TheCrafted

A plural system of 50+, Adult bodily

[chaotic-crafters-sys]

Hello!

We are the Chaotic Crafters Collective/System.

We collectively use They/Them and go by the name Chaos or Crafted, though we are perfectly ok with most nicknames you might create for us!

We are not a minor but are heavily aspec and generally repulsed so any nsfw, flirting, and etc will be ignored/deleted.

Preferably you keep nicknames platonic, sfw, gender neutral, and aren't using it as an insult. If we don't know what a word means then we will look for the meaning.

We operate out of America/USA, no, we don't approve of the things happening and that's all we shall say.

Our system is primarily LGBTQ+ and we're auDHD (autistic&ADHD)

We're mixed origins, both traumagenic and endogenic. We don't know every label we have and we shall not be listing.

We're also dyslexic, have dyscalculia, and dysgraphia. We apologize for any kind mistakes ahead of time, though we try our best to correct them before hand.

Preferably you use tone tags or just label it somewhere, we assume /gen but we like to be more on the hopeful side of everything.

We don't mind syscourse though we'd prefer it to not come up, we're very accepting and would prefer to be a safe space.

If you use the send questions thing then we will only answer if it's sfw and not incredibly personal (if you don't know just send it and we'll respond either way {if we don't feel comfortable answering, we'll say that}), questions about certain headmates, certain ideas, or just correcting something is all ok!

We are thinking about starting an Etsy shop for crafts and other things so if we do we will also add it! We mostly do clay crafts so that'd be the bulk of it.

If you want our socials, like discord or simplyplural, just ask!

We may or may not post/blog/whatever, if we do it will be really inconsistent.

Side note: If you want to or need to block us for whatever reason, do it! We don't mind and would actively prefer you prioritize your health (personally we have issues blocking people because of niceties so putting this here for those who feel that similar feeling and anyone else)

Also if you would like us to tag anything, just ask! We don't always realize / know what we should and shouldn't tag. Plus if you have a specific way you want something tagged, just say so and we'll add it!

Just realized we need to update this whenever it changes soo last update was Late 2025

[the-nova-council]

Does anyone in your system look like how the body *currently* looks?

Nope

Yes, they formed relatively recently & already looked like that

Yes, they changed to look more like the body

Yes, the body has changed to look more like them

Yes, other nuance

More general nuance but you have to explain if you click this one please 🥺

Remaining time: 3 days 14 hours

[the-nova-council]

Does anyone in your system look like how the body used to look at any point?

Nope

Yes, and they formed before the body looked like that

Yes, and they formed While the body looked like that

Yes, and they formed after the body didn't look like that anymore

Yes, multiple of the above

Yes, nuance

Even more nuanced than that (👀)

Remaining time: 3 days 14 hours

[chaotic-crafters-sys]

This is about the first poll.

So we picked yes, the body has changed to look more like them but it's a very very big coincidence.

We went on T 3-ish years ago now and we honestly don't even look like our blood uncle. I wouldn't even say we look like our mother now (except I definitely would have said we looked like her before testosterone).

We look like if our maternal grandfather and our dad had a kid (and got kinda unlucky on the looking obviously cool part {our maternal grandfather has one eye that looks entirely to one side and while we did slightly inherit it, it doesn't look like that usually})

Saying that to clarify that we couldn't have expected to look like this.

We have this one guy who's been here before we started T (though I don't know if it was before we were going through the hoops) and after 3 years on T? The body is somehow him?? I mean, he's kind of a factive but also not. In the sense that he doesn't consider himself to be a factive but it seems very clear that he's at least based slightly off some guy we watch.

Why and how. Sir, where did you come from and how did you know?

[cripinpain]

hello physically disabled person reading this. it is not your fault that your medical supplies are made from a lot of single use plastic and you can continue using them guilt free. your health comes first. thank you for existing.

