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Hey everyone! During quarantine I’m going to be doing tarot readings! I’ve been doing tarot for a long time now and it’s gets boring just doing it for myself so why not branch out!

I’m doing them for $5 per question, $2 if you want just a single card reading and if you want you can pay an extra $2 if you want to choose the deck I use! Just message me what you’d like and I’ll give you my Venmo. 🖤🔮

witchiestsuggestions

Use a Cards Against Humanity as an oracle deck

mehrunes-razor

Me: “What can I do to be happy” Me: *draws card* Deck: “Alcoholism”

resident-punkas

I don’t make the rules buddy, if it says bees it’s bees. You figure it out.

geekdawson

one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have.

no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation.

no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying.

no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.

no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.

a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age.

Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse.

I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships.

The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery.

lysikan

If it wasn’t stated outright - it wasn’t said.

theotherwesley

Oof, this hits close to home.

I never condensed it into a rule, but I realize that I’ve come to the same conclusion about not responding to subtext; it’s helped me SO much. It makes me a better communicator, and puts a damper on how much I allow myself to stress out over nonverbal details or radio silence from friends. I try to be as candid as possible about what I’m responding to; if a nonverbal cue is important enough that it needs to become a topic of conversation, it helps to be up front about what you’re responding to (”hey I noticed you’re being very quiet today, it may be nothing, but is something wrong?”) instead of trying to meet the subtext with more subtext or… just… do something confusing to try and alleviate the imagined situation without ever addressing it…. IDK I used to do a lot of weird things in HOPE that it was the correct response to unstated tension. Obviously this was what I used to do to try and defuse situations at home– when you’re not allowed to acknowledge a problem but you don’t want it to blow up in your face, you develop some weird coping mechanisms.

This also explains why I so frequently have anxiety attacks in restaurants or public places because I think “oh god we’re talking too loud about personal things and everyone is listening and judging”. This used to really fuck me up and make it difficult to go out with anyone or even just talk to my partner over lunch. Public spaces were real minefields to navigate as a kid with an unstable/unmedicated parent (and other equally unstable/unmedicated relatives, + me, a previously-unmedicated-unstable-child who didn’t always have control over their behavior or reactions) who would make family outings a living hell. Being able to tell myself “are you noticing what other people are talking about across the room? no? then the people across the room probably aren’t noticing what you’re talking about either”. It’s a mantra that’s helped me get through a lot of rough situations. Also, medication and therapy! But that should be a given.

cloverbloom

hypervigilance in a nutshell. when you’re surrounded by adults who consistently leverage unequal power dynamics against you, one of your only options are to manage it by preempting their instability. eventually it just gets absolutely ingrained into your approach to socializing with everybody. i still remember the moment that i finally realized that, with regular people, i can just disengage or excuse myself from social interactions without being emotionally cut down.

i still generally tend to assume people can and will leverage their social and emotional power over me when convenient. so i still have trouble maintaining relationships where i cant clearly grasp the dynamics. but managing it is much easier now that i am an adult, with significant leverage of my own. the problem with hypervigilance is that it triggers anxiety and stress responses to every little flag, and examining that to see if it’s cause for legitimate concern vs. a traumatic response, while also potentially having a panic attack over it anyway, is exhausting. sometimes it’s just easier to get away.

goodnastygirl

this is important to know

diycraftsnmore

piscean-pixie

zodiac aesthetics

aries: red lips, lava, bicycling, jean jackets, combat boots, sunglasses, fireworks, concerts

taurus: oversized knitted sweaters, tiny houseplants, cafes, forests, candles, cozy homes, tea and dessert

gemini: writing notes on your arm, tattoos, chokers, colored hair, crop tops, pins on your backpack, piercings, polariods

cancer: lockets, the moon, the ocean, rainy windshields, glitter, flower crowns, ferris wheels, white fences, swirled ice cream

leo: red hair and freckles, fire, bloody knuckles, denim shorts, fireflies, oversized sweaters, lattes, aviators, leather jackets

