Love Is What You Make of It

🏳️‍⚧️ she/her 🏳️‍⚧️ 🍰 21 y.o. transfem 🍰 🌺 sapphic 🌺 🕹 gaymer 🕹 📖 amateur writer 📖 ❤️‍🔥 writing many stories: see pinned! ❤️‍🔥 💬 feel free to send me asks 💬

[cavvyiswriting]

I think I should do a new pinned.

Haiii! I'm Cavvy! (✿ ꈍᴗꈍ)

My Neocities/Website is below!

https://loveiswhatyoumakeofit.neocities.org/

My Neocities includes a full list of all of my major writing projects, and a soon-to-be archive of my smaller stuff from here on tumblr!

My whateverything account is @itsmecavvy (though i follow from here, oops)

I'm a queer, transfem, wiccan, aspiring author. And I really hope you enjoy what I'm writing about!

I have tons of different projects constantly in the works, and you can check my website for the full list!

Not everything I post will be something from one of the larger projects, such as my Objectum Poem I posted a while ago, or random writing prompt responses such as my short story about the mother of An Orphan Dragon.

Any Content / Trigger Warnings that a post will have will be properly marked with them at the top of the post and in the tags! (Please let me know if I didn't adequately mark warnings, I sometimes don't catch or think about them)

P.S.: If you think you remember me having another account, you're wrong, teehee~

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

doomscrolling tiktok together and I turn to you and ask, "why doesn't your algorithm recommend any videos with Black people?"

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

doomscrolling tumblr and I turn to you and ask, "why don't you reblog anti-racism when it makes you feel uncomfortable?"

[mush7221]

Sofa Soulmates

[painhaver-moved]

[aomitois]

rb and tag your favorite song that's not in english, japanese or korean

[lhavdil]

a hometown is a type of dead wife

[lhavdil]

[mousidy]

It’s actually so revolting to see how cool with racism other lgbt are as long as they get something out of it. As if life wasn’t already lonely enough as a tgirl, I also have to worry about people in my community being secretly racist. And they never think that they’re racist, they lie about wanting to learn and grow but the second you tell them “thats racist” they start acting like white saviors or they start with the white tears. I can’t even escape it when I’m around other transfems, they will always downplay racism and act like we’re fucking crazy for being bothered by their behavior. Maybe it’s stupid to complain about this to a white woman but I just don’t get it, are all of you this ignorant or are they knowingly choosing to be racist? What is it that makes someone understand transmisogyny but not misogynoir?

I think the shitty thing is that there's plenty of incentive to just not unlearn your own racism at all, because it's socially and systemically rewarded like transmisogyny. it's easy to go "well I'm not a card-carrying racist so obviously my actions are completely neutral" and wash your hands of your responsibility to self-examine

we need to actively support our nonwhite sisters and check one another on our racism or else we are working only to liberate ourselves, and we are not truly in solidarity with all of our sisters or building toward a better future for all of us

[covid-safer-hotties]

Ignoring ongoing covid paved the way for this change and put millions more in worse danger because of it. Mask up. Keep people developing debilitating long-term illness the government wants you to die from.

[but-anne-do]

so this is still bad but the tweet omits a lot of information that can make people feel overly anxious. the summary of the rule can be found here: https://www.cms.gov/newsroom/fact-sheets/medicaid-community-engagement-requirement-certain-individuals-interim-final-rule-comment-period-cms

you don't have to prove it every month (unless your state fucking sucks): "States must verify compliance of applicable individuals at application, at renewal, and—at state option—at more frequent periodic intervals. "

there's a "medical frailty" exemption that "encompasses anyone with a serious medical condition or a disability that significantly impairs their ability to live or comply with the requirements." downside: what actually counts will depend on your state

its not an 80 hr paid work requirement, the 80 hrs can include school hours and volunteer work OR you can meet the minimum earnings of 80*minimum wage aka ~$580 per month (so if you have an above min wage part time job, you don't have to fight for 80 hrs to still qualify)

most importantly, this is an Interim Rule THAT IS STILL OPEN FOR PUBLIC COMMENT UNTIL July 31, 2026! YOU CAN COMPLAIN DIRECTLY TO THE AGENCY HERE (anonymously, too): https://www.regulations.gov/docket/CMS-2026-2047/document?withinCommentPeriod=true

will a comment actually do anything? I don't know. But agencies are legally required to review them, so SOMEONE in the agency has to at least read it.

