I literally wrote this to a friend who seriously needed a friend at the moment #arealfriend #imthere #friends #always (at Winston-Salem, North Carolina) https://www.instagram.com/p/CDpsg7knHYA/?igshid=oj9fqslewr9l
Would u sleep on two swivel chairs with u're legs hanging thru the arms for u're friend to sleep on u're Tempur pedic with her cat? No I'm not stupid I'm a true friend...it's king size so I c plenty of room 4me but my cat's want to sleep with me n her kitten will hiss n b scared...so I do what I can to accommodate.. Almost 3wks been sleeping on the chair and I got hit by a car today and the cop said he thought I should go to the hospital because I was pretty beat up and I said MMA fighter I get pretty beat up a lot LOL and he said I can't believe I'm standing here talking to someone who just got thrown in the air by a car the car is going the wrong way up the street and was going at least a hundred like I mean this car is speeding and it was a tiny little street so I was looking the other way because that's the way the Street goes and then when I turned my head I was already in the Ranp ready to go into the street because I didn't see any car coming... And I hit my brakes because I saw a car coming or wrong way really fast so my front tire went into the street and front of my bike went into the street and it's through my bike to the side and threw me up in the air and down to the ground and my leg got sliced open and my arms and my whole body got swiveled and the cop was amazed that I was sitting there bleeding to death talking to him and I remembered something because I have an eidetic memory so sucks because the guy just with a girl just kept on going so now they're brand new car because it had a white piece of paper so they just bought the car with their pua money how's it going to be in jail #truefriends #arealfriend #wouldyoudoit #areyouagoodfriend https://www.instagram.com/p/CDdX31ujJm1/?igshid=7ulhh4ueooih
I never would have imagined that getting married to the man of my dreams 4 years ago meant I might lose some friends, including my very best friend!!!! I was so excited about planning my engagement party, and soon to be wedding. I went to the very person I thought would help me plan everything - my bff. True story -I barely heard from her again! At that time I was devastated. We were like Sisters for over 10 years and I got dumped hard. And while I was willing to fix things we were never the same again. It broke my heart that my very best friend did not attend my engagement party or wedding with no explanation. Here's the lesson I learned. Proverbs 18:24b says; "a friend sticks closer than a brother." #arealfriend You can love your girlfriends as much as you want and spend all the time in the world with them but when you get married your best girlfriend can no longer be your BFF. THAT'S WHAT YOUR HUSBAND IS FOR. Little did I know God removed her! He knows what's best for us. Honestly I would have never mastered balancing our BFF lifestyle along with being married. Today, I can honestly thank God for that rejection because it was only for my protection. It also allowed me to recognize who was really for me and who was against me. Listen, never ignore when a friend can't celebrate your happiness, growth, or special life moments . When they show you who they are believe them. #leslielessons #bibleandbrunch #girlchat #realtalk #leslielessonsoflove
Each one of us have friends, best friends, close mates, pals, whatever. Some of them we meet everyday, some of them less. Most of them we pass by saying just a “Hi”. We surround ourseleves with different types of friends that influence on us.
The main point is to realize who are our real friends.
How do we know?
I think the fastest test we can take in order to check this is to think few seconds about a friend. After thinking, describe fast in one word how does this friend make us feel.
I know it is not enough to find out but, it’s also important to know how people make us feel by simply being with them.
Therefore, let me help you give you signs of a fake friend:
1) A friend who talks behind your back- No matter where you stand with your friend, a real friend doesn’t talk behind your back or spreads rumors about you.
2) A friend who doesn’t listen to you- You say something to your friend several times and it doesn’t seem that they really listen or do something about it. (In general, this friend doesn’t listen and you feel that you talk to yourself). A real friend will listen to you and you will know it.
3) A friend who criticizes you- You are tired of hearing from your friend saying how your shirt doesn’t look good enough or why you didn’t order a better tasty food. There is a difference between being honest and giving critise in any time you do something. Watch out.
4) A friend who controls you- You have to do anything they say to you. They have to be superior, to know everything you do. If you will try to change it, you will regret it.
5) A friend who takes and doesn’t give- It means a friend who takes advatage of you and won’t do anything in return. No matter how much you give, it won’t be enough and they will get mad if you stop. They will also not appreciate what you do for them and you will feel drained.
6) A friend who gets jealous- A friend who gets jealous if you are with someone else, when you succeed. They lack of overall encouragement and support.
7) A friend who makes fun of you all the time- Don’t get me wrong. Friends can make fun of you and each other in a joking way. But, if there is a friend who does it all the time, you ask to stop and they continue, it is not the same. This kind of friend does it to lower your self-esteem. Realize what they are doing.
8) A friend who doesn’t respect you- Respect is so important in friendships. Friends may make different decisions and have different opinions, tastes, perspectives. A real friend will respect you and the differences you have.
9) A friend who ignores you- A friend who ignores your presence, when you say something etc. It seems like this friend doesn’t care. Notice how often your friend ignores you.
10) A friend who tries to change you- It is hard to identify. This kind of friend will try to change you by changing the way you act, say and believe. They will blame, complain and things won’t suit them. It depends on what they do and you will also feel not good about yourself.
There are be plenty of signs but if you recognize one, two or more than two signs that seem to happen in your friendship, don’t ignore it. Furthermore, don’t jump fast to conclusions. Talk to your friend and try to explain nicely how you feel in the friendship. Each friendship isn’t perfect, and there will be ups and downs.
However, if you tried your best and nothing seems to change it or improve the friendship, move on. You can’t stay in one sided friendship, feeling drained or unhappy most of the time. You deserve better. LISTEN TO YOUR GUT WHEN SOMETHING DOESN’T FEEL RIGHT TO YOU.
More small tips that can be helpful: Write/think about
✿ What frienship means to you
✿ What do you want in a friendship (At least 3-5 that are the most important to you)
✿ What kind of friend are you (bad and good qualities and how you can work on them)
✿ What kind of friend do you want to be
*Go after what you feel and believe, but know that it requires work from you and the other person.
After a long reading, here is a quote to sum up this friendship time:
“Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself – and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.” Jim Morrison
✅ REASON #453 ✅ you can be glad I'm more of a #tomboy. Lol #ThingsThatMakeMeGiggle #makeupskills #TAG a friend that has #skills or a #friend that would #helpyouhideadeadbody 💁🏼 #atruefriend #arealfriend #MUA #makeup #makeupartist #canttrustamakeupartist #pimple #hideapimple #coverup #conceal #concealer #sarcasmismyfirstlanguage #sarcasmismyjam #sarcasmspreadthatisheverywhere
