i just be tossing and turning at 3am bc theres many things id like to say to someone but 1) i have to wait bc i need to have this talk in person 2) im a coward at heart and theres a 90% chance ill just chicken out oops
IF YOU SEE ANY PAINTING BY "EMILE CORSI" ON HERE, DO NOT REBLOG IT THINKING IT'S REAL AND FROM THE 1800s. IT IS AI-GENERATED AND EMILE CORSI IS NOT A HISTORICAL FIGURE
And if you love the vibes and wish you could find something similar painted by a real person, let me introduce you to John William Waterhouse, on whose work the AI was definitely trained:
Hey! Do you have any ideas for ways to actually incorporate forcemasc into the bedroom? I love forcemasc and my confidence in being masc in the bedroom has been kinda low, but I don't know how to actually "play it out" like in real time with another person (I'm a bottom btw but I hate being perceived as feminine). My boyfriend is supportive and wants to forcemasc me too but neither of us really know how that works in a roleplay sense in real life... Open to suggestions!
Okay, this answer is going to be long.
People can have an hard time to implement forcemasc in their sexual lives because it's a kink that's more a dynamic than a specific practice. For example, petplay would also be a dynamic, while impact play is a specific practice. In kink, you can use specific practices to enforce dynamics.
So, what is a forcemasc dynamic and how to materialise it with specific practices ?
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Forcemasc is the fiction you are being masculinized against your full enthousiastic consent and as such, can be separated in 2 other dynamics : masculinization and consensual non-consent.
Masculinization
Anybody from any gender can masculinize anybody from any gender. It can be a masculinization of your body, your gender or "just" your gender expression. To engage in masculinization, you need to decide on what it will focus.
Your sens of self ? The gendered words used for you ? Your body langage ? Your clothes ? Your haircut ? Your bodyhairs ? Your hormones ? Gender affirming surgeries ? Sexual practices ? Bod mod ? Voice training ?
Take also the time to establish boundaries : do you want to be forcemasc-ed but not called a man ? Do you want to have gender affirming surgeries but not have them included in your forcemasc play ? Are you willing to change haircut but not to shorter than your shoulders ? All valid and legit <3
Then, you will identify the practices you want to use : Praise ? Degradation ? Training ? Conditionement ? Hypnosis ? Control of your clothes ? Control of your bodyhair ? Administrating HRT ? Daily gender affirming affirmations ? Forbiding shaving ?
CNC
Consensual Non-Consent is a way to role play not being willing to engage in some acts, while staying safe and fully willing. To engage in it, you need a safeword or any other mean of freely communicating no in a way that will be immediatly understood as being outside of the role play.
It can be as simple as pretending to be manipulated into sex or as intense as pretending to be kidnapped and raped at gunpoint.
Now that you know what part of you will be forcemasc-ed and how you will do it, you're going to ask how it's going to be forced on you.
Do you want to be physically restricted ? With hands ? Cuffs ? Shibari ? Tape ? With sensory deprivation ? After a fight ?
If you want to be conditionned, what are the punishments used to make you complie ? Impact ? Electro ? Writting lines ? Doing push ups ? Orgasm denial ?
Do you prefere it to be only verbal, pretend you're in a toxic relationship where you're being manipulated into being more masc to deserve love ? To deserve pleasure ?
An established power dynamic, where the dom doesn't need to ask fo consent (in role play, ofc) ? Just have to decide they want you to be more masc, and even if you beg against it, they will do it and you will obey.
Combine !
Now that you identified each part of the scene you want to play, connect everything in a coherent and fluid way ! A few example :
your dom tie you up to do your t-shot while praising your body and the affect T has/will have on you. It make them so worked up they have to fuck you after
You said "my clit" instead of "my dick" and didn't correct someone that misgendered you ? Well, do 10 push-up, and say "I'm a man, I have a dick, I deserve respect and I shouldn't let other try to convince me otherwise" between each one. Then, perhaps you will be able to win back forgiveness between your dom knees.
you're blindfolded and being edged by your dom, who make you repeat gender affirming sentences. They will only let you cum once they're convinced you really believe it !
10 spanks for each day you're late for your t-shot
you're being stalked, your more feminine clothes disappear, same with your make up and recently you noticed your bodyhairs are getting thicker. You suspect something had been mixed with your body care products. Until you wake up in the middle of the night to being fucked while your tdick is pumped. (need some suspension of disbelief or the means to do a few days of play)
your dom only let you cum if you top or if you take it from behind, like a man
you're talking about your dysphoria and your insecurities, your dom refute everything with praise of your body and masculinity. You say you don't believe them. You get punished and forced to repeat each praise
And many other way, depending of what you like and what speak to you ! It can also be mixed with other dynamics kink, like petplay, ageplay, master/slave...ect
Obviously, this is just a way among others to create a forcemasc scene, but I think for people not used to kink, it's a great step-by-step method to start. Only do things you're confortable with, and that apply to you even if you're a dom. Do aftercare, take care of each other and communicate !
Feels like a good time to remind certain people that this is coming from Judith Butler, who is not just a leading feminist philosopher, but also THE COFOUNDER OF QUEER THEORY
The literal cofounder of queer theory as an academic field says that abandoning trans people is fascist logic.
The voices in our community trying to exclude us may be loud, but they are not right, and they do not speak for the community as a whole or our history or anything at all.
Trans people belong here. We always have, and we always will.
my brain for some reason: remember that your are deeply undesirable and that everyone who has ever done kinky or sexual stuff with you has done it as an act or out of pity
