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Happy International Women’s Day!

“The women we honor today teach us three very important lessons. One, that as women, we must stand up for ourselves. The second, as women, we must stand up for each other. And finally, as women, we must stand up for justice for all.” ― Michelle Obama

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If we truly separated the art from the artist Polanski would be recognized as an ugly child rapist and would be in a French jail. like I seriously have never understood that line of rhetoric in regards to serial abusers who make art. whatever you think of polanskis films is so laughably not the point. the INABILITY to separate the art from the artist makes him a free man today, because we respect purported genius & power over the wellbeing of children.

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I started a new farm in Stardew Valley, this house looks so cute and cozy

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Is it valid to reject someone for their music taste? How about for not having a college degree? Wouldn't that be classist? And for having a disability? Isn't that ableist?

Your body is not a validation machine and activism is not performed in the bedroom. You can show someone human decency and respect without fucking them. You "owe" sex to noone. The moment someone says it is your duty or obligation to fuck someone, they are advocating for rape. Saying "if you don't fuck X you're a bigot" is a coercive rapist tactic. Your bodily autonomy is not conditional.

Abelism is to discriminate in favor of able bodied people. In no way does that have to do with sex because your genitals are not a public resource and your intimacy is not a shared societal value.

Classism is prejudice in favor of someone of a certain social class. This has nothing to do with sex because your sexuality is not a tool to ease class divides and your bed is not an economic commons.

You owe absolutely noone sex. For any reason. Ever. To attempt to negotiate otherwise is to advocate for rape.

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I will also be inspired by the love between Frog and Toad.

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“Titanic is the hugest success, and it’s because it’s totally queer. Leonardo DiCaprio was totally androgynous at the time. DiCaprio and Kate Winslet were both not known — not stars — so there was no power dynamic between them. Like, if you look at the sex scene in Titanic […] he’s the one who’s being totally fragile and insecure. I think it was a huge success because it’s a love story with equality and with emancipation.

I think the movies are in dialogue. I thought a lot about Titanic because it’s also the present of a love story and the memory of a love story. A successful love story should not be about eternal possession. No, it should be about emancipation. And it is an emancipation story, because maybe [Kate Winslet’s character in Titanic] lost this love, but we see her being free and riding horses and wearing pants. It’s all about emancipation.

The success of a love story is not about how long it lasts. It’s not about ending your life together. Him dying is tragic, but it’s not the end of the story. In equality, there is emancipation.”

— Céline Sciamma on ‘Titanic’ influencing ‘Portrait of a Lady on Fire’

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Sciamma is herself a lesbian, to my knowledge, and Portrait of a Lady on Fire seems to be very popular among the lesbian bloggers I follow

So I say this not necessarily as an angry attack on either Sciamma or her movie

But

I think this quote is an excellent example of how “queer” is meaningless, insulting term even among LGB people. I am to believe that a relationship between a man and a woman, literally heterosexual in every way, is somehow “queer.” This heterosexual couple, with their PIV sex, is worthy of being labeled with a slur used against LGB people violently for decades. Why?

Because…it’s not a typical het love story?

Because one of the (still) heterosexual characters is “androgenous?” (As though this would erase the heterosexual nature of the relationship?)

This is my problem with “queer”

More than just the fact that a slur is “reclaimed” and forcibly labeled on those who want nothing to do with it (at this point, often by those in positions of privilege with little to no thought over their continuous use of a historic slur)

My problem is that a traditional, perfectly acceptable heterosexual couple is somehow subversive enough to be equalized with same-sex relationships

There is a reason to celebrate non-normative heterosexual relationships. I do not doubt or criticize that desire or work

But to equate those relationships, those STILL straight relationships and couples, with same-sex couples by placing them both under the same umbrella, named after (again) a HISTORIC HOMOPHOBIC SLUR, muddies the water of why the two relationships in these two movies are different and hold different weight in culture

And more importantly, why these types of relationships in the real world are likewise valued differently

Then again, maybe this explains all the “queer” celebrities I see claiming woke, LGBTQIA status in their perfectly comfortable, socially approved straight relationships. When literal PIV is part of a “queer” love story, I guess I can’t deny their validity

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Also I watched the movie and I didn’t see an emacipation at all, they have an affair but the lady goes to her forced marriage while the painter come backs to her regular life

#ya how is a straight couple queer.....#dont get it #queer in this sense just means not normal???#wut

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New York Times is tracking everyone that has been accused of sexual misconduct that is facing consequences and fallout since the allegations against Harvey Weinstein broken on October 5th.

There are 34 names on their list right now. There are many many more who have been accused, and who have resigned, but this is the high profile ones.

You might notice some similarities between the members of the list: there are some clear trends. For instance, every one of them is a white male.

Then there are the differences, usually in the response. Some are apologizing and immediately looking for ways to make amends, others are vehemently denying the accusations to the point of insulting their accusers.

This list is going to get longer as more people find the courage to come forwards. As long as the country continues to listen to those that step up to speak, and as long as society continues to trust them, this list will keep getting longer.

And that’s a wonderful thing.