[crippled-peeper]

if your insulin pump has lithium batteries and the tubing is plastic,

if your ostomy bags, incontinence supplies, and sanitary wipes are single-use,

if your joint replacement, bone plate, pins & screws, or spinal hardware is cobalt & chrome,

if your meds come in a plastic container you can’t recycle or reuse for sterility,

you are still innocent. you didn’t choose this particular life. we all must do what we can to survive and that includes using technology and consuming resources. it is only human and we all do it.

some people out there own several yachts and don’t ever consider the impact it has on the world. there’s nothing to be gained by beating yourself up for doing the bare minimum for a comfortable, livable, safe & long life.

[weirdstrangeandawful]

Just want to add, don’t cut corners. Don’t risk your life when there are people who could do a lot more without risking theirs.

Don’t reuse the syringe. Don’t use cloths over alcohol swabs. Choose the battery powered device over the rechargeable if it means you can carry spares. Don’t use the reusable container if you can’t get it open. Don’t choose the reusable option if you can’t keep it clean. Don’t overfill the sharps container. Don’t improvise the tourniquet. Don’t eat the expired food if you can’t afford to be sick. Don’t choose the sustainable option if it doesn’t meet your needs.

Your life is not others’ priority so it has to be yours.

[this-is-accessibility]

Adding to this some specific advice I am constantly reminding myself.

Fed is best!!!

If eating the pre-packaged food means you might have energy for other things you want to do later then do that!

If you have to take a frozen dinner to work for your lunch because you can't stand leftover food and so meal prepping doesn't work for you, then take the frozen dinner that you know you will actually eat.

Don't feel bad for eating the same thing multiple times in a row, if that's all you can eat then that's what you should eat!

If you can't stomach an entire meal but are able to snack on a granola bar and some applesauce, that's beautiful! Some food is far better than no food.

[chaotic-crafters-sys]

Spoilers fnaf 2 movie

"Don't you know I love you??" - William Afton

No, I don't think she does considering you stabbed her point blank

[chaotic-crafters-sys]

They make taco doritos and I don't know what they used but damn these things really are tacos. Would use sour cream as a dip though

[homunculus-argument]

The fun thing about finnish is that the way you ask for things in a polite way has been in-baked into the suffixes you use, so you don't have to use many words when few do trick. Like asking someone "could you give me [-]" is "voisitko antaa" in written and some variation of "voisiksä antaa" in spoken dialects*, but instead of asking "could you", the polite polite way to ask is "haluaisitko", not as can you, but would you want to. The tone distinction is so clear that asking someone "could you [do thing]" instead of "would you want to [do thing]" is less of a polite request and more of instruction - someone's gotta do it, and the task is being assigned to you.

On the other hand, dropping out the conditional out of the question turns the tone into a passive-aggressive threat. If someone tells you "stop that" as an imperative, "lopeta", that's a command. Asking in conditional, could you stop that, "voisitko lopettaa" is a polite request. "Haluaisitko lopettaa", would you like to stop that, is so polite that depending on the tone it might be sarcastic politeness that indicates hostility.

But asking someone "do you want to stop that", "haluatko lopettaa tuon" is a matter of "do you want to stop doing that voluntarily, or do you want me to stop you." By physical force, if necessary.

* the different form varies depending on what first and second person pronouns are used in the specific dialect. This is a whole another rabbit hole so for shortcut I'm doing the examples in the southern finnish dialect that I have grown up speaking

[kuivamustekala]

Since I use it a bunch in my speech, I also want to shout out "viitsisitkö antaa". I don't think there's a proper english word to translate it with, but the closest approximation of the meaning is "could you be bothered to give me" - however while the tone of the translation could easily be read as passive aggressive, if you're just saying it politely, it moreso has this tone of, like... "if you would be so inclined I'd appreciate it".

Which sounds like pretty dramatic appeasement behaviour when I write it out like that but it's also just a nice, polite request, pretty much on par with the "haluaisitko".

