Chief Complaint

Clinical Psychologist

[chaeyeon]

writing

글을 쓴다는 건 결국 나를 가장 수동적이고 절제된 방식으로 드러내고자 하는 욕구가 아닌가 하다. 내가 통제할 수 있는 범위 내에서 타인과 소통하고 싶은 것 아닐까?

[chaeyeon]

2020.02.07

 “네 사고의 강점은, 관심없었거나 한 번도 생각해보지 않았던 것이라도 내가 얘기하면 생각해본다는 거야.”

 “그게 어떻게 강점이야?”

 “엄청난 강점이지. 그런 사람 잘 없어. 내가 정말 똑똑하다고 생각했던 사람조차도 그러지를 않았어. 사고가 열려있다는 게 얼마나 어려운데.”

[chaeyeon]

수용과 직면

  긍정적으로 지지하고, 존중하고, 수용하다보면 상대방의 결핍이나 허전함을 채워줄 수 있을 것이라는 생각과, 직면시키지 않으면 인간은 ‘그래도 되는가보다’하고 변하지 않는다는 생각이 있다.

  둘 다 옳은 말이다. 

[mischon]

Sean Mundy - Sigil (2014)

[chaeyeon]

<Dogville>, 2003

Grace: That's what you came here say? l'm not the one passing judgment, Daddy, you are.

Father: No, you do not pass judgment, because you sympathize with them. A deprived childhood and a homicide really isn't necessarily a homicide, right? The only thing you can blame is circumstances. Rapists and murderers may be the victims according to you, but l call them dogs. And if they're lapping up their own vomit, the only way to stop them is with the lash.

Grace: But dogs only obey their own nature. So why shouldn't we forgive them?

Father: Dogs can be taught many useful things, but not if we forgive them every time they obey their own nature.

Grace: So, l'm arrogant. l'm arrogant because l forgive people?

Father: My God. Can't you see how condescending you are when you say that? You have this preconceived notion that nobody, listen, that nobody can't possibly attain the same high ethical standards as you, so you exonerate them. l can not think of anything more arrogant than that. You, my child... my dear child you forgive others with excuses that you would never in the world permit for yourself.

Grace: Why shouldn't l be merciful? Why?

Father: No, no, no. You should, you should be merciful when there is time to be merciful. But you must maintain your own standard. You owe them that. You owe them that. The penalty you deserve for your transgressions, they deserve for their transgressions.

Grace: They are human beings.

Father: No, no, no. Does every human being need to be accountable for their actions? Of course they do. But you don't even give them that chance. And that is extremely arrogant. l love you, l love you, l love you to death. But you are the most arrogant person l have ever met. And you call me arrogant! l have no more to say.

Father: Listen, my love. Power is not so bad. l am sure that you can find a way to make use of it in your own fashion. Take a walk and think about it.

Grace: The people who live here are doing their best under very hard circumstances.

Father: lf you say so, Grace. But is their best really good enough?

[chaeyeon]

It's the time you spent on your rose that makes your rose so important.

The Little Prince

[chaeyeon]

I don't want to survive, I want to live!

WALL-E, Captain.

[chaeyeon]

아, 우리는 별별 주인을 다 모셨다네. 호랑이와 하이에나를 주인으로 모셨고 독수리도 모셨고 돼지도 모셨다네. 그리고 이 주인 저 주인 다 먹여 살렸지. 어떤 주인이 더 낫고 어떤 주인이 더 못했느냐고? 아, 장화란 장화는 언제나 모두 똑같이 우리를 짓밟아 댔지. 자네들은 내 마음을 알 거야. 우리는 다른 주인을 요구하는 것이 아니라 주인이 도대체 필요없다네! 물론 물레방아는 언제나 계속해서 돌아가므로 위에 있는 것이 언제나 머물 수는 없지. 그러나 아래 있는 물은 유감스럽게도 그저 영원히 물레바퀴를 돌려야 할 뿐이라네.

물레방아의 발라드2, 1931.