I decided to mention about forgiving, an action that sometimes we skip and don’t realize the importance of it. I am going to explain you why it is necessary to forgive:
In my point of view, there are 3 reasons to why we should forgive:
No matter who hurt you, it already became a past. Past is a past.
Nobody is perfect.
Forgiveness is needed and a benefit which gives peace to you and others.
Imagine you are in a hard situation with someone whether if it is someone you don’t like, your best friends, friend, mom, dad, sister, brother, a boyfriend or a girlfriend. You feel you aren’t able to forgive the other person, pain defines you.
Now, imagine a situation from your real life, something or someome that really hurt you. Think about those 3 reasons I wrote on the top and connect them to your situation.
After 3 minutes of thinking, I will help you connecting those reasons to any situation you are/were in.
First of all, every situation we experience eventually becomes our past. You can still forgive and change the way it was before according to your decisions. You can move on and be nice with the other person, instead of showing hate and doing faces.
Let me give you a short example: you find out that your best friend told your other friend a secret. It was importat to you that she won’t tell anyone else. You are annoyed, hurt and feel you can’t trust your best friend. You can react in variety ways to this incident and it is up to you.
Firstly, you can forgive your friend and not tell her secrets anymore. You can forgive her with telling her staright away what you think about it, or not being her best friend like before or you can not forgive. It is up to you but you can still change the situation bewteen you and the other person by forgiving.
Secondly, we are human beings. Nobody is perfect and each one of us makes mistakes. Some of us learn from them and some not. Nonetheless, forgive even though the other side don’t deserve to be forgiven in your opinion. You make mistakes either and I am sure you would like to be forgiven.
Moreover, we need forgeviness. Nowdays, we live in a world full of viloence and hate. Peace and love are are distant from us. Sometimes, we need to feel forgiven in order to feel that there is still a hope and chance to make peace with the other person no matter what happens. The other person including you will feel relieved and also some type of peace between you without a fear and frustration. Forgeviness has a positive impact. When you forgive, you grow, become stronger and there is not tension with others. Don’t forget that it and has to be real. If you were thinking about forgiving someone without being real about it, you won’t really feel good with yourself about it. Same with the other side.
To sum this up, think about forgeviness and how you see this word. You decide what to do. You can take something from what I wanted to give you or not and that is okay. Every situation is different from each other so if you feel you can’t forgive don’t, it is up to you. Forgeviness may take time but it is worth it because there is nothing to lose by forgiving.
What about non existence of electronic devices for a bit? 📴
I have been thinking for a while writing about our popular norm: The use of electronic devices, especially phones. In our world, it is not common to be without our phones for more than couple of minutes or even hours. This little phone which is our friend is inseperable from us. Moreover, there are the rest the family members such as computers, mps, and anything you would like to have. It is simple to access to anything we have and we do it everyday. When a boredom traps us, we impulsively take our phones because why not? Before you jump into conclusions, I am not here to force you not using your phones anymore. I am here to bring the awareness of how being addicted to electronic devices, may prevent us from doing other things which aren't revolves around them. Here are few tips on how you can have fun without using cellphones for a bit: 1) Travel in the nature🌾 - Nature is the most beautiful thing on earth. You may not be enthusiastic about it but once you go on a camp, or take a walk, you will feel free and peace. 2) Spend time with your friends without your phones💃 - There is a difference between meeting with your friends and spending most of the time on your phones or meeting with them and actually putting your phones aside for a while. Nowdays, it is hard not to be on our phones among our friends. However, try not to. 3) Read a book📖 - I know this may be a geek or a stupid thing to do because you can choose something better to do. But, reading a book won't make you a geek person who doesn't have a life. Reading a book is actually fun and great activity to do generally. Instead of tiring your eyes in front of your cellphone, open your imagination through reading. 4) Find your interest✨ - Sometimes, using our phones block us from finding our own interest in something. We tend to be in our phones instead of developing our interest and working on it. If you like to sing, dance, write, anything else: do it without your phones. Your phone will wait. 5) Mediate🎎 - Meditation may be difficult for you in the begginng, if you are stressed or rush to do other things. The main idea in meditation is to calm yourself, listening to your inner voice and having a fun time of your own where you can do anything you would like to. Practice meditation everyday, even for 5 minutes. You will become more calm, less stressed about your phone. You will also be disconnected from the world for a bit. Those are my 5 main tips for you to enjoy your time without using cellphones. As I wrote before, you can use electronic devices in any lenght you want but remember to first live in the moment and then caption moments♡
This post in unusual than the other ones that I wrote. While writing this it feels more deep, touching, meaningful and longer than any post here. To be honest, it is not just a post that you read and move on quickly.
