Femaleness is not a design flaw

30s bi radical feminist from the UK. Please read my about before following. Hateful and spam asks will be blocked.

[luciuscorneliussulla]

notnnow kitten daddy's flesh has to fester and turn to worms

[bichoplaza]

*puts 3-4 privilege modifyers in front of the word woman so you dont notice how my comment is misogynistic*

[shes-unforgettable]

*puts 3-4 privilege modifiers in front of the word man to distract you from the fact that its a male problem*

[johnnycrass]

i always look back in anger but its important to look forward with it also

[dreamstars]

[only-cat-memes]

[theoretical-terf]

It's pretty clear that a lot of TIM anger comes from jealousy.

They're angry about TIFs being welcomed in lesbian spaces because they want to be there instead, they think they're more worthy of being there. They frame it as concern for "men in lesbian spaces" and it makes them furious, because they know inside that they are the actual men in lesbian spaces.

They're angry about women and TIFs talking about our sex based oppression, because they wish they had oppression to talk about. They try to claim they're oppressed for their dicks, but deep down they're aware that they know nothing about sex based oppression and never will.

They're extremely angry about lesbians existing. They grew up feeling entitled to women's bodies, and lesbians rejecting them made them angry because they wanted access to them. So they tried to make up a workaround by identifying as a lesbian, and it infuriates them when it doesn't work, because they so badly want to force women into having sex with them.

They all try to pretend their anger is about trans rights or justice, but in reality they're just painfully jealous that all they have is male experience and they'll never have anything else.

[daftpatience]

i wanted to reflect on me 2018 and me 2024 as well (@punkitt-is-here did this and i love the way she talks abt transness shes so cool)

[our-side-of-history]

I wish you guys could see the gal on the right as a woman, too--because "woman" is just like the word "human." It's just what you are, not a set of regressive stereotypes, not makeup or clothing, not gender roles.

You don't have to stop being a woman to stop performing femininity (in fact, you can't really stop being one--not on a chromosomal level, not on the level of bone structure, nor even come close to true average male hormone levels without becoming severely sick, and not on a genital level. Aesthetic changes to the flesh under a surgical knife may ease dysphoria in some, but are not the same as truly replacing female genitalia with male genitalia.)

It reinforces that woman=femininity when your abandonment of femininity is coupled with your attempted abandonment of womanhood.

I'd be miserable if I thought I had to wear makeup and dress uncomfortably forever, too, which is why I don't. And yet, "woman," to me, is not lipstick and subservience--it's just the creature that I am, the animal, more ancient than gender, as natural as gazelles and dirt and trees.

[evenlesssentimentaltranslator]

All of this is just the flip side of wearing makeup and uncomfortable outfits. Y'all wore makeup and uncomfortable outfits because you were too insecure not to and then when that became intolerable you tried to become men because you were too insecure to be a woman who shows her bare face like I've been doing all my life, and shows her body hair and wears the hair on her head short like I've been doing for years. The opposite of wearing makeup isn't injecting yourself with hormones; it's weaning yourself off of the belief that a bare female face and visible female body hair are atrocities committed against the eyes of the public.

[godlesssicklady]

"Gender is a social construct."

So it's something that only exists because you and other people believe in it? a belief?

Then why should gender, including transgenderism, have any influence in law and other people's life anymore then religion should?

Why should non-believers like me change the way we speak and describe the world to fit your beliefs? Like e.g. Demand non-believers use the word woman and man based on your gender beliefs rather then use it to refer to "adult female human" and "adult male human".

Why should spaces and things separated by female and male like changing rooms, prisons, public bathrooms, sports, etc be based on gender and not sex when one is just a belief and the other is an actual, physical fact?

If you're gonna rebut with "sex is spectrum"… then you need to actually explain to me how is, because explaining to me how sex is NOT binary is not actually explaining to me how sex IS a spectrum.

[theoretical-terf]

Most acts of "transphobia" are just a failure to convince TIMs that you see them as women.

Earlier in the TRA movement, a lot of women tried to be more inclusive by labelling things as "for women and people identify as women". It was a genuine attempt to be inclusive, but it wasn't enough for TIMs, because it still made it clear to them that we know the difference between them and women.

It reminds me of that unhinged TIM post ranting about how he hated this womam because she complimented him, but he spiralled in his own head about how she doesn't really see him as a woman and how he hates her, and all women because of it.

