We All Deal With Things in Our Own Way
For some reason, this weekend, I was inadvertently drawn to books and movies about mental health. Not that I had any idea that these actually WERE about mental health (save for the bad-ass funny book that I’m reading by Jenny Lawson that everyone should read because it’s awesome), but I was apparently drawn to them.
One movie I watched was The Beaver with Mel Gibson, co-starring and directed by Jodi Foster. This was a strange movie for me to pick up for a couple of reasons. First, the mental health point I made above, but also because I’m not a Mel Gibson fan. That said, I haven’t been this pleased with a Mel Gibson role in ages. He really did something different and difficult and he took it head on. Well done, Mel. The public seemed to have the same “stay away” factor that I did since it was considered a box-office flop when it was released in 2011. It may have been a hard-sell for Hollywood but I’m a little different.
I enjoy movies where people feel a little off and alone in their off-ness. A good portion of the world feels this way (including me at times) and just hides the shit out of it for fear of people thinking they are weird or attention-seeking. Sometimes, some of us are just a little off. I’ve never been shy about my issues with depression and experience with therapy and meds. Personally, I feel like everyone can benefit from one or both. I’ve had conversations with people about how if they just put Xanax into our drinking water the way they do fluoride then it would be a much calmer and happier world. True story. But I digress.
The Beaver is about a business man who has been less than successful in both work and home due to crippling depression. No matter what he did, be it medication, therapy, or self-help books, he was lost and all he wanted to do was sleep. His wife decides she doesn’t want him to be around the kids so she kicks him out. While sadly throwing his things into a dumpster, he finds a beaver hand puppet and takes it with him. In a humorous scene of drinking and poorly executed suicide attempts, he wakes up the next morning to find the puppet on his hand talking to him. And the beaver has a cockney accent. And it’s coming out of his own mouth. The beaver says he has come to save him. Stay with me here.
Throughout the film, he finds success at work and home…with the help of the beaver. For some reason, having this beaver speak for him, makes him more alive, a better parent and husband, a better CEO, and, for lack of a better word, more normal. While you want him to succeed and grow beyond this stage he has found himself in, you see that he isn’t actually getting better with the beaver, but is only falling deeper into his personal discourse and is hiding behind the beaver.
I wouldn’t call it a dark comedy; more a drama with funny points. The pain and discomfort surrounding his family is palatable. His wife wants to be supportive with his current “treatment” but she wants their old life back. His oldest son is keeping track of and fighting all of the similarities that he has with his father so he doesn’t turn out the same way. Their youngest son has finally reconnected with his dad, but is it really a connection when it’s a different personality that can only be expressed through a hand-puppet? The unthinkable happens before the melancholy ending but it strangely all comes together without the need of a big red bow.
This was a unique approach to mental health in film. You can’t just have a movie about mental health and say, “look at this happy ending! Everyone is ok!” OK is subjective for anyone who is dealing with mental health issues and this film addresses it. The Beaver is heartbreaking but hopeful. It shows how everyone is affected, especially those around the person dealing directly with their demons. I thought I was sitting down for a comedy but it turned out to have a very serious message. Bravo to all involved for tackling it the way they did.