In order to start, I am going to tell you how overwhelmed I am by finishing watching the new show ’13 reasons why’. I am sure some of you heard about this show, some of you don’t and maybe most of you have started watching it, or even finished.
After watching, I hope you feel overwhelmed like I do. It doesn’t has to be the same feeling but it has to give you chills one way or another.
Now, why do I say such a thing like that?
Today, we live in a world where we have access to almost anything. We can communicate in variety of apps, post pictures, say and do anything we want. Unfortunately, all of these have consequences if we don’t become more cautious about our actions. It also refers to the reality in which we live. A reality when we meet people, strangers and friends. The show is the reality among us. And to be more specific, it is not just an ordinary show.
’13 reasons why’ is a show which cross all the boundaries and fucking show you how people can be mean, violent and judgemental. Again, this is our reality. In our world teenagers and eve children commit suicide. People still bully each other and think it is okay or don’t even think. You can read and not understand how bad it is. You can only watch it and realize how heart breaking it is.
Anyway, after thinking, feeling and realizing deeper, I am going to write and tell you what I have learned from watching this show. It may also help you open your eyes and take those lessons seriously:
There’s a reason why there are 13 lessons:
1. Be nice- Being nice is simple. It doesn’t cost anything to be nice instead of being arrogant or a snob. Be nice, you can’t know how it affects the other person or how someone wishes to feel that someone is being nice to him.
2. Be cautious with words– Before saying something you will regret or not, don’t say something that will totally let someone down. Just don’t do it.
3. When someone needs help, lend a hand– You see that someone needs help. Try to help, just don’t ignore it, because it may be you. A small action can help a lot to someone and you may not realize it.
4. Don’t be afraid to ask for a help– We are humans. We get happy, sad, depressed, anything. We can feel anything and it is absolutely alright. Don’t be afraid to ask for a help.
5. Someone will always care– You may not believe and think that nobody cares about you. But, I guarantee you there’s someone out there who cares about you and wants to see you happy. Don’t forget that.
6. “What goes around comes around”– This saying isn’t a bullshit. If you look closer you will notice that what you do will come to you like a boomerang whether it is something good or bad. It depends on you.
7. Be a better person- You can always change the way to act toward others. If you haven’t treated others very well, you can change that. It is never too late.
8. Apologize when necessary– Like in the show, each one of Hannah’s “friends” did terrible things. Some of them realized that and some not. Even if they did realize, it was too late. Put your ego aside, notice when you did something wrong and apologize.
9. Be yourself– It may seem a bit irrelevant to the show but it is not. Hannah was herself but most of the people made her feel that she is not enough and being herself is the wrong thing. No matter how you think you are not good enough, what people tell you or think of you: be yourself and don’t change for anybody just because they don’t like the way you are. The right people will love you the way you are.
10. Love yourself- It may be the same like the previous lesson but it is more than that. Sometimes, it is hard to love the way we are. We hurt, blame, tortuarte ourselves. It doesn’t has to be a physical abuse but we don’t notice how bad it influences on us. Don’t be hard on yourself. Accept and learn to love yourself.
11. There’s so much to live- Living is one of the precious gifts ever. No matter at where you are now, how things are difficult: you have so much to live. Everything changes and hard times are temporary no matter how long it takes.
12. “You can’t bury the truth”– That is one of the quotes from the show. It means that no matter how hard you try to justify yourself by running away from the truth, you will have to face it. Take responsibiliity.
13. Committing Suicide isn’t a solution– I guess that one of the show’s lessons is that committing suicide isn’t a solution. No matter how you feel and from what you may suffer, you can get a help without hurting yourself and missing your life. There are many solutions to a problem or problems and you shouldn’t give up. You deserve to live♥
A lesson that summarize all of these above: Everything affects everything.
It is hard to understand of all these by reading. I still hope that by reading and watching the show you will follow these lessons and do small actions. You can save someone’s else life. It only depends on us.
Thank you if you read this important post which is as important as the show. That’s why it’s not an ordinary post.
When the sun begins to shine on a new day
You decide to turn everything into gray
With great painful words
Which create blameful words.
You walk proudly
And talk loudly
With a big sarcasm
And a snobbery around.
I'm only human
but you make me cruel
With scars in my heart
And tears from the start.