All of the things TIMs want are for the purpose of enabling their delusions. It doesn't matter how inclusive women try to be, it won't be enough for them unless it convinces them that other people believe their delusions.

[capricorn-season]

UK: Woman Who Was Sexually Abused By Transgender Pedophile Has Her Objection To His Early Prison Release Rejected - Reduxx

A woman who endured years of sexual abuse at the hands of her father has had her pleas to stop his early release from a UK prison denied. Ce

[anjomecanico]

Thinking you're entitled to other people's attraction is such a male socialization move to pull

[mossgirl]

[vintage-bentley]

I don’t even know what to say except that we see this exact same thing from religious groups. Don’t ask questions, be wary of those who do. Blindly believe or else you’re The Enemy.

[vintage-bentley]

This is how you can tell an ideology isn’t based on truth: they discourage asking questions about it. Blind belief and obedience is the only way they can stay afloat, because once you start asking questions, things start to not make sense. They say that asking questions is dangerous, because they know that all it can lead to is a loss of faith in their belief system.

[butterflyfault]

"Always be wary of people who are just asking questions." Gay people don't say this when people question if homosexuality is real. Feminists don't say this when people ask what it means to be oppressed as a woman. Scientists don't say this when people wonder what the research really means. The people who do say this: - Mormons: "So-called friends can introduce doubt by asking hurtful questions." (2017 Ensign) - Moonies: "It was dangerous for someone in my position in the organization to ask questions that couldn’t be answered. The other group leaders filled me with so much fear about deprogrammers that my questions were shelved. I believed my spiritual survival was at stake." (Combating Cult Mind Control, Steven Hassan) - Jehovah's Witnesses: "In that environment, she began to thrive, ask critical questions, and challenge assumptions—none of which is permitted in the Witness world." (Combating Cult Mind Control, Steven Hassan) - Scientologists: "I rapidly found out that if I asked 'hard' questions, such as the relationships between their corporations, various churches and other companies they deployed at that time, I was discouraged politely but firmly from ever asking those kinds of questions again. If I persisted, and I did upon several occasions, I was ignored entirely. Several highly-veiled threats were made of what would happen if I persisted in asking questions, most of which I ignored." ("The Scientology Revolution," Dave Laird) Rejection of rational analysis, critical thinking, and constructive criticism is a form of thought control, used by high-control groups to keep their members from questioning the beliefs and doctrine of the group. https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model-pdf-download/

[naistensaari]

"Just asking questions" is also a tactic often used by insincere participants.

Nobody Who Says They’re “Just Asking Questions” Actually Wants an Answer

Social media has given rise to armies of self-proclaimed skeptics and truth-seekers who wouldn’t know the truth if it slapped them in the…

But saying that "just asking questions" is ALWAYS a tactic is also stifling genuine conversation and stopping people from pointing out dangerous, illogical, or criminal activities.

Asking questions is also a polite way to actually try to understand someone else's point of view and can be quite genuine. It's just that sometimes, when having to answer a question or having to explain yourself/your actions, your ideas and actions get challenged and that might make you think. Evil.

[vintage-bentley]

The point that asking questions is often just a polite way of understanding somebody else got me thinking about how the “queer” community actually views questions in the first place.

Many “queer” people have this pretentious attitude of being Educators and feel they need to ✨Educate✨ people (which really just means lecturing at them and expecting immediate agreement with no questions asked). When they’re asked a question, they see it as an Educational Moment where they now get the opportunity to lecture somebody and change their heart. They don’t see it as a conversation with an equal power dynamic. They are the Educator and the Expert, you are the poor ignorant soul who must learn from their wisdom.

This means when they have a conversation where somebody asks questions, they expect it to essentially be a classroom setting where they educate, and you say “yes, teacher” and don’t question their knowledge because they’re the expert and you’re the student. They expect you to come away from the conversation grateful for having learned something new, and they expect you to agree with them.

But that’s not how questions work, especially in relation to ideology. Just because someone asks a question and you give an answer doesn’t mean they have to find that answer acceptable. It doesn’t mean they need to agree with you—in fact your answer may actually do the opposite and make them disagree with you more strongly than they might have before. I’ve had Christians ask me questions about being an atheist and while my answers are perfectly acceptable and sensible to me, I wouldn’t be surprised if they came away from the conversation shocked at how sad and godless my life must be.

