Under the Stars

There is a girl with a big heart.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Once you realize you deserve a bright future, letting go of your dark past is the best choice you will ever make.

Roy T. Bennett (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[childish-wishes]

Few years ago, I would like the wrong guys and wonder why they won’t like me back. I would love the wrong guys and wonder if I wasn’t enough. Then I met the guy whom loved me back but it wasn’t enough for him to stay. I felt hopeless and helpless, and thought I saw the end. It’s not easy to find the right one. But don’t settle just because. Don’t hold on to someone hoping they’ll love you the right way or you’ll grow to love them one day. Being single is honestly much better than that in the long run.

Keep hoping and keep on learning. Learn to be people smart and be able to define their actions and purposes. Learn to reject people you don’t like and those who don’t make you happy. Learn to be more confident day by day. Learn who you want to be and become that person little by little. Learn to do things you thought you would never do. Most importantly, learn to stay healthy physically and emotionally.

By doing so, you’re pulling yourself closer to the right group of people for yourself and eventually you’ll attract the right one. These things are easy to say but hard to do, but be patience and keep trying anyway. Save yourself.

[somepiecesofmyheartandsoul-deac]

“What are you thinking about?” Her question interrupted his thoughts. “Well?” She asked again, with her chin rested on her palm. “I was just thinking how good it is to have you around,” he answered, “how blessed I am to have you by my side.” “Because with just simply you standing next to me,” he continued, “I become the happiest person alive.”

Lukas W. // Forgotten Words #221 // Happiest person (via somepiecesofmyheartandsoul)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Not friends. Not enemies. Just strangers with some memories.

Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Some Basic Friendship Skills

Dos

1. Talk about things that interest others, and not just things that interest you.

2. Share the conversation. Don’t talk over others, interrupt others, or seek to be the centre of attention.

3. Be interested in what other people have to say. Ask open questions, and try to find out more.

4. Notice when people do well, and make the effort to praise them for it. Try to be an affirming, and encouraging, friend.

5. Be respectful, considerate and polite. Be sensitive to the feelings of others.

6. Think before you speak. (Sometimes it’s better to say nothing than to speak your mind and upset or offend).

7. Learn how to ask for what you want and need in a non-threatening, and non-defensive way. Don’t react; and don’t pick needless arguments.

8. Try to understand the perspective of others – and don’t just assume that you are right and they are wrong.

9. Look out for others – and be a trusted friend

10. Back off, don’t dominate, and give your friends some space.

Don’ts

1. Don’t brag about what you’ve done or what you’ve got.

2. Don’t put others down.

3. Don’t judge and stereotype people.

4. Don’t take over the conversation. Let others tell their jokes, and have their say.

5. Don’t try to control other people, or to make them do what you want them to do.

6. Don’t talk, or gossip, about others.

7. Don’t make jokes at others’ expense.

8. Don’t demand perfection – allow your friends to be human, and to sometimes make mistakes.

9. Don’t be sensitive and quick to take offense.

10. Don’t be mean or stab others in the back.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say “My tooth is aching” than to say “My heart is broken.”

C.S. Lewis (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Cutting people out of my life doesn’t mean I hate them. It means I respect myself.

Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

If someone treats you badly just remember that there is something wrong with them - not you. Normal people don’t go around destroying other human beings.

Soul Quest (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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7 Sources of Hurt and Pain

1. Realizing that you’ve lost them and can never have them back

2. Reliving the old memories and the fun times that you had

3. Pretending that you’re happy when you’re miserable and sad

4. Being obsessed with the wrong person who will never love you back

5. Regretting how you acted, or the careless things you said

6. Recognizing that it’s your fault that things have turned out bad

7. Being abandoned or rejected by your friends or family.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

You don’t need a relationship to be complete. You are complete because of who you are, and not because of who you are with.

Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to. It’s not for them.

Joubert Botha (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.

Joel Osteen (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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I don’t think there’s anything sadder than when two people are meant to be together and something intervenes.

Walter Bishop (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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7 Powerful Steps to Positive Thinking

1. Seek to focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want: A mistake we tend to make when we’re faced with a problem is to think and talk about it all the time - instead of focusing our thinking on what we want instead.

2. Recognise that every problem comes with a lesson: There’s a lesson to be learned from all that happens to us. We can become a better person - even when things have gone wrong.

3. Don’t believe everything you think: Our problems aren’t as big as the mind tries to convince us. Don’t believe all those negative and self-defeating thoughts.

4. Choose to be grateful in everything: Although it’s hard to be grateful when things are going wrong, we can usually find something we can be grateful for - and the more we choose gratitude, the happier we’ll feel.

5. Let go of your need for perfection: If you try to be perfect in everything you do, you will always feel you’re failing, and you’ll live with constant stress. Do you best – as perfection’s not a realistic goal.

6. Let go of your resistance: Accept things as they are - you don’t always have to change them. Life’s not meant to be a struggle, or a constant battle ground.

7. Seek to be present in everything you do: When you give yourself completely to living in the moment, you’ll find that life is easier - and you’ll feel much more relaxed.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

If you have been brutally broken, but still have the courage to be gentle to others, then you deserve a love deeper than the ocean itself.

Nikita Gill (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Stop hating yourself for everything you aren’t. Start loving yourself for everything you are.

Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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12 Things Happy People do Differently

Happy people value and choose:

1. Love over Fear: People, who are truly happy, are less fearful and more loving. They perceive every moment, every challenge, and every person as an opportunity to learn more about themselves and the world.

2. Acceptance over Resistance: Happy people know that you can’t really change things by denying and resisting them. So when bad things happen, they don’t fight, get angry and complain. Instead, they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? How can I do make this better?

3. Forgiveness over Unforgiveness: Truly happy individuals understand that it’s destructive to hold on to feelings of anger. Instead, they choose to forgive and let go, understanding that (in the end) forgiveness is a gift they give themselves.

4. Trust over Mistrust: They trust themselves … and they have learned to figure out the trustworthy people – and those they should avoid.

5. Meaning over Ambition: Happy people do the things they do because it adds meaning and purpose to their lives. They’re not driven by the need to gain acceptance, praise and approval from others.

6. Challenges over Obstacles: Happy people see problems as challenges, and as opportunities to explore new ways of seeing and doing things. That is, challenges are something that help them to grow.

7. Selflessness over Selfishness: Happy people seek out ways ways to give to others - of themselves, their time, of their money, and their gifts. That is, they’re not self-focused and self-absorbed.

8. Kindness over Harshness: Happy people are gentle and kind with themselves and others. They know the importance and power of self-love, self-forgiveness and self-acceptance - and they freely love, forgive and accept other people, too.

9. Gratitude over Ingratitude: No matter where they are, or who they are with, happy people have the capacity to see beauty where others would only see ugliness – and they’re quick to express their gratitude, as well.

10. Being Present over Being Disengaged: Happy people know how to live in the moment, appreciating what they have and who they are with. They are not constantly being dragged down by the past, or distracted by what could happen (or go wrong) in the future.

11. Positivity over Negativity: Regardless of the circumstances of life, happy people are able to adopt and maintain a positive, and upbeat, attitude and perspective.

12. Taking Responsibility over Blaming: Happy people assume full ownership for their lives. They assume responsibility for their life, choices, decisions, actions, reactions, beliefs and attitudes.