Moved To cath-arses

No longer using this blog. New main is cath-arses :)

[catihere]

OMGS ITS CATI FROM PINTEREST (im cecil markowitz's #1 fan btw :3)

Yooo I remember you, you commented on my Burly Black post a few weeks ago! Can’t forget Cecil Markowitz’s #1 fan

Anyway I’m moving from this blog, my new is @cath-arses 😅

[vinny-in-pinkxd]

Riordanverse characters I just KNOW are best friends even if they’ve never interacted

Ethan and Hazel

Leo and Grover

Lavinia and Rachel

Drew and Calypso

Dakota and Beckendorf

Reyna and Bianca (+ Clarisse)

Luke and Octavian

Magnus and Connor/Travis

Argos and the guard statue guy thingie (I forgot his name 🥀🥀🥀)

I can’t think of any more but I just KNOW these ppl are friends trust trust trust

[everythingwasalreadypicked]

Was having gender thoughts before I went "Blorbo!" So here is some au doodles

[anistarrose]

happy disability pride month! please try to write image descriptions for your posts, especially disability-related ones, so they can be accessible to screen reader users and to low-vision people who read with enlarged fonts.

signed, a disabled person who tries to help people provide image descriptions whenever I can, but sometimes struggles to type that much, because of my own disability. to preserve the health of my wrists, I instead offer you this masterpost of ID resources to help you learn how to write them if you can, and crowdsource them if not

[widdleguy]

pjo disability headcanons for disability pride month

this will not include adhd or dyslexia cuz thats just canon for most of them

Will Solace - hard of hearing, ptsd, asthma

Thalia - Tourettes, dysgraphia

Nico - asd, ptsd, panic disorder, chronic leg pains<3, bonus: Nope from wottg is his service dog

Annabeth - asd, ptsd, asthma, arthritis, sad

Claudia (fourth cohort) - type one diabetes

Leo - deaf (from the explosion), asd, nerve damage, sad + gad

Reyna - left leg amputee

Shane (cabin 10) - epilepsy

Pollux - arthritis

Rachel - type one diabetes

Percy - ptsd, asthma, depressive episodes, panic disorder

Jason - asd, ptsd

Frank - asthma, irlen syndrome, ADHD!!!!!

Hazel - epilepsy, asthma

Luke - partially blind

Drew- ocd, ptsd, gad

Tyson - down syndrome

Christopher (cabin 10) - idk but he uses crutches

Sadie Kane - bipolar, irlen syndrome

Lester - sad, gad, panic disorder, asthma

[crimeronan]

i've seen a couple people in the notes of this very good post about fictional polyamory by @thebibliosphere say things along the lines of "oh, i've been doing it wrong :(" or "how do i know if i did this right??" or "i should probably give up and start over, i wrote this badly :(" and. no!!!!

(i AM seeing far MORE people say "oh, this clarified and helped me so much, i think i know how to fix issues i've been having with my own story" which. YES!!!!)

listen. if you're a monogamous person who's writing a polyamorous relationship, and you've been focusing mainly on The Triad and All Three Together All The Time as the endgame, that's literally fine. that's a perfectly acceptable and strong starting point for your plotting, imo. you do not need to give up on a story that you've started like this.

but the things discussed in the post Can and Should improve your execution!

you can keep the same plot beats and overall relationship arc 100%. polyamorous relationships are infinite in their formations, every one is unique. "basically a monogamous romance but with three people" Does exist, as a relationship type. you're not hashtag Misrepresenting (TM) poly people with it

BUT i do think it will help to read up on some poly people talking about how their relationships Differ from monogamous ones.

so i have outlined some basic important concepts about polyamory.