the full regulations along with comment guidelines can be found here: https://www.federalregister.gov/documents/2026/06/03/2026-11094/medicaid-program-community-engagement-requirement-for-certain-individuals#h-24

[covid-safer-hotties]

"So this is still bad, but let's give the fascists the benefit of the doubt while they're on a massive eugenics campaign that's already seen attacks on the likes of childhood vaccination and food/drug safety. It's not like you lazy disabled have to do that much *paid* work, you just need to do a shit ton of volunteering and also play an unpaid managerial role in collecting and submitting all of that information and hoping your state accepts it! Don't have any outrage for the similar systems already in place across much of the South have already killed and medically disenfranchised: send a note people will get paid to ignore instead of channeling that rage into meaningful collective action."

[daughter-of-sapph0]

so called feminists: "actually women are naturally inferior at everything, including quiz game shows, beauty pageants, chess, and video games. we need a society that is segregated so that anyone who would ever have to potential to win against a woman is eliminated. this is actually far better than organizing sports into weight classes or different athletic/skill level based categories that ignore sex, like what wrestling and video/board game tournaments already do. I cannot accept the reality that men and women are the same species. this is actually how we truly protect women. by calling them weak pathetic losers who could never win against even the worst opponent, and preventing them from even playing at all."

[daughter-of-sapph0]

actually conversion I had with one of these nerds:

me: "so you think men are better at literally everything, even things that do not require any physical ability whatsoever?"

terf: "yes! those should still be segregated by sex! males should not be playing against women ever. it's an unfair advantage"

me: "so my brother has an unfair advantage over me when playing fucking monopoly?"

terf: "yes. males are statistically better and managing finances, while women are irresponsible and lenient with spending money."

hey guys. I think the people who are literally unironicly saying "women are bad at money. this means they suck at board games" aren't actually feminists

[strangestcase]

No joke, that was the rethoric the Francoist regime in Spain used to justify women being legally underage regardless of age and unable to open bank accounts without their husbands or fathers permission. That law was effective until 1975.

[rabbitkinglune777]

cool. another black child died in a hate crime

[rabbitkinglune777]

South Carolina jury finds store owner not guilty of murder in killing of Black teen | CNN

A South Carolina jury on Monday found a store owner not guilty of murder in the 2023 shooting of a Black 14-year-old.

apparently the murder happened in 2023 after doing some research but the murderer has been found not guilty.

black children get murdered and become victims of hate crimes every fucking day. this is ridiculous

[rabbitkinglune777]

im posting this here despite the website being extremely white centered, I want people to understand how in this country it's basically ok to murder and victimize black people, especially women and children in the name of "self defense" and white America will reward you for your antiblackness.

[shamebats]

"it's just stress" oh thank god, it's just the silent killer that slowly kills you, perfectly harmless, no need to worry

[mousidy]

a lot of my disillusionment with the trans "community" comes down to the fact that too many of you take "gender is different from sex" and go "ah ok, so instead of saying women are fragile and men are strong, I should say afabs are fragile and amabs are strong. to be Inclusive"

then you just treat gender like a surface level aesthetic draped over what someone "actually" is. really is indistinguishable from terf rhetoric

[mousidy]

you all need to unpack your bioessentialism, but we also need a better theory of gender than "it's just dressup." I will pick my words carefully here, but the word "gender" itself refers to so many different phenomena that have been lumped together, and we need to un-lump them

[mousidy]

in a feminist context, "gender" has historically referred to externally imposed categorization and the internalization and performance of said categories. in a paper I wrote on this subject, I called this sense of the word "extrinsic gender"

"intrinsic gender," on the other hand, is what I used to refer to the sense of the word "gender" that a lot of trans people are talking about when they discuss social gender dysphoria and euphoria. it's the internal sense of category that's resistant to external impositions

but then we also use the word "gender" to refer to subconscious sex, which is the term Julia Serano coins in Whipping Girl to name the phenomenon we're talking about when we talk about bodily dysphoria. it is the "gender" being "affirmed" by gender affirming healthcare like HRT and bottom surgery

so, "gender" is: a social classing system, a performance, and at least two internal phenomena as well. and I really don't know if it's doing us a service to conflate all of these things!