[kevytmaitohorsma]

One more option is to state "you wouldn't have x" (ei sulla ois x:ää) and that's somehow interpreted as a polite request

But the one thing we don't have is "please". The word doesn't exist here.

[homunculus-argument]

You can certainly say "you wouldn't happen to have a [thing] that I could borrow?" in english, too, but I do like how in finnish, the latter half of the sentence is not stated out loud, just implied. You don't word that question like that unless you're asking whether you could borrow it. Which also gives the other person the opportunity to soft launch a "no" by pretending to not notice the implied part. So a conversation can go two ways, it's either:

"Hey wou wouldn't happen to have a hammer?" [Can I borrow your hammer?] "Yeah, what do you need it for?" [You can. What are you working on?]

Or it can go like this:

"Hey wou wouldn't happen to have a hammer?" [Can I borrow your hammer?] "I do own one, yes." [I am ignoring your implied request. Whatever you want to borrow it for, I don't want to let you.] "Can I borrow it?" [I am ignoring your implied rejection. I need to borrow it.] "What do you need it for?" [I will not let you have it unless I know what you want to do and approve of it.]

I don't know how much of this kind of thing is just finnish culture, though, and how much of it is just how neurotypical people universally talk. But the implication waltz is definitely a big part of finnish conversation style.

[chaotic-crafters-sys]

Depending on dialect you technically could leave out the "that I could borrow" part. My whole family does it though if we're trying to be extra polite or something similar then the borrowing part is kind of tacked on and can be safely interrupted with a response (depending on authority/respect rules)

Though I don't know where exactly our family got it from. I mean, we're all USA but my grandma's from Pennsylvania (north-ish, close to canada) and she moved to the deep south (south carolina) where my mother was raised and my mother moved around a whole bunch before settling in Florida (terrible decision in hindsight but I love playing the stereotype)

I think it's probably more to do with how a whole lot of cultures are based on politeness (generalized hospitality) and due to that you have to find ways around denying others things (without seeming like you're rude) and asking others for things (without asking too much)

I like learning some random finnish tidbits from y'all

[chaotic-crafters-sys]

Sometimes I am reminded about a post that was talking about how you shouldn't shame/mock people for the behavior you want to see, an example being a child coming out of their room and their family saying something like "look who finally decided to join us"

And it makes me think huh, that's why I don't talk. My family never really did that first example and in social settings it always felt playful because you were a little late because you were talking or something

Switch to conversations in a digital setting

But I take a long time to talk, I mess up, I ramble, I don't usually get my point across very fast and easily. Before, I would type too fast that my message would get missed and my messages would have all the same problems as my verbal speech does. Rambling, off topic jumps, typos that change the meaning of what is said, my point mixed in with the side topics and random facts so that it gets skipped over because who wants to listen to their friend's ramblings when you're trying to have an important conversation.

I write in paragraphs because then I can pass myself off as organized and concise. I have had multiple people comment that I don't speak how I type. That's purposeful, I can't change the way I speak (at least not without it still coming out at times) but typing? You can edit it as many times as you want before you hit send.

Add little things that add context or to explain.

And then inevitably, people say you are a slow typer and take a long time. Despite not acknowledging that I write my paragraphs in about the same amount of time as their messages.

They say "Is (blank) still typing? We believe in you!" and then wonder why I stop typing. Maybe it's because you treated me like a dog learning a new trick or a baby trying to say its first words. Considering I already sent a non-paragraph message it felt even ruder.

I wouldn't say to always act a certain way in these types of situations. Everyone has different wants or needs and I know most do it because they don't see anything wrong. It just hurts

[joycomplexx]

by the way it's fine to like sexual content just for the sake of it. "we can't ban porn because other stuff will get banned" "sometimes nude art has value" "the government will classify queer people as sexual" this is all true but it's okay to just like porn. its okay to not want porn to be banned because you like it.

[joycomplexx]

"OP is a proshipper" well yeah. obviously. did you read the post.

[chaotic-crafters-sys]

I chopped some wood with our new neighbor, he's super nice.