But it becomes all right
As the time comes to midnight
When you go to sleep
And I have no weep.
Go away hun
Let it be more fun
Because you are the bully
Who deserves no cookie.
Cheerful worldThis kind of poem is about Bullying. I know it may look stupid that I used humor and sarcasm but it to show that you can define a bully and bullying.
This thing means a lot to me because I experienced that. I would like to know your thoughts about it. I want to imporve my writing. Thanks for reading!!♥ xoxoxo
Each one of us have friends, best friends, close mates, pals, whatever. Some of them we meet everyday, some of them less. Most of them we pass by saying just a “Hi”. We surround ourseleves with different types of friends that influence on us.
The main point is to realize who are our real friends.
How do we know?
I think the fastest test we can take in order to check this is to think few seconds about a friend. After thinking, describe fast in one word how does this friend make us feel.
I know it is not enough to find out but, it’s also important to know how people make us feel by simply being with them.
Therefore, let me help you give you signs of a fake friend:
1) A friend who talks behind your back- No matter where you stand with your friend, a real friend doesn’t talk behind your back or spreads rumors about you.
2) A friend who doesn’t listen to you- You say something to your friend several times and it doesn’t seem that they really listen or do something about it. (In general, this friend doesn’t listen and you feel that you talk to yourself). A real friend will listen to you and you will know it.
3) A friend who criticizes you- You are tired of hearing from your friend saying how your shirt doesn’t look good enough or why you didn’t order a better tasty food. There is a difference between being honest and giving critise in any time you do something. Watch out.
4) A friend who controls you- You have to do anything they say to you. They have to be superior, to know everything you do. If you will try to change it, you will regret it.
5) A friend who takes and doesn’t give- It means a friend who takes advatage of you and won’t do anything in return. No matter how much you give, it won’t be enough and they will get mad if you stop. They will also not appreciate what you do for them and you will feel drained.
6) A friend who gets jealous- A friend who gets jealous if you are with someone else, when you succeed. They lack of overall encouragement and support.
7) A friend who makes fun of you all the time- Don’t get me wrong. Friends can make fun of you and each other in a joking way. But, if there is a friend who does it all the time, you ask to stop and they continue, it is not the same. This kind of friend does it to lower your self-esteem. Realize what they are doing.
8) A friend who doesn’t respect you- Respect is so important in friendships. Friends may make different decisions and have different opinions, tastes, perspectives. A real friend will respect you and the differences you have.
9) A friend who ignores you- A friend who ignores your presence, when you say something etc. It seems like this friend doesn’t care. Notice how often your friend ignores you.
10) A friend who tries to change you- It is hard to identify. This kind of friend will try to change you by changing the way you act, say and believe. They will blame, complain and things won’t suit them. It depends on what they do and you will also feel not good about yourself.
There are be plenty of signs but if you recognize one, two or more than two signs that seem to happen in your friendship, don’t ignore it. Furthermore, don’t jump fast to conclusions. Talk to your friend and try to explain nicely how you feel in the friendship. Each friendship isn’t perfect, and there will be ups and downs.
However, if you tried your best and nothing seems to change it or improve the friendship, move on. You can’t stay in one sided friendship, feeling drained or unhappy most of the time. You deserve better. LISTEN TO YOUR GUT WHEN SOMETHING DOESN’T FEEL RIGHT TO YOU.
More small tips that can be helpful: Write/think about
✿ What frienship means to you
✿ What do you want in a friendship (At least 3-5 that are the most important to you)
✿ What kind of friend are you (bad and good qualities and how you can work on them)
✿ What kind of friend do you want to be
*Go after what you feel and believe, but know that it requires work from you and the other person.
After a long reading, here is a quote to sum up this friendship time:
“Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself – and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.” Jim Morrison
You lay on your bed, wondering what will happen next. You can’t stop listening to your mind which make you explode. You can’t understand why today you feel bad. You want to blame everyone and especially yourself. Non stop thoughts are crawling to your mind, and there is no smile for today.
“What should I do?”, “What can I do?” those questions are pooping in your mind. Your answers may be quickly like: “I can’t do so much today”, “My mood won’t change”, “I don’t think I can do something on this bad day”, “Maybe something will change but I don’t know.”
After having a little conversation with yourself, you keep lying on your bed, trying to figure out what is going to be the next thing.