[mousidy]

a lot of people lately seem to be going heavy on the "performance" use of the word, ignoring (intentionally or otherwise) social classing, intrinsic gender, and subconscious sex. this seems to have led to a lot of "progressive" people treating trans women like men "amabs" who wear womanhood as a costume, and nobody understands why that's wrong because they also think gender is just a performance

[mousidy]

see also "why can't you just be a femboy/feminine man/etc"

[mousidy]

furthermore, some trans people experience social dysphoria but not bodily dysphoria, and vice versa. but bodily dysphoria in particular has gained some stigma in the last few years

because we use the word "gender" to discuss both "intrinsic gender" as I termed it above, and subconscious sex, there's been a certain strain of argument from some trans people that says that medical transition reaffirms societal gender norms about bodies, and that bodily dysphoria must only result from externally imposed norms about what kind of body corresponds to what gender, and thus it would just go away if the gendered associations were unlearned

I'm strongly of the opinion, though, that our bodies are not like clothes! gender dysphoria related to clothing would generally have to do with one's intrinsic gender clashing with the gendered norms of their culture surrounding clothes, but I believe "gender" dysphoria related to the body itself is really, in large part, subconscious sex dysphoria, and this component cannot be alleviated by changing norms or associations. I strongly believe I would still seek HRT and bottom surgery if I lived my whole life in a cultureless vacuum

you cannot sidestep my dysphoria by regendering parts of my body I'm trying to change, and frankly it causes me a lot of strife that fellow trans people who flirt with me think they can talk about my body however they like as long as they gender it correctly. the word "girlcock" is not a magic dysphoria repellent, because the dysphoria doesn't just come from the gendering

[evilgirlbat]

"shinigami eyes is an extension for trans people-"

nope, sorry, it's for transfems specifically.

"-to check accounts for transphobia-"

you mean transmisogyny.

"but trans women started using it to-"

it was ours to begin with.

"-mark innocent people red."

mark transmisogynists red. you don't think they're transmisogynists because you don't take transfems seriously.

can you find someone marked red, look me in the eyes, and honestly tell me they haven't done any of the following:

-said men are oppressed/misandry is an issue

-defended afab-only spaces

-opposed transfeminists

-claimed transfeminist terminology is an attack on other marginalized groups

-spread rumors about a transfem being a predator without evidence

-participated in lolcowing a transfem

-tried to reclaim femboy culture as a non-transfem

-defended male socialization theory

-implied transfems are generally dangerous

-accused a transfem of being an evil pervert while excusing non-transfems engaging in similar kinks

-claimed transmascs have no privilege or power over transfems

-claimed most transfeminists are white/bourgeoisie

-called trans women bitches, cunts, or racial slurs

because any of that is a valid reason for a transfem to not trust you. i cannot stress that enough. any single one of those is a good enough reason for a random transfem to signal to others "be cautious." and if you can't understand why transfems are wary around people like this, you need to make an effort to learn.

[sin0fempathy]

seems like tumblr finally realized the bad optics of not having the trans colors represented anywhere in their little performative pride like animation.

anyways transfems are still being banned en masse from this website for “any reason or no reason at all” and having their accounts taken down again and again when they attempt to remake. this includes accounts that had originally been around for over a decade, after they did nothing but get a bit too loud about being transfem. don’t shut up about it.

[ashes2caches]

please make sure your transfem friends don’t get excluded. please listen to their needs.

[transsexual-feminism]

You should do more than just listen, actually. You need to ask her. You need to go up to her and ask her about things you can do to include her. We are taught to take up as little space as possible, you need to go out of your way to account for that.

[alevolpe]

Some time ago I made a redesign for human Luna and while I liked the direction I took with it, I really came to dislike other aspects of it.

Sometimes I sketch out new experimental redesigns for her during SilMil. It's an on and off thing, but I'm very much still learning.

[cholerascum]

WONT SOMEBODY THINK OF THE MEN?!

[cholerascum]

the men and men defenders didn't like this one. almost like this comic about how men don't understand how them imposing is annoying is about that very thing or something.