Quote Queen

I find a lot of insight, amusement and ministry in the curating of words.

[fleur-aesthetic]

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[thespilledquotes]

I've learned that every feeling will pass if you give it time. And if you learn to deal with your feelings, they'll pass by faster each time. So don't rush to cover them up by medicating them. You've got to deal with them.

— Brandon Stanton

[lord-kitschener]

Sure, relationships typically start with a honeymoon phase that then grows into something deeper but a bit more mellow if things work out, but it’s depressing as fuck that this has turned into a really, really common script for straight relationships that says it’s totally normal and inevitable for dudes to just become more and more emotionally checked out of the relationship, and leave it to their girlfriend/wife to perform if she wants to get even a crumb of affection from him. I’m so fucking tired of seeing women constantly being taught that decades of emotional neglect is just our lot in life.

[yardsards]

what “getting out of the honeymoon phase” should mean: you aren’t joined at the hip anymore and can spend time apart, but you still greatly enjoy eachother’s company and deliberately make time to be together. you’re not just a unit, you’re a matched set (like, you’re susan and bob rather than susanandbob). you start to see eachother’s flaws and don’t put eachother on a pedestal but instead love eachother as human beings, flaws and all.

what it should NOT mean: you barely talk anymore. you feel like two completely different people, tied together by a frayed thread. you’re annoyed by eachother’s flaws and don’t like to be around eachother

[cumaeansibyl]

similarly: “relationships are hard, they take a lot of work” means that cooperation on a daily basis in both the practical and emotional realms takes conscious effort. you can’t coast on those honeymoon feelings forever, and you aren’t psychic, so you have to pay attention and communicate so you can honor each other’s wants and needs.

it should not mean that you’re fighting every two days or walking on eggshells to avoid the anger of an unreasonable partner or breaking your back trying to get the slightest sign of affection or respect from someone who’s checked out and doesn’t care about you.

[agayworthfightingfor]

This is so, so important. Dont keep investing in a relationship thats not giving back. You deserve to be heard, you deserve at the very least communication.

[catchymemes]

[ancestorswatching]

“It is not necessary that you believe that the officer who choked Eric Garner set out that day to destroy a body. All you need to understand is that the officer carries with him the power of the American state and the weight of an American legacy, and they necessitate that of the bodies destroyed every year, some wild and disproportionate number of them will be black.”

— Ta-Nehisi Coates, Between the World and Me

[joeinct]

Nina Simone at the Village Gate, Photo by Sam Falk, 1965

[thepowerwithin]

“Don’t you, for a single second, allow for you to second guess yourself. Never. The world may second guess you, your friends may second guess you, But you yourself must always have faith.”

— Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin

[damn-these-eyes]

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe and have faith that everything will work out for the best.”

— Unknown

[honigimohr]

“If she’s too good for you, my god, don’t leave her. Make an effort to be good enough instead.”

— (via quoteessential)

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

[violentwavesofemotion-deactivat]

“What you want is someone to take hold of you. Gently, gently, with love.”

— Tennessee Williams, from The Collected Plays; “Cat on a Hot Tin Roof,”

[sjaxoo-deactivated20210115]

[lvd2]

[blooooom]

there’s a misconception that grief only happens when we lose people. this is not true. we can grieve circumstances, relationships, missed opportunities. in fact, sometimes when you find yourself plagued with waves of emotion from sadness to melancholy you may be grieving yourself. the version of yourself that you might have been if things had been different, or if only you had said something, or if someone had stood up for you.

[purplebuddhaproject]

“You have to get to the point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else.”

— (via purplebuddhaquotes)

[ill-matic]