Now it is my turn to help you with few tips on how to spend your bad day, and turn it to a beneficial day:
1. Before you scream at someone or have the desire to hit something, take control on yourself by taking few breaths, and count until 10. I admit it won’t be easy but when you try to calm yourself, you won’t regret doing it. You wouldn’t like to feel regret for hurting someone with no intentions at all.
2. This tip may be similiar to the first one but it is much more than that: Meditate. Sit or lay and close your eyes. Take few deep breathes and try to clear your mind (You can use a guided meditation or put a relaxing music with nice melodies). Let go of anything and anyone. Now it is just you. You can even imagine being in a nice place where you would like to be and having a great time.
3. Listen to a happy music. Did you know how much music influences on us as human beings? choose good songs and listen to their positive lyrics. It can change your mood quickly for the better.
4. Do something that makes you laugh. I am sure there are variety of things that make you laugh until your stomach hurts. Do it, laughter also burn calories😉
5. Release your emotions. Cry, scream, throw anything: it is okay. But, then stop and don’t let that drain you. It is important to be conscious of how you feel and not try to deny it. We are humas, nothing is wrong with feeling the way we feel. You can also express your emotions by writing. Write why you have a bad day, feel the way you feel and how you can change that (because YOU CAN).
There are many things you can do and learn from having a bad day or even bad days. It can come and go but remember to take care of yourself. Take a time and have a hope that everything will be okay because it will.
Having a bad day doesn’t mean you have a bad life.
Like the quote says:
“You have to fight bad days to have best days in your Life.”
You shine like the sun and sparkle like a star,
with sweetness like a puppy and a speechless beauty.
You are a mystery as the dark and unpredictable as a thunder on an innocent warm day.
You are the last who will ever leave someone hunging out and this is the thing that make you unique.
Cheerful World
I know it is not a poem but yeah I wanted to share in order to show how unique each of us is. xoxo
It is all about a Smile,
A smile,
All they want to show is their smile wide,
Wide as the wind and pretty as a child.
Smile,
They say with no regret or disagreement,
As they walk proudly and enjoy wildly.
Smile,
They repeat for their last time in their life time.
They,
They are us who promise to be fearless,
They don’t tolerate as a cigarette’s smoke,
Because all they do,
Is to smile.
I guess you have heard the word "Nobody is perfect" more than once. This phrase has a genuine meaning if we look closer.
In fact, human beings were born to be imperfect. However, we try to be perfect by trying to look more beautiful or handsome. If something isn't perfect we tend to run away from it. When we try to do everything perfectly, there is a big chance to lose ourselves by not accepting the way we actually are.
And here comes the time to remember something: we are human beings. We should accept ourselves and not do the opposite.
Few tips that may help you:
♥ Take a look at your flaws and instead of repressing them, embrace them.
♥ As you know what your good qualities are, work on your weaknesses.
♥ Instead of trying to run away from yourself, do not be afraid to make mistakes because you learn.
How can you use of all of these tips properly?
Write on a piece of paper good qualities and bad qualities of yourself. Take few minutes to think and write them down. I am sure you will know them when you give it time.
2. Write how can you strengthen your good qualities and how can you improve your bad ones.
For example (it is a general example):
A good quality- Loyalty - How to strengthen: being protective of friends and family, not talking behind someone's back, trusting yourself that you can stay loyal.
A bad quality (even consider it ass a less good)- Having mood swings - How to improve: trying to control it by reducing stress, changing perspective, managing mood swings in the moment.
*By trying to improve your bad qualities, it doesn't mean you try to be perfect, you get to know yourself and try to be a better person. There is a difference.*
3. Don't lie to yourself. Try to forget in a moment the outside world and look into your inner self. When you start focusing on that, it will be much easier to understand who you truly are.
Be real with yourself. Leave aside the norms, rules or anything else that makes you try to be or even look perfect at all times. It may take time and progress but when you know yourself, you are a real person who is not afraid to be imperfect.
IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO BE REAL, AND BECOME A BETTER VERSION OF OURSELVES! ♥
I think you guess why i’m here: to write. Tumblr is a blog site so it is a great experience to improve yourself as a writer. I have found lately that when I write, it only feels better. I find it easily to express myself through writing.
My goal is to express my ideas, tips, and lessons through writing in any way, I may suprise you😉
I admit I am not a professional writer, and I still have a work to do. However, who knows what’s going to happen in the future. It’s worth to try. Thus I want you to read. It would be a pleasure to know what you think. I also hope what I give you will be helpful.
My name is Maya, nice to meet you ✍
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