Also very afraid of spiders so he's probably going to hate living here at least a bit

He said some things in a way that makes me think he's progressive but honestly he seems super kind anyway so I don't worry too badly. He believes in the whole "help your community and they'll help you" type beat too.

Even tried to offer me a burger for helping and felt bad cause I can't eat it (certain meats make me sick). Also tried to offer me some beans and rice from his doomsday prepper stash but I didn't take any because the joy of doing the thing is about all I need.

I think he's gay but in the closet type of way where he doesn't yet realize himself he's gay, ya know? I'm not saying that because he was nice or anything, my brain just kind of guesses and is right usually.

I definitely don't think most would look at him and assume he's gay but he has a type of air to him that I can't describe that feels gay (or well, non-gender type queer)

Anyway nice guy, plan to chop more wood with him at a later point because it's getting kind of late now.

[chaotic-crafters-sys]

Sometimes my head buzzes with the sound of a million bees. Sometimes it buzzes with silence as the only true discernable thing. Sometimes silence is worse than the bees. Sometimes all outside stimulus is filtered through the layers of bees and silence. Sometimes I think that maybe if I leave the bees to it then they'll eventually die and stop buzzing. Sometimes I realize it's a fruitless task because there are always more bees.

Sometimes the bees give energy. Sometimes it makes me think I am in mania when I cannot discern what is just a joy for life and what is getting drunk off of air. Sometimes I take it as a blessing, that the bees have decided to leave because the incessant buzz has come with gift, the gift of joy, of feelings of happiness so extreme that I forget what it's like when the bees are mad or sad.

Sometimes fall comes and everything begins to wane, like the moon the bees won't let me see because the dark is praying on my downfall. Sometimes I see the sky outside my window. Sometimes I remember what it was like to be normal enough, to not live by the whims of bees. Sometimes those memories are fake, the bees have been here forever, haven't they?

Sometimes winter happens and the bees buzz louder, to keep warm, right? Sometimes I wonder what I'd be like without the bees, without the very thing driving everything I do. Sometimes I wonder how others have a purpose if they don't have bees to listen to. Sometimes I think it must be nice, to be without a purpose.

Sometimes I quietly wish the bees would give me more leniency because if they heard, the buzz would only get louder.

[chaotic-crafters-sys]

I love when people talk about posts like "I this post float around-" because it makes it sound like it's a leaf in the wind or a fish.

Maybe soup. Soup for my family (joke)

[does-your-system-have-an-alter]

Does your system have an alter who's blind in headspace/the inner world?

does your system have an alter...

who's blind in headspace/the inner world?

yes! (that's neat, I didn't know that was possible lol /gen)

nope! (same)

unsure?

nuance!

results!

Voting ended onMay 21

PT: Does your system have an alter who is blind in headspace/the inner world? /End PT

[chaotic-crafters-sys]

Does xem not being able to open their eyes count? Technically not blind in the sense of the sense isn't there but in the sense of they couldn't use it even if they wanted to?

[chaotic-crafters-sys]

My doctor told me the problem with my ears was actually just allergies and had nothing to do with the loud crack in my jaw that happened right before they started messing up.

I am suffering. My head burns and I have a massive headache because the pressure in my ears weren't equal while I slept so curse me I guess

I want a second opinion and I want someone who will think about it a little harder than "this person has allergies, stamp" when I've literally never had to equalize the pressure in my ears manually (and now I do, quite often too)

I've had allergies before, this ain't it. Post brought to by me just waking up and being mildly upset + tired and so thus my brain has not stopped me from complaining

[etchif]

"It's stupid that men are allowed to be shirtless in public while women aren't" yes true✅️ "it's also gross when men do it they should also have to cover up" what. no. no. wrong conclusion❌️

[ayagdos]

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[moonfox-mumbles]

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[pt: DO NOT TAKE THIS SURVEY]

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[reishi-wants-noodles]

guess we need to be circulating this psa again. This Is A Fucking Trap. Do Not Participate.

