Anabelle

[castelvetrano]

how are you managing being so far away from your family? I saw you mentioned you would live in London forever. Just wondering if you're close with your family and if that's been hard? Thinking of a similar move distance-wise, but I struggle with the idea of being so far from family when we're really close! x

My family and I are all best friends and could not be closer. We talk all the time and go on family holidays and my parents visit and I go back home twice a year so I really don’t mind. Also I love my family but I’m building my life and my future family’s life as well so that’s a priority for me too.

Does help one of my sisters lives in London too.

Definitely go for it! You can always ALWAYS come back home.

[castelvetrano]

anon - maybe this is too niche/isn’t helpful but if you have any nice sterling silver or gold jewelry that was passed down to you but maybe isn’t your style for everyday wear I recommend going to a jeweler that specializes in custom jewelry or restoration! I inherited these rings from my grandma but I’m just not a ring gal so they were just sitting in my jewelry box for a few years as a like a sentimental keepsake… I figured my thrifty grandmother would’ve preferred me to get wear out of them so I had them turned into pendants for necklaces :)

What a lovely response. Not too niche at all. Thank you for sharing

[castelvetrano]

Where can I get long lasting sterling silver jewelry? I feel like every old school jewelry brand has gone down in quality a lot the past little while, like tiffany and birks etc and then the new brands are just overpriced crap

Hmmm I would go to an actual jeweller!

[castelvetrano]

I get such bad bumps (they look like pimples) and redness after every Brazilian no matter what. Have you ever done laser? Is it worth it? My only reservation about it is that I always get a landing strip when I wax so i don’t want to be completely bald down there forever especially when I’m pregnant etc (no judgement to women who do though)

Have you tried sugaring or other kinds of wax? You could try that if not I think laser is a great option just get your bikini line / bum and that way you can keep a landing strip. If you have darker hair / pale skin that’s the best combo for laser

[castelvetrano]

Do you have a favourite niche or unconventional food combo

Maybe not a combo but I’m the least picky eater ever. I love trying everything and anything and I like some more weird things like organ meat etc. My sister and I will someone’s order someone we would normally never just to try it.

[castelvetrano]

Do you ever get hair treatments, or use any serums etc? Or are you just genetically blessed with shiny hair

I don’t love to say this but yes but my parents have really great hair. I feel like gloss treatments are good though. I use nice shampoo and conditioner but also I’ve washed my hair with body wash and sometimes buy cheap shampoo and conditioner and it turns out the same lol

[castelvetrano]

You act like West London is all there is.. Brick Lane is in East London, it's not Portobello Road. OP, you should ask someone that is actually from London.

I know it’s not portobello road - I said it SOUNDS like it, IE Lots of vintage shops and stalls. Don’t get all offended. I prefer west London and have been living here for nearly 3 years. If someone asks for advice I’m going to give my advice, what I know, what I can actually attest to and what I think is nice. Please move on.

[castelvetrano]

Ohh okay thanks so much I’ll check those out! The cirkle sounds familiar so I’ll definitely go there. Brick lane is like this long street (or lane lol) with tons of vintage stores, and then there’s this one big underground market with tons of different booths/vendors but I think it might be catered towards like youngsters/trendy ppl haha and maybe kind of touristy. Maybe worth checking out regardles, my friend found a Burberry coat there last year

Yeah I love all the charity shops honestly. Sounds like portobello lane which has loads burberry coats. Not sure where you’re staying though. Also goldbourne rd has loads of shops for that more vintagey feel. Not touristy

[castelvetrano]

Hiii where can I find some good consignment or vintage shops in London? Is brick lane good?

I’m not sure what brick lane is? I usually just go to my local charity shops like oxfam etc. the cirkle in marylebone I like also.

[castelvetrano]

Is that your natural colour? If not do you mind sharing what you ask for at the salon? It’s the perfect shade of light brown

That is so nice of you! Yes it’s natural, have to thank my mom for her good hair colouring

[castelvetrano]

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Exactly !! Don’t ever make a long term decision unless someone is committed or you have a ring

You get it. Unfortunately some people do learn the hard way - but that’s life and part of life and learning as you go ❤️

[castelvetrano]

Would you ever move abroad for a man?

Well yes if we’re engaged or getting engaged. I would move anywhere for my husband or future husband. I would not move for some random guy or like a potential

[michalinamurawska]

[castelvetrano]

Aww thanks so much for such a thoughtful and kind reply! I checked in with him - he was apologetic and said he’d love to see me when he’s back. Thank you for giving me the nudge I needed.

Merry Christmas to you and yours ❤️

Awe that makes me so happy!! And of course it’s my pleasure. Excited for you and hope it all works out ❤️

[castelvetrano]

Hey Anabelle! I went on a date a few weeks ago and it was the best date I’ve ever been on, fantastic conversation and chemistry. We slept together on the fourth date and he ghosted me 4 days later. He mentioned his friend is undergoing cancer treatment and he was heading back home (france) for the holidays later that week. My friends think I should double text and check in but I feel like him not replying is a choice and I shouldn’t chase here. Any advice? I was upset and spiralled for a bit this past week but feel like I’ve kinda made peace with it now

Hi ❤️ I’m so sorry and can completely understand how you felt and are feeling. It’s such a sinking feeling and really annoys me about dating and boys these days but as women we just have to trust our instinct and also make peace with the fact after we sleep with someone they might ghost. It’s an awful reality of today. That’s why it’s so important to only have sex if you are happy and want to no matter the outcome.

In this case, I will say the holidays are a busy time and that’s quite sad about his friend too. I think you have nothing to lose by checking in on him because of the circumstances. Did he do most of the texting while you were talking consistently? Im going to assume yes, so I think reached out to him and you can ask how he is doing / how’s home etc. but just accept that there’s a potential you might not get a response. You checking in isn’t necessarily chasing it’s more just you caring about how he is doing, not like you’re trying to see him or lock something in. But yes just see if he does reply and what his response is but of course there’s a chance he might not.

It does sound like you had fun, went on some great dates and enjoyed yourself so just have that be a positive feeling for you and there are so many more guys out there, more than you think. Sending my love and merry Christmas ❤️❤️

[castelvetrano]

do you have any tips for being more comfortable when wearing heels? i wanna start but my feet are wide and i always get painful blisters. thanks so much

I think it’s just practice. I think I was practicing without knowing as I did ballet and was on point for years and just got used to pain and remaining indifferent to it. I would just find brands that fit for wider feet. Like I wouldn’t wear pointed toe, instead I would go for straps or square toe, platform heels are comfy. I would just go to a store in person and try on a bunch and see what looks good on your feet and what you feel comfortable walking in. But it’s honestly just practice & beauty is pain