Ladies and gentlemen let’s get real for a minute.
This post is probably going to be an unpopular opinion and might even upset some.
This is to the ladies and gentlemen that do not let their man or women go anywhere without them.
I seriously want to know, what’s up?
WHY can’t they go somewhere without y’all?
Y’all will let them go to work and the store and that’s about it.
WHY can’t they go have a day or night without you being with them? Either by themselves or with friends.
They are ADULTS! They need time away from you. It’s healthy!
EVERYONE needs their own time to decompress.
Do you constantly call them if they don’t answer?
Do you go hunt them down wherever they are at?
Do you tell them they couldn’t make it without you?
Do you use you kids to get your way?
Do you name call or put them down?
Do you withhold money from them?
Do you scream/yell/threaten them or get physical?
Do you limit who they can talk to or what apps they can use?
This is TOXIC and a form of ABUSE…it’s DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
WHY in today’s society is this EVEN ACCEPTABLE ?!
Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, psychological, or technological actions or threats of actions or other patterns of coercive behavior that influence another person within an intimate partner relationship. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone.
Examples of domestic violence:
Physical Abuse: Hitting, slapping, shoving, grabbing, pinching, biting, hair pulling, etc. are types of physical abuse. This type of abuse also includes denying a partner medical care or forcing alcohol and/or drug use upon him or her.
Sexual Abuse: Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact or behavior without consent. Sexual abuse includes, but is certainly not limited to, marital rape, attacks on sexual parts of the body, forcing sex after physical violence has occurred, or treating one in a sexually demeaning manner.
Emotional Abuse: Undermining an individual's sense of self-worth and/or self-esteem is abusive. This may include, but is not limited to constant criticism, diminishing one's abilities, name-calling, or damaging one's relationship with his or her children.
Economic Abuse: Controlling or restraining a person’s ability to acquire, use, or maintain economic resources to which they are entitled. This includes using coercion, fraud, or manipulation to restrict a person’s access to money, assets, credit, or financial information; unfairly using a person’s personal economic resources, including money, assets, and credit, or exerting undue influence over a person’s financial and economic behavior or decisions, including forcing default on joint or other financial obligations, exploiting powers of attorney, guardianship, or conservatorship, or failing or neglecting to act in the best interests of a person to whom one has a fiduciary duty.
Psychological Abuse: Elements of psychological abuse include - but are not limited to - causing fear by intimidation; threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner's family or friends; destruction of pets and property; and forcing isolation from family, friends, or school and/or work.
Technological Abuse: An act or pattern of behavior that is intended to harm, threaten, control, stalk, harass, impersonate, exploit, extort, or monitor another person that occurs using any form of technology, including but not limited to: internet enabled devices, online spaces and platforms, computers, mobile devices, cameras and imaging programs, apps, location tracking devices, or communication technologies, or any other emerging technologies.
LOOK, if they did it before they got with you, don’t try and make then someone they aren’t.
They ARE WITH you/ married to you.
They WORK HARD to provide for you/family.
It’s a PARTNERSHIP not a DICTATORSHIP
Can someone please explain to me why this happens? Because I honestly want to know.
If you made it through this whole post and you’re upset at it, stop and think about that. Do you do these things? If so, you really need to take a look at yourself and ask WHY?
Are you insecure, jealous, petty, afraid of them having fun without you?
You need to look within yourself and fix you. GET HELP. If you wouldn’t want it for your loved one don’t do it.
This is unacceptable and shouldn’t be considered the NORM.