[this-is-ableism]

the "this-is-deformimisia" blog. disabled people & intersex people with physical differences do not need nor want this word. i'm someone with 'physical differences' due to disability, past self-harm, and intersexuality. we need to call it what it is. ableism & ofen times intersexism. they made this post:

https://www.tumblr.com/this-is-deformimisia/806962973567549440/question-about-this-blog-wouldnt-it-be-better-to?source=share

essentially speaking over and forcing the word "deformed" onto people like me who don't want it. "deformed" does not have the same connotations as disabled. it does not have the same connotations as narcissist. speaking as someone who has npd. the word "deformity/deformed" is inherently pathologizing and dehumanizing. i am not deformed. i am physically disabled and intersex.

the blog runner (dhddmods) also has no facial or body differences. something to keep in mind.

this is ableism.

(linked post is here.)

[this-is-deformimisia]

Ah yes. I am totally not deformed or disfigured. Totally.

Its not like I have a pelvic disfigurement. Or a spinal deformity and disfigurement. Or oral deformities. Or a wrist disfigurement. Or self harm scars.

Are you fucking kidding me rn. Can you not endorse harassment campaigns against me for literal misinformation.

[dhddmods]

This is your sign to unfollow this-is-ableism. Both this and it's allowance of paramisia on its account.

Example 1 of paramisia [link.]

Example 2 of paramisia [link.]

[chaotic-crafters-sys]

Cw swearing

I feel like this is the same rhetoric as not using disabled, disordered, fucked up, etc etc on yourself because other people have bad connotations and think that the only way anyone can use them is negative.

By the way, those are all terms I have used on myself and the things I make (as in the crafts I make are fucked up because they're made by me, they're not perfect and often they're not average either so I like calling them fucked up)

This also reminds me of my mother who always tells me not to call our cat fat because I'm being mean to her apparently.

Our cat is healthy but absolutely a giant cat (like 15 pounds!) and fluffy (with loose skin) so whenever she lays on her side she looks like a very fat baby (think chubby human baby if they're cute to you) and I tell her about how fat + adorable she looks whenever she lays on her side. (I'm not showing a picture because I'm slightly worried my family would be able to find it)

Also my mother has accused me of being degrading towards myself and the stuff I make because I call it fucked up. I am fucked up, the same woman (my mother) has called me fucked up and I've basically have been told my entire life that I'm weird, fucked up, and that there's something wrong with me.

If I can reclaim any other kind of insult, why not this one? What is so uniquely bad about this one that I'm not even allowed to call myself it?

I don't know if I would be considered deformed, maybe in the brain or somewhere you can't immediately tell by looking at me but I can't move the way "normal" people can, the people who have little to no impairment. Everyone has always been able to tell that, I'm slightly better at hiding it now but I can't hide it forever.

I mean, you can tell it from just looking at pictures of me. My ID picture is the most prominent (my two lazy eyes in opposite directions {one's super far off and the other is off enough to be noticeable}, a permanent head tilt because my brain won't process what I'm looking at if I don't have my head tilted, my face always slightly sagging from poor motor control, etc)

I'd say the one that comes out the most noticeable is whenever I hold things in my mouth (or just smile weird/"typically") my whole face twitches kinda fast, the muscles to move my cheeks and stuff I mean. People have commented on it / made weird faces at it a whole bunch and it's always something like "what are you doing?" (bewilderment usually) or that face some people make when they have to see weirdos in public (it's disgust, also I say weirdos because that's all they'll see us as, not like disabled, alternative, or anything)

I was truly hoping that this-is-ableism was just a type of person to not actually comment on a post (hence why it didn't say anything on the paraphilia ones) but not even checking this one? To see if they're even right about no deformities/etc?

I get differing opinions on use of insults and stuff but this is a "don't use this in reference to me as I don't like it" rather than "calling someone this is always bad, even if it's yourself". Forgive me for a second because I am starting a tangent and will be saying some things.