MORE IMPORTANTLY though, i've broken down some questions that you can answer throughout the writing process to strengthen your individual dyad relationships, your individual characterization, & your characters' individual feelings/experiences. this is a writing resource have fun

future kitkat butting in to say i spent over two hours writing this and it definitely needs a readmore. it is also NOT comprehensive. but everything should be pretty simple to follow! feel free to reblog if you find it helpful yourself or just want to reward me for how gotdan long this took KSLDKFJKDL.

i've grabbed quick links for a couple of the important concepts, some have SEO pitches in them but the info largely seems to be good. (if i missed anything Egregiously Gross on these sites i should be able to update the links with better ones later, since they're under the readmore.)

sidenote: this is NOT meant to be overwhelming, despite the length. if you can't read all of this, that's Okay. you do not need to give up on your writing.

here we go:

compersion!

compersion is a BIG thing in a lot of polyamorous relationships. it's joy derived from seeing two (or more) of your partners happy together, or joy derived from seeing your partner happy with someone else.

compersion is really important as a concept because it highlights that every individual relationship within a polycule is different -- and that that's a GOOD thing. it's sort of the inverse of jealousy.

by the "inverse of jealousy," i mean that instead of feeling left out and upset and possessive, you feel happy/joyous/content.

i can use personal experience as an example: it's a Relief for me when my partners receive joy/support/sex/romance/etc that i can't (or prefer not to) give them. and i love seeing my partners make each other laugh and be silly together.

it's 100% okay for a poly triad not to be together 100% of the time, it doesn't mean that the third member is being left out or not treated equally when two people do things alone together.

(i have individual dates with my partners all the time! PLUS larger 3-and-4-person date nights.)

if the third member DOES feel jealous or left out, then the polycule can have a conversation to figure out what needs/wants aren't being met, and solve that. this happens semi-regularly in my polycule, as it will happen in any relationship (including monogamous ones)! it's just part of being an adult, sometimes you have to talk about feelings.

metamours!

a metamour is someone who is dating your partner, but ISN'T dating you. this may not be relevant for people writing closed three-person romantic sexual triads, but it's a super helpful term to know.

the linked article also lists different types of metamour relationships with some fun phrasing i hadn't heard before. the tl;dr is: sometimes you'll be domestic cohabitation friends, sometimes you'll be buddies with your own friendship, sometimes you might not interact much outside of parties, every relationship is different.

there's no one-size-fits-all requirement for metamour relationships. sometimes polyamorous people will end up dating their metamour after a while (has happened to me), sometimes polyamorous people will break up with one partner for normal life reasons, but remain friendly metamours.

the goal of polyamory is NOT for EVERYONE to fall in love. it is 100% okay if this happens in your story, it happens in real life too! but it is also 100% okay for characters to be metamours without ever becoming "more than friends."

(sidenote: try to kill any internalized "more than" that you have when it comes to friendship. friends are just as important and special and vital as partners.)

of course there are a million ways for messiness to occur with metamours within a complex polycule, exactly like with close-knit platonic friend groups. however this post is not about that! there's enough "here's how polyamory can go wrong" stuff out there already, so i'm focusing on the positives here :)

open versus closed polyamorous relationships!

i'm struggling to find an online article that reflects my experience without directly contradicting at least SOME stuff. so i'll give a quick rundown

google has a bunch of conflicting definitions of open relationships and whether open relationships are different from polyamory. the general consensus seems to be that an open relationship prioritizes one partnership (often a marriage), but that each partner can have extraneous flings or long-term commitments (most often sexual in nature).

this is not typically how i use the term wrt polyamory. the poly concept is pretty simple. a closed polyamorous relationship is one with boundaries like a monogamous one. there are multiple partners in the polycule, but they are not interested in having anybody new join said polycule.

an open polyamorous relationship tends to be more flexible -- it just means that IF someone in the polycule develops mutual feelings for a new person, it's fine for them to become part of said polycule if they want to! the relationship/person is open to newcomers.

some groups will need to negotiate this all together, others will just go "haha, you kids have fun." just depends on the individuals!

with open AND closed polyamorous relationships, the most important thing is making sure that there's respectful communication and that everyone is on the same page. but there's no one-size-fits-all way to do that.

i wish i could give you guys a prescriptive "You Must Do It This Way" guide, but that's.... basically the opposite of what polyamory is about, HAHA.

feelings for multiple people!

