i wonder what the response wouldโve been from the fandom if mickey had been the one to not sign the marriage license in 10x08๐คทโโ๏ธ i feel like people often give mickey the benefit of the doubt, but never ian. ian was open about the fact that he did it because of his parents, so i wonder if mickey had said that people wouldโve sided with him. i feel like people donโt acknowledge what frank and monica did to ian as abuse that often, because itโs always compared to what terry did to mickey. itโs really not a competition even if terryโs actions were more horrific and extreme
โian shouldnt complain to mickey about his childhood, mickey had it worseโ
literally both of them were abused their entire childhoods. yes, what mickey went through was more horrific but ians still incredibly traumatized??? hes allowed to awknolege all of the shit he went through and tell his husband because thats how a healthy relationship works, they communicate. ian and mickey both get to mourn the childhoods they never got because terry was a monster and frank and monica were disgusting.
i will never not feel so bad for ian because of how his parents treated him.
as far as we know, ian was the only one who was physically abused by frank throughout his childhood. frank hated ian the most because he โlooked the most like his motherโ (and the most like frankโs brother, clayton, ianโs actual dad clayton, but nobody actually ever says that) and ian thinking that he looks/acts like monica seriously effects him later on. frank treats him like absolute dog shit, and we hear ian say that when he was six frank locked him in the basement for days. one of the biggest things about shameless is the โcycle of abuseโ and frankโs treatment of ian is ironic because from what we know, frank was the only one his parents ever abused (physically, at least).
and for monica, ian was his favorite. i donโt give a shit if fiona says that lip is her favorite, from monicaโs first episodeโs itโs been apparent that itโs ian. for example- not giving a shit about any of her childrenโs accomplishments until it comes to ian, and her eyes light up, or making lasagna โianโs favoriteโ (itโs not). but being monicaโs favorite isnโt actually a good thing. monica seriously abused ian, too, and people donโt always awknolege that. their relationship was built on manipulation, monicaโs victim complex, and neglect. she did nothing but use and hurt him, and whether or not she really loved him doesnโt really matter because either way it just hurt him. and the saddest thing is no matter how far away he pushes her, heโs still attached and he still loves her. we donโt know what she truly put him through as a child, but we can assume that it was hell. from ianโs whole speech to her in 7x09 we can tell that he definitely needed her, but she was never there. this is also apparent in fionaโs monologue in 7x12.
also, in season 11 when debbie tells frank, โyou ruined love for me!โ that definitely also applies to what ian was saying in season 10 about having frank and monica as role models for love. they damaged him so fucking badly and even though he did get a happy ending, he got totally screwed over.
i get that people hate ian for saying that frank was worse than terry in hall of shame, and i made a whole post about that (here!), and although if weโre really thinking about it, yeah, terry was technically worse; ian still went through so much traumatic shit that needs to be taken into account.
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