sent my way and i do find it very funny

[cainshitincorporated]

Crazy thing to have a post about transmisogyny get popular and then complain about how it's a really bad sign of transmisogyny on this website that people only made THAT post famous and not all of your other brilliant posts on the matter, and how the people who reblogged this one are just dumb virtue signaling cowards and don't actually care about transmisogyny

fucking lol

the post is not famous. it has like, one or two thousand notes, as i recall? and that's well enough for me, i absolutely could not handle and do not want this blog to be popular. in case you haven't noticed im far too abrasive to not have swarms of bad faith actors like yourself jumping down my throat all the time. it suits me well enough for my posts to be screaming into the void

and as such, in this case, i'm making an observation in my quiet, private little echo chamber that it is odd to see one of my posts break containment, to become more widespread, and for it to be that one specifically. i'm musing to myself about why that might be, and of course, the fact that i personally wish it would've been any other, better post

this doesn't mean i don't stand by the original post's contents, otherwise i'd have turned reblogs off long ago. any discussion of transmisogyny is worthwhile, but i'm also not stupid. i know the kinds of arguments that won't rock the boat and which ones rabid transmisogynists can still accept so long as they file off the serial numbers. some people are even pretending it's about transmasc people!

i'm bemoaning more than anything that my own post was weak, that it was vague and milquetoast enough a critique to resonate with people who misread it, and that it won't really challenge anybody to reexamine their views about the material conditions of how they treat the trans women in their life. maybe i'm wrong, and it will. maybe i'm foolish to expect a post to do that in the first place. maybe i wouldn't like it even if i did. such is life

in any case, thanks for your time. reading comprehension homework is due friday

[mousidy]

Tara knight doesn't deserve harrassment but frankly I think she's not a good enough writer for this attention at the best of times.

The kinds of attitudes she expresses towards other trans women is deeply concerning, she either believes these things and only walks them back to save face or is only doing this to farm engagement.

This combined with the fake FBI letter (and her continued contradictory lies around it) and her use of ai to write have completely discredited.

There are plenty of transfeminist writers of a similar or greater skill who do not engage in these things and I'm rather disappointed you're continuing to give her air and the benefit of doubt.

I've been researching these claims and... yeah I'm hopping off the defense wagon

despite how vile the original essay was, I was willing to believe she was humble and skilled enough to pull an about-face and reflect on and then deconstruct the essay's problems with remarkable precision and poetry in the span of a few hours. and to be frank that probably says something about how much bullshit I'm able to swallow before finding fault in someone I admire

my benefit of the doubt for other trans women stretches pretty far, but learning about all the evidence of AI use--the hallucinated Dworkin quote with the broken chatgpt link, the double spaces where em dashes would have gone, the extraordinary pace of her output, the entire FBI letter thing--it takes it from "she fucked up with that essay but I respect her ability to deconstruct her own fuckup" to "oh, maybe it's actually been careless AI slop the whole time, and I've been running defense for someone who doesn't give a shit about who the essay hurt"

to be frank I'm embarrassed I was so ready to set aside the damage she did, especially to so many trans women more disabled and vulnerable than I, just to run defense for a "writer" who in all likelihood didn't even write her own damn apology

cards on the table, she DMs me every essay she releases and I've been reblogging them without questioning how she gets them out so fast. she's called me a couple times, and last night she called and mentioned how she regretted walking back the whole "male behavior" aspect of the essay, as if she somehow had never written that whole second essay that did such a great job deconstructing and discarding it, and it still took me till this morning to finally go "ok, none of this actually fucking adds up and I'm clearly getting cozied up to by another in a long line of people who have figured out how trivially easy it is to gaslight me thanks to the work of my abuser." that doesn't excuse how happy I was to run defense for her transmisogyny and ableism the moment I had a way to cling to the idea she was better than that though, and I'm sorry I did

[foxgirlmindcrank]

tumblr "leftist" voice: yeah im just really uncomfortable with this Black woman writing about caregiver burnout. yeah its just super icky to me for some reason. no im not interested in interrogating that further, thanks for asking though!

My older sister is disabled and I was a caregiver like it or not from age 8 to 24. I had to physically move her multiple times a day straining my back and causing me pain to this day. I understand caregiver burnout better than most people, and I understand the racial aspects in play. I also understand she's 22 years old and had a bad breakup.

What about the constant masculinization of the puppygirl anon? What of the doubt thrown on the puppygirl's disability? Why is the failure of both parties to establish limits and boundaries? Why is this self admitted vent post framing a disabled trans woman as the spectre of capitalism itself? Why are basic Marxist principles around domestic labor being turned on their head to support this notion? Why is the lack of these things getting done suddenly no longer an issue once that it's not the disabled puppygirl not doing them?

There ARE good articles that address caregiver burnout. There are good articles that address how racialized partners are often expected to do more or put upon by their white partners. That was neither of them.

never come to my inbox with this weak ass shit again

[lonely-space-egg]

It's absurd to me that anon acts as if "writing about caregiver burnout" is this inherently righteous act. The person that caregiver burnout hurts the most is the disabled person who is dependent on that caregiver, who cannot walk away from their disability. Not to mention that "it was just so hard for their caregiver" is rhetoric that has been used time and again to justify the neglect, abuse, and even murder of disabled people. Because no matter how poorly caregivers are treated, an ableist society will always sympathize with the burdened caregiver over the disabled person in their care.

An article on "caregiver burnout" that contains no discussion of how capitalism fails caregivers and disabled people, that refuses to recognize the role that abled people play in overloading caregivers, that pins all the blame on the disabled person, is worse than useless. An article that ends with "And once the disabled person was gone, the caregiver [and the abled people who never helped support her when she was overburdened] settled into a happy life" perpetuates the dangerous trope of the disabled leech.

[janederscore]

respectfully, we cannot actually have a coherent politic as a class if we are unable to criticize the works of our own. obviously it's important to keep reminding the bloodthirsty masses on tumblr to not immediately pick up the pitchforks, but like. if you're going to go to the trouble of presenting yourself as a thought leader, you are going to be beholden to the opinions of your peers, i'm sorry . write a better article next time

[janederscore]

like. let's not beat around the bush here. dump your puppygirl is a piece of writing that constructs the question "what is there to be done about the useless eater?" and answers it with "well, we get rid of them." it is not interested in arguing the nuances involved in running multiply-disabled households, it is not interested in finding a real solution to the problem of being forced into a caretaker role, and it is certainly not interested in applying a marxist analysis to anything, especially not tara's polycule dynamics.

it's a hit piece. it's erratic, hateful, barely manages to construct a thesis, and was penned with (in my opinion) full knowledge that it would hurt a lot of people. you don't have to be nice about it. you certainly don't have to act like anyone talking about it is lashing together a hate mob because they dared to name an -ism or two.

like. i don't know. hypervisibility and the way it interacts with internet accountability is a huge problem, obviously. a mistake of any severity as a transfem always has the potential to pop off into a massive life-ruining spiral. i don't have a fix for this.

i just don't agree that the solution to the popular girls deciding to throw out haymakers once every few months is to just tell everyone in harm's way to shut up and take it.

[rui-cifer]

obivously I wish all trans women the best personally but professionally as an intellectual if you, a trans woman, fucking uncritically cite terves I am not going to be feeling so nice when I read and discuss your work and further I won't take anyone's defense of your work on the basis of care for other trans women seriously

[rui-cifer]

like you could say all sorts of things about my writing (although whatever you say won't hurt my feelings since it can't be worse than what I personally say about my own writings) but I can guarantee you that from now til I die I will not be citing terves uncritically. this is the bare minimum of being a transgender woman that writes for a living.