i was gonna tack this on to the previous section but decided it warranted its own lil bit.

a defining feature (....i'm told?) of monogamous relationships is that a monogamous person only has feelings for One individual at a time. they only want a relationship with one individual at a time. or, if they DO have feelings for multiple people simultaneously, they're still only comfortable dating one person at a time & being exclusive with that one person.

this is perfectly fine!

the poly experience is generally different from this. but once again..... polyamorous people all have different individual perspectives on this.

for me, i have never been able to draw hard boxes around romantic vs sexual vs platonic relationships, & i love many people at once. my personal polycule lacks many strict definitions beyond "these are my chosen people, i want to forge a life with them indefinitely, whatever shape that life takes"

some poly people feel explicit romantic or sexual attraction to multiple people at once, some poly people feel almost no romantic or sexual attraction at all. i'd say that MOST poly people feel different things for different partners, which is not a bad thing!

some poly people are even monogamous-leaning -- they have just chosen one romantic partner who is themselves part of a larger polycule. (so this monogamous-leaning person has at least one metamour!)

or alternatively, they might have one romantic partner AND a qpr, or other ways of defining relationships. (this is a factor in my own polycule!)

i made this its own point because if you're writing a straightforward triad, this is unlikely to come up in the story itself -- but it's worth thinking about how your characters develop/handle feelings outside of their partnerships.

like, is this sort of a soulmateship, 'these are the only ones for me' type deal? in which they won't fall in love with anyone else, and can be fairly certain of that?

that's pretty close to typical monogamous standards but you Can make it work. just be thoughtful with it

alternatively, can you see any of these characters falling in love Again after the happily-ever-after? and how would the triad approach it, if so? what would they all need to talk about beforehand, and what feelings would everybody have about the situation?

it's worth considering these questions even if the hypothetical will never feature in your actual canon, because knowing the answers to these questions will help you understand all of the individuals & their relationship(s) MUCH better.

i've been typing this for nearly two hours and there's a lot more i COULD say because... there's just a lot to say. i'll close out with some quick questions that you can ask yourself when developing the dyad dynamics within your triad

first, take a page and create a separate section for each individual dyad. then answer these questions for every pair:

how does each pair act when alone?

how do they act differently alone compared to when they're with their third partner?

are there any elements of this dyad (romantic, sexual, financial, domestic, etc) that these two people DON'T have with the third partner?

if so, what are they?

are there any boundaries or hard limits within this dyad that aren't shared with the third partner?

if so, what are they?

partner 3 goes out of town alone for a few weeks. what are the remaining two doing in their absence?

(doesn't have to be anything special, it's just to get a sense of how the two interact on a day-by-day basis without the third there)

what is something that each partner in the dyad admires about the other -- that they DON'T necessarily see in the third partner?

what problem do These Two Specifically need to solve in the story before their relationship will work?

how is that problem DIFFERENT from the problems being solved within the other two dyads?

doing this for ALL THREE dyads is VITAL imo. that way, you develop complex and nuanced and different relationships that all have unique dynamics.

those questions should be enough to get you started, i hope

then After you've charted the differences in relationships, you can start to jot down similarities in the overarching triad. what does one person admire in Both of their partners? what are activities that all three like to do together? what are boundaries or discussions that all three share?

but the main goal is to figure out how to Differentiate each relationship!

a polycule is only as strong as the individual relationships within it. if two people are struggling with their own relationship, adding a third person won't fix that.

(UNLESS the third person is the catalyst for those two to, like, Actually Communicate And Work Their Shit Out. i just mean that the old adage of "maybe if we just add a third-" works about as well to fix a miserable non-communicative marriage as, uh, "maybe if we have a baby-")

AND FINALLY.

if you're not sure whether your poly romance reads organically to poly people, you can hire a sensitivity reader with poly experience. if you can't afford that, you can read up on polyamorous resources like a glossary of terms & articles actually written by poly people. (and stories written by poly people!)

