Hey Anabelle! I went on a date a few weeks ago and it was the best date I’ve ever been on, fantastic conversation and chemistry. We slept together on the fourth date and he ghosted me 4 days later. He mentioned his friend is undergoing cancer treatment and he was heading back home (france) for the holidays later that week. My friends think I should double text and check in but I feel like him not replying is a choice and I shouldn’t chase here. Any advice? I was upset and spiralled for a bit this past week but feel like I’ve kinda made peace with it now
Hi ❤️ I’m so sorry and can completely understand how you felt and are feeling. It’s such a sinking feeling and really annoys me about dating and boys these days but as women we just have to trust our instinct and also make peace with the fact after we sleep with someone they might ghost. It’s an awful reality of today. That’s why it’s so important to only have sex if you are happy and want to no matter the outcome.
In this case, I will say the holidays are a busy time and that’s quite sad about his friend too. I think you have nothing to lose by checking in on him because of the circumstances. Did he do most of the texting while you were talking consistently? Im going to assume yes, so I think reached out to him and you can ask how he is doing / how’s home etc. but just accept that there’s a potential you might not get a response. You checking in isn’t necessarily chasing it’s more just you caring about how he is doing, not like you’re trying to see him or lock something in. But yes just see if he does reply and what his response is but of course there’s a chance he might not.
It does sound like you had fun, went on some great dates and enjoyed yourself so just have that be a positive feeling for you and there are so many more guys out there, more than you think. Sending my love and merry Christmas ❤️❤️