virgo: collared dresses, coffee and books, vinyl records, typewriters, umbrellas, silk sheets, dandelions, rolled up pants

libra: blowing bubbles, bubblegum, cotton candy, roller coasters, snapbacks, flannel, dresses with cardigans, frappucinnos

scorpio: bloodshot eyes, cigarette smoke, lace tights, black coffee, winged eyeliner, veins, rainy parking lots, bruises

sagittarius: money jars, rope bridges, macaroons, lightning, pizza, carnivals, maps with desired destinations circled

capricorn: leather, antiques, coffee, the woods, dark lipstick, apartments, spices, brown eyes, picture frames

aquarius: the galaxy, aliens, balloons, mermaids, graphic t-shirts, gas stations, jellyfish, feathers, sunrise

pisces: fairy lights, gardens, watercolors, cloudy mornings, mascara, curtains, fishtanks, creamer

This was posted in a tarot group I’m apart of on Facebook and I feel it’s worth sharing. Lol

#tarot community #tarot #nudes #funny #witch #witchcraft #dontstrayfromthepack

witchwithacoffeepot

Reblog this and I’ll make you a magick coffee based off your blog.

** all custom coffee recipes belong to me. please do not claim these coffees as your own design. thank you. 💞

kitchenwitchcraft

Lavender Rice

Well, not in taste. But in colour, certainly.

This is rice cooked together with one (large-ish) leaf of red cabbage. It does not change the taste of the rice basically at all,* and only gives it a really pretty (and really weird) lavender colour.

A pretty neat trick for when you want to add that extra something to a dish. Looks especially great if you have some white sauce for the rice (cream or coconut milk based, for instance), but great with green things too. Or simply an alternative to boring white rice.

[* Of the three people I tested it on, one claimed they could taste the cabbage, but they were the person who knew how it was done. The other two didn’t, and didn’t.]

angle0fthegourd

GUYS! Please, one of my dogs has ran away, she was last seen in Ramona, California, our other dog was found around close to Ramona High School. So, can anyone in the area please please keep an eye out for her, if you find her please message me! She answers to the name Cosette(Co-set). PLEASE SIGNAL BOOST THIS SO ANYONE IN THE AREA WILL BE AWARE( @thewitchofthenorse if you could help me signal boost this I will love you forever)

ravenwitchbitch

Please help if you can

This sweet little baby swallowed thread and needs surgery. She is so young and my friends need all the help they can get. They set up a go fund me.

gf.me/u/faggm3

If you can donate anything even a $1 to help save her life please do so!

I’ll give a reading to anyone who donates, just message me so I know.

finding-our-silver-linings

People, please donate and boost the heck out of this. I may not know them but we lost our kitten to this.

It may not sound all that serious that she swallowed string but IT IS! Reblog this if nothing else so that people who can help sees it!!!

princessmonsterrack

Hey guys, this is really important please take a moment to read this. Mona is…extremely important to us. She’s still so young and so extremely loved. If you could donate, every penny is appreciated, if you can’t, please, please reblog this post. She’s in a really bad spot and we can’t bare the thought of losing her. Even if it needs to be a personal favor, for me, I’m okay with that. Just please help as you can. We love Mona very very much. Thanks for taking the time to read this 💜💜

ravenwitchbitch

Please help if you can

This sweet little baby swallowed thread and needs surgery. She is so young and my friends need all the help they can get. They set up a go fund me.

gf.me/u/faggm3

If you can donate anything even a $1 to help save her life please do so!

I’ll give a reading to anyone who donates, just message me so I know.

home-of-halloween

Things I love:

-Halloween -October 31st -the day after October 30th -All Hallows Eve -the day before November 1st -the end of October -Hallowmas -Hallowe'en -Eve of Samhain

unabashedlyhauntednight

🍁Autumn day tarot spread 🍁 A cozy reading for a cozy day

🍂1- What this Autumn will bring you. 🎃2-An aspect of you/your life that you should try to improve during the rest of the year. ☕️3- Something in your life you should enjoy more.