Calico Constellation

Plural・Alterhuman・Queer

[calicoconstellation]

Welcome to our blog!

Quick about us and boundaries below the cut

We are the Calico Constellation, a queer neurodivergent nonhuman family who share a 20 year old disabled body. We semi-reject plural terms, and instead tend to refer to ourselves as a family and to each other as our others. We have a range of physical and mental disabilities that make communication difficult, so please be patient with us. Please also use tone tags sparingly, as we find their constant use causes us more harm than good. It is also worth noting that all our fictives are very canon divergent. Collectively, we use it/they pronouns and go by the name Calico.

We don’t do most online discourse, we are radically inclusive, and we are strongly anti-harassment. If you're sysmed/an endo-denier, think harassing anyone is acceptable, intend to drag us into discourse (especially shipcourse. We have no shipcourse stance. Yes that means we interact with people on both “sides”), or you're pissy about the language we do or don’t use for ourselves, leave now.

We do not support “kff” as y’all have misappropriated our terms and harmed our communities. Here is our carrd with an alternative term to “kinning” as well as a brief description on why kff are harmful. Your experiences are valid, harming other communities is not. Please consider switching to another term.

Asks, dms, tag games, etc. are welcome! We reply slow AF but every ask makes us happy!

If you need your trigger tagged, let us know! We do not judge triggers. However, we will not do trigger warnings for disability, body types, or reclaimed slurs.

Our members are:

Luz - all neos, it/its, he/him, she/her

-> Luz’s dæmons: Clover - dæ/dæms, she/her, they/them; Stringbean - she/her

King - he/him

Saffron - she/her, petal/petals

-> Saffy's dæmon: Sophia - dæ/dæms, she/her, they/them

Amity - she/her, mae/mer

-> Ami's dæmon: Ghost - he/him

Catra - he/she alternating

Jace - he/him

Iridescent - it/its

Muffin - she/sir, questioning others

Summer - she/they

Cosmo - they/he

Sparrow - he/him

Bubbles - they/them, bun/buns

Solo - he/him

Adora - she/her, maybe he/they

Eda - too old to care

Dusty - she/they

[valtsv]

"how do you know your friends don't secretly hate you/find you annoying" baby i've said things in discord servers that would make any other human being get a restraining order and move countries to never encounter my presence on this earth again, and they haven't even blocked me

[valtsv]

if my friends hated my guts they simply would not keysmash in response to some of the worst sentences ever put together by the human mind

[special-lucky-chosen-one]

amazing

[special-lucky-chosen-one]

you'll never guess what I found more of

MEN do NOT have a PELVIS that is just SCIENCE you GODLESS LIBERAL

[special-lucky-chosen-one]

more people should be reblogging this version, because I think it's terrible that men just sort of trail off down there

[miiilowo]

tumblr is the root of half the internets trends and memes

[miiilowo]

the curse of being on this website is knowing that shit like cottagecore and dark academia and the obsession with mushrooms and whatnot started on this godforsaken platform and not tiktok

[feralfens]

the mushroom thing started with a fucking shitpost where it ends with "you cannot kill me in a way that matters" "im not fucking scared of you!"

"op what does this mean" "decay is an extant form of life"

I KID YOU NOT

[calicoconstellation]

One day we will answer the asks sitting in our ask box

The ADHD has won today

but someday

[nyancrimew]

did you kno your a cat?

im kbity?

[syncopein3d]

SUCH a kbity

[nyancrimew]

how

[greendog3]

[nyancrimew]

!!! whoa

[werewolbachia]

'horseplay' and 'monkey business' being treated as synonyms means something. don't know what though

[aaays-and-bees]

Monkeys are so silly that what they consider business, horses consider play.

