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Am I the only one who thinks that hitting a kid and abuse are different things? Like, if I ever had a kid, I wouldn’t spank their ass raw or something like that. But a bop on the mouth or the ear pull or a smack upside the head? Yea. Those are behavior modifiers.

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Except they’re not.

The studies done by the trained psychologists in this joke show that little kids don’t associate being hit with the thing they’ve done wrong. Very small children only understand consequences that are directly caused by the thing they did. Steal a biscuit, biscuit tastes good. Then for no reason mummy hit me. Very different to stole a biscuit, now no biscuit after dinner because I stole a biscuit.

And they also show that when a child is old enough to understand why they are being hit that non-physical punishment is equally as effective and less mentally harmful in the long run.

Do you know who benefits the most from hitting as a punishment? The parent. It gives a satisfaction rush. Parents do it because it makes them feel good.

Basically kids have two stages: too young to understand why they are being hit so physical punishment is useless for anything other than teaching a child that bigger stronger people can hit you whenever they like (Which sounds like the same lesson you would learn from abuse)

And the second stage is old enough to be reasoned with so many punishment options are available and you chose physical violence because it makes *you* feel better, which is an abusive action.

The only time a person should ever use violence against another human being, of any age, is to stop that person from being violent themselves.

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as someone who used to receive physical punishment,the kid will either:

listen to their parent out of fear

lose respect for their parent and continue to misbehave out of spite

and not to mention it will mentaly scar them(flincing when someone raises a hand,anxiety,constant apologizing) and it will damage your relationship with them.so please if any parent is reading this do not give them physical punishment i’m sure they are other ways to discipline your kid.

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Beautiful.

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I remeber in Psyche 101 my professer, who before working at the colledge was a developmental psychologist who went around to schools to deal with problematic children, was always asked “how do i punish these kids” by the staff. He responded with “you should not be punishing for much at a school, you should just incentivise good behavior”. (This is also true of parenting) but schools punish kids despite heaps of evidance sauing that it does nothing but make the action they performed seem not as bad. For a punishment to have the same effect, it needs to be IMMEDIATE and related to the inappropriate behavior Ex: making to fighting kids hold hands for 10 minutes. But an incentive can be as little as “if you dont miss any homework this week you can have a little bag of chips, cookie, ect” and kids will respond very well to that. Personally i think all teachers and school managemant should have to take a developmental psyche class

TL;DR kids are harmed by unfiting punishment and are helped by fitting incentives

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2.

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This is such an important thing to remember.

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Important life lesson here

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This.

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What’s your fantasy?

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