And I think this is why so many radfems get told “you need to talk to trans people”, even though most of us are where we are ideologically because we’ve spoken to trans identified people. The “queer” community has immersed themselves so much in this culture where it’s demonised to ask questions and actually want to think critically about the answer instead of blindly accepting it, so they don’t even consider that form of communication as a possibility. If somebody disagrees with them, it’s because they’re uneducated, they don’t have the magical knowledge bestowed upon them, and their minds will be easily changed if they just listen and learn.

And unfortunately for them, their arguments usually are incredibly nonsensical, contradictory, sexist, and homophobic, and can’t stand up to critical thought. So of course they’ve arrived at the conclusion that asking questions is Bad—almost everyone who asks questions seeking to think critically about the answer, ends up disagreeing with them. And it would be too world-shattering to consider the possibility that maybe their answers are the problem.

[fairycosmos]

its not immoral to be ugly its not immoral to be ugly its not immoral to be ugly

[vintage-bentley]

I don’t even know what to say except that we see this exact same thing from religious groups. Don’t ask questions, be wary of those who do. Blindly believe or else you’re The Enemy.

[vintage-bentley]

This is how you can tell an ideology isn’t based on truth: they discourage asking questions about it. Blind belief and obedience is the only way they can stay afloat, because once you start asking questions, things start to not make sense. They say that asking questions is dangerous, because they know that all it can lead to is a loss of faith in their belief system.

[butterflyfault]

"Always be wary of people who are just asking questions." Gay people don't say this when people question if homosexuality is real. Feminists don't say this when people ask what it means to be oppressed as a woman. Scientists don't say this when people wonder what the research really means. The people who do say this: - Mormons: "So-called friends can introduce doubt by asking hurtful questions." (2017 Ensign) - Moonies: "It was dangerous for someone in my position in the organization to ask questions that couldn’t be answered. The other group leaders filled me with so much fear about deprogrammers that my questions were shelved. I believed my spiritual survival was at stake." (Combating Cult Mind Control, Steven Hassan) - Jehovah's Witnesses: "In that environment, she began to thrive, ask critical questions, and challenge assumptions—none of which is permitted in the Witness world." (Combating Cult Mind Control, Steven Hassan) - Scientologists: "I rapidly found out that if I asked 'hard' questions, such as the relationships between their corporations, various churches and other companies they deployed at that time, I was discouraged politely but firmly from ever asking those kinds of questions again. If I persisted, and I did upon several occasions, I was ignored entirely. Several highly-veiled threats were made of what would happen if I persisted in asking questions, most of which I ignored." ("The Scientology Revolution," Dave Laird) Rejection of rational analysis, critical thinking, and constructive criticism is a form of thought control, used by high-control groups to keep their members from questioning the beliefs and doctrine of the group. https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model-pdf-download/

[naistensaari]

"Just asking questions" is also a tactic often used by insincere participants.

Nobody Who Says They’re “Just Asking Questions” Actually Wants an Answer

Social media has given rise to armies of self-proclaimed skeptics and truth-seekers who wouldn’t know the truth if it slapped them in the…

But saying that "just asking questions" is ALWAYS a tactic is also stifling genuine conversation and stopping people from pointing out dangerous, illogical, or criminal activities.

Asking questions is also a polite way to actually try to understand someone else's point of view and can be quite genuine. It's just that sometimes, when having to answer a question or having to explain yourself/your actions, your ideas and actions get challenged and that might make you think. Evil.

[kkoffin]

i think about this a lot.

[kkoffin]

big shout out to Italian too

[femsolid]

Well yeah. Same in French and Spanish.

It means bad or evil.

That's where the words malevolence, malicious, malaria, malignant, malformed, malefactor, dismal, maladie, malaise... etc come from.

[logophilestudies]

this is the article:

Women Who Use Drugs

"Female drug use exists in diametrical opposition to male drug use: with different causes, motives for use, experiences, treatments, and pre

[hugewoman]

I have never seen a clearer argument for female drug addiction as an intentionally weaponized gateway to being sex trafficked

I could not more strongly recommend reading the entire article, it’s absolutely devastating but it’s a very important read. It’s a chilling indictment of the way drug addicted women are horrifically mistreated, exploited, and so often forgotten about if not further victimized by the very people who claim to want to help them