[werewolbachia]

[damnfool-of-a-took]

[greelin]

being alive is great because there are so many different vegetables you can sauté. but then there are also the horrors

[yves-and-scessernee]

with faith and perseverance, one day we will sauté the horrors

[hugtheteadrinkthekitten]

i love this website

[space-station-collective]

friendly reminder to those who need it, because i sure do sometimes:

it's okay for your headmates to be similar! y'all literally share a brain, it would be more surprising if you WEREN'T similar. i have heard a lot of people, including myself, try to fakeclaim themselves (or others, but i'm not gonna get into that here) because "we're too similar, maybe i'm just pretending". you guys share a brain! amnesia barriers or not, you still have the same life under your belt and the same set of experiences more or less (not including exomemories, usually)

i promise you, that isn't a reason to think that you're faking. people who spend a lot of time together, like, i don't know, sharing a brain, often end up being very similar!

just remember, you are valid in your experiences, whatever they may be. you're not alone in this

-the host (he/they)

[movedclonekisser-deactivated202]

we should legalize polyamorous marriage  for all the other reasons we should but also because I wanna see what polygamous divorce looks like

[killjoystrays]

[calicoconstellation]

Y'all I think we need to add "NSFW" to the list of words that need to be put on the high shelf (along with "problematic" "gaslight" etc)

I just saw a discord server claim to be "anti-nsfw". And a while ago I saw a server that had "You participate in anything nsfw" on a dni list.

Do like. Do the kids these days know what these words mean?

-Luz

[calicoconstellation]

welp that was enough tumblring for the day going to go back to the void for a bit

-Luz

[houndsofbalthazar]

I think tumblr is one of the places most saturated with people who will delight upon seeing any creature. I am very thankful for this website allowing me to indulge in delight at creatures.

[mercuryfountain-deactivated2024]

if you want young queers to want to associate with elder queers then maybe the culture shouldn't be so ridiculous and over the top. I get second hand embarrassment from drag queens and leather daddies and kinksters in puphoods acting like they represent all gays

I would much rather be represented by drag queens, leather daddies and pups than by petulant cowards afraid of their own reflection. You are talking about people who never had the option of being seen as "normal people who just happen to be gay" and channeled their pain into self expression, community and art. And who are you? You define yourself not in terms of who you are and what you create but in terms of who you are not and what you lack. These people you hate only seem larger than life because your life is too small and insignificant to fit them.

[theocseason4]

Nahhhh not a therapist saying this what do you think you get paid for

[diogenesnuts]

[yuri-alexseygaybitch]

fandom therapist turns out to be high school mean girl more at 10

[fluorescentbrains]

doc davis actually isn’t associated with the tiktok user—and they’re really salty about the video

[thekawaiibutterflygirl]

oh g o d, NO jlsfdlksfdjkjsdfkjlsdfjlksdf BRUH

[seardrax]

Reblog this version. The response of the real doctor is very important as well as the keymash.

[syscourse-confessions]

"If a headmate has an experience the body doesn't, then that's based on what the brain knows of it." if a headmate cannot speak no matter how hard they try, and they struggle with formulating words and are simply not verbal at all then what other words should they use besides "non verbal"?

of course nonverbal headmate experiences are going to be different than bodily nonverbal singlets, and a system with only one nonverbal headmate is going to experience something different than a system who has many or all nonverbal headmates / experiences a physical condition that causes the nonverbal-nature, but like…

that does not invalidate the fact that the headmate cannot speak, and trying to force them to speak or take away the mots known word that means "cannot speak verbally / with their mouth" just feels weird.

also, to say that people shouldn't use those words but not give alternatives is frustrating. what other terms are there for nonverbal headmates to use?

(also it feels weird to say that nonverbal experiences are exclusively a body thing, as there's a lot of conditions (physical and mental) that may affect verbality, and i would not be shocked if plurality (especially DID) was one of them)

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[mitsukiisys-deactivated20240201]

well , you could use “ can’t speak “ or “ quiet “ alter !

but if someone physically or mentally can not talk bodily , then they are non-verbal/semi-verbal . DID is different because other alters can speak .

personally , listening to actual non-verbal people would be best !