you can also just.... ask poly people questions, if they're open to it. i like talking about polyamory and my own relationships so you're welcome to send asks if u want, i just can't guarantee i'll answer bc my energy levels fluctuate a lot and i don't always have time.

polyamorous people are in an uphill battle for positive representation right now & so the LAST thing i want to see is authors giving up on their stories bc they're worried about getting things Wrong. well-meaning and positive stories that treat this kind of love as normal, healthy, & aspirational are So So So Needed. even if you guys end up with some funky-feeling details.

seriously, if you're monogamous then you probably don't have a full idea of Just How Nasty a lot of people can get about polyamory. i wish it DIDN'T mean so much for you guys to want to write nice stories about us, but it does mean a lot. and it means a lot that you want to do it WELL.

in conclusion. this is not a prescriptive guide, it's just a way to raise questions. and also, you all are doing FINE.

[thebibliosphere]

Thank you for taking the time to do this!!

I will say one thing: if you are looking for advice, don’t go to the r/polyamory subreddit. They tend to be unnecessarily mean about non-polyam people writing about polyamory. Hell, they’re mean about polyamorous people writing polyamory too if it’s not the kind of polyamory they want to see 😅

But yes, please ask!! We’re happy to help increase the diversity of polyamorous representation!

[comicgoblinwrites]

I'll throw my hat in here also--you are more than welcome to hit me up with questions. My experience isn't every experience, but I'm happy to answer questions and give feedback where I can. I love to see representation and inclusion of poly relationships in stories!

[catihere]

I accidentally deleted my Chris ships post nooooooo

[everythingwasalreadypicked]

Architect of Olympus

Plus one additional sketch I probably won't finish under the cut

[riordanverse-ship-polls]

Inge x Juniper

I love this ship / OTP

I like this ship

I feel neutral towards this ship

I dislike this ship

I very much dislike this ship / nOTP

Voting ended onApr 11, 2025

[widdleguy]

@catihere how you feeling?

[catihere]

We feeling alive

[rowanintheriver]

more batshit nonsensical purely fandom-built wlw ships in the pjo fandom please

[vinny-in-pinkxd]

May I introduce you to the ship I made up in my head and nobody else ships, Juniper the nymph x Inge from MCGA?

The original cottage core nymph lesbians… think about it….

Well well WELL am I glad you asked 😈

I LOVE THIS SHIP SO MUCH AAAUUUUGH. Usually my favorite ships are opposites attract but these two are basically the same person (personality wise). They're both very kind, both worry too much about people they love, patient, overall both great people to be around. I could totally see them together going on little picnic dates or smth. I also think this ship has a lot of potential for angst which is my favorite thing in the world. Like Inge grew up(?)/worked in an abusive household for years and I could see her waking up in the middle of the night in Hearths apartment or smth because she had a nightmare and she wants her gf to comfort her but her gf is in a whole different world and probably a tree right now so thats sad. Maybe they would iris message or smth idk.

Anyway this ship is adorable and I will gladly be the second shipper. Oh and also give you my liver.

[catihere]

OMG YESSS THANK YOU FOR HEARING ME OUT ON THIS 🙏🫶 (and for your wonderful response!)

They’re silly long distance gfs… my personal headcanon is that, after being free from Alderman, Inge wanted to travel a bit beyond Alfheim and the awful place that she couldn’t leave all of her life, and that’s how she met Juniper. Also, it’s explained in the books that huldras like her can’t live without nature, so staying by Juniper’s side while she’s away from her forest would basically keep Inge alive, which I think is a very tasty dynamic.

You read my thoughts with the picnic thing! They would totally make sandwiches and sit on the grass to braid each other’s hair and ughhh SILLIES 💚💚💚

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[catihere]

AWESOME

[catihere]

Everybody stop whatever you’re doing and look at this very very very very tiny frog I found

[bagel-bird-ainsor]

Ok apparently I wasn’t done yet. What can I say? They’re fun to draw

screenshot redraws from the episode Mosquito Dragon

[miithers]

Tumblr? Hello?? I’ve got some goods

[wawooshkat]

"Elias, am I still human?"

[nebbeli]

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