Up All Night

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[kosmogrl]

[nealashitposts]

A year or so ago I went to wood carving club with a bruised eye from my dog slamming his nose into my eyesocket and like every old lady there pulled me aside at some point to ask if my partner hit me here are some of the solutions they had in case he did.

-Replacing his vitimens with poision

- getting her brother to invite him out onto his boat and then killing him and dumping him in the ocean and saying he got drunk and fell off.

- get tboned with him in the passenger seat and then once he was in the hospital theres all kinds of easy ways to kill him like not washing my hands after a poop and then touching his wound casually.

-replacing his drink of choice with moonshine!?

- take him on a hike thats locally notorious for a rapid otter attacking hikers and once he had rabies I could just kill him any ol way and say self defense.

-One lady just cheerfully informed me she had a gun and only a few years left anyway

[janedrewfinally]

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#and this is why no-fault divorce brings down the murder rate

[olderthannetfic]

Wish people would stop trying to make these clear cut definitions for Bi- and Pansexual.

Brosissib... no. Define it how you feel comfortable, and we respect whichever one you choose. But there's no clear definition, and the line between Pan and Bi is about as clear as a mud puddle after a dog jumped in.

Someone has this personally deep definition on how their pansexuality looks in their dating and love life, and the next pan person only uses the label because they prefer the colors of the pride flag.

One bisexual will tell you about their deeply personal spiritual journey on how they figured out bi was their calling, and the other person is a 85 year old grandma who's just been rocking the bisexual style for the past 55 years and that's just how it is, while happily supporting her pansexual grandkid.

I feel like the attempt at this aggressive need to make these labels clearly defined, and fitting into neat little binary box with perfect categorization is almost a bit parody. Like how people used to try and force bisexuality to be "half gay half straight," because they couldn't accept that bisexual is just bisexual, not half and half.

Labels like pan and bi describe a basic experience, and each individual then makes out of it what they want.

It's as if people want it to be as "easy" to understand as gay, because they somehow don't