[cambriancrew]

Acting like everyone in a system must be nonverbal for one member to be allowed to use the term nonverbal, is to discount the personhood of the nonverbal alters/headmates.

They're a nonverbal person, so they deserve to be allowed to use the term nonverbal regardless of what other people in their body can or can't do.

[mitsukiisys-deactivated20240201]

sorry ! i just listen to disabled people because i respect them , which is something you should work on .

[cambriancrew]

A nonverbal systemmate IS disabled.

[mitsukiisys-deactivated20240201]

if they bodily are disabled , then yes ! but if they are not bodily disabled , then no .

it is like saying a black alter in a white body can consider themself black , or if a japanese alter having a japanese name despite bodily being non-japanese .

they just can’t .

[cambriancrew]

If you physically cannot speak, that's a disability. Doesn't matter if others in your system can speak, if you can't then there's times where that inability to speak will cause distress and dysfunction and communication issues with the outside world and that's all that's required for something to be a disability.

There have been case studies of systems where some of the alters are blind (due to psychogenic blindness) but the others are sighted.

It doesn't matter that the rest of the system can see. Those alters are blind and therefore disabled.

We Willows the hosts are disabled due to our PTSD, along with Ameris and Jas who also have PTSD. We're diagnosed with it.

The other members of our system do not have PTSD. We're still fucking disabled and you do NOT get to sit there and tell us we don't actually have a disability from it just because there's members of our system who don't have PTSD from the things we do.

You're talking to a system with multiple disabilities. We have physical issues that we all share. We all deal with the body's mental and physical health problems. But some of our problems are restricted to only some of us. Those of us with those problems ARE disabled due to them.

And if you think that having sysmates without those same problems makes you the struggling sysmates actually abled, you're not only ableist, but you're denying the distinct personhood of the sysmates who are disabled.

[mitsukiisys-deactivated20240201]

nonverbal people can not talk , regardless what alter it is . a alter not being able to talk , but other alters can , means it is a temporary thing for the body .

nonverbal people has it as a permanent thing for the body .

listen to actual nonverbal people .

i am not even going to touch on your PTSD because that is not what i was talking about .

it is OK to be wrong sometimes 🫶 /gen

[cambriancrew]

Question: Are sysmates people or not?

A nonverbal systemmate is a person who cannot speak at all times. Just because they're not the only person in the body doesn't mean that nonverbal person suddenly gains the ability to speak, because sysmates are individual people. Same way a sysmate who is blind cannot see, regardless of what other people in their system can or can't do.

You wouldn't say the SYSTEM is nonverbal, only that that sysmate is. Other people in their system having the ability to speak doesn't change the fact that that person in that system cannot speak.

Saying that a person's ability or disability must align with the system's as a whole to truly count is denying the individual personhood of that sysmate and is ableist.

[calicoconstellation]

What the fuck is this nonsense

Sysmates are PEOPLE. They are not the body! I'm so sick of this community acting like it's okay to diminish sysmates to just the body.

We're chronically ill. We have a child who legitimately is more chronically ill than the rest of us. It's not even his perception of symptoms, when I was co-con while he was fronting I could feel exactly how much worse his symptoms were. And then as soon as I switched in our symptoms eased.

He cannot walk for more than at most 5 minutes. Is he not allowed to say "i cant walk well" just because the rest of us have an easier time? Fuck that.

We also have a nonverbal sysmate here. Telling these two they're not REALLY as disabled as they are because "b-but the body!!!" is absolute fucking bullshit.

Ableist anti-plural nonsense

-Luz

[friendsofrosemary]

Remember, a solarpunk future without support for the disabled population is just green-washed ableism.

A solarpunk future that doesn't include (or purposely excludes) Indigenous/PoC populations is just green-washed white supremacy/colonialism.

A solarpunk future that doesn't feed the hungry or house the poor is just green-washed capitalism.

Solarpunk is more than just an aesthetic. It's a hope for a better future for everyone.