Tw for slurs, particularly the f-slur (indicates gayness), the t-slur (indicates transness), and the d-slur (indicates lesbianism)

If you try to apply it to slurs which may have a similar history to the term deformity like faggot or tranny then no one can, should, or should want to call themselves that and yet I know of people where that's the only label they'll use (sometimes providing their own alternative term if they know some friends don't like to say it or boundaries on who can actually call them it)

(I don't know the history of the term deformed but substitute the particular slurs how you would like, I use those two as one, I am both gay and trans, and two, those are the only ones I have personal experiences with as compared to some others I could technically reclaim but wouldn't actually feel right about using)

Hell, I'd say we should reclaim these terms as individuals who have complex emotions, both regarding the term itself and its use.

I barely use tranny because I felt for the longest time it didn't apply to me. I wasn't obviously transgender, hell, most people who'd call someone it as an insult don't even know that transmasculine exists (and they definitely don't know the naunces of plurality and intersex-ness in regards to it)!

To say that last part as in, tranny felt like it didn't apply to me because I wasn't a binary trans woman and back then (like 7-9 years ago now) that's all there was really, binary trans people. Height of people being accused of being "transtrenders" with trans men fighting against hella erasure and throwing others under the bus because that was what felt like the only way to make us be accepted.

I had worried for maybe a year about being a "transtrender". Honestly, I'd reclaim that one if I felt like it was being given more grace when it was seen but it's too heavily connected to transmedicalists that I don't think it's worth the effort.

Faggot is one that is a little weird for me to reclaim. I mean, now that I pass as a man most of the time (still obviously off somehow but I don't know if trans is what comes to people's mind, especially transmasculine) it feels a little more genuine and closer to me but. I've only really started passing consistently recently, like the past 2 years at most, when I started to grow a beard.

The d-slur for lesbians feels closer to what people see me as and closer to what I experience but, I'm definitively not lesbian. Or well, not in the expected ways anyway.

I identify with tranny because it feels very close to how I was treated for my gender non-conformity throughout my entire life (before too masculine for a little girl and now, too off to be a man but has a the scary features that make you one {loud, bearded [at times], weird looking [referring to the ID picture comments where ugly means dangerous], too confrontational, etc etc}) (too off to be a man as in, I wear my hair long with softer curls {sometimes}, my tones are a performance for the other person's comfort {men never care about others obviously [sarcasm]}, bubbly/cheerful, wears thigh highs with basketball shorts, etc etc)

I identify with faggot because well, that's what people see now. What else would they see when they see a person who's slightly effeminate and is "obviously supposed to be a man"? I mean, a freak but I'm usually called a freak for other reasons (usually not positive unless I'm saying it to myself)

I feel like I can't identify with the d-slur (indicates lesbianism) specifically because the way most describe it as a slur for lesbians. And I mean, it is, definitely. But the reason I was called it was never because they thought I was a lesbian.

It was usually because I was too loud, too caring for things they thought I shouldn't be, far far too queer and mentally ill, etc etc. I've been called a d-slur for being a feminist, for sharing that I wanted to be referred to with he/him while it was obvious I wasn't a man, for saying that I did like women while also being openly trans, and for some other things I can't remember / don't want to remember.

But, I'm not a woman, right? Well, not exactly woman and definitely not close enough to be calling myself a lesbian or d-slur without a whole ton of people switching to she/her and thinking I'm a trans woman instead.

Also on the topic of slurs and reclaiming them. Queer, also was a slur but has been reclaimed enough that most people don't consider it a slur. I don't considered disordered to be anything like an insult and I don't always remember that others can consider it an insult (also the same reason I accidentally tell people how their behaviors and trauma are connected)

I'm rambling bye noww

[riotdyke]

Man, remember when Free The Nipple was a thing and there was an actual substantial amount of feminists who believed even public nudity wasn't inherently sexual and now if you date a short person hundreds of anonymous idiots online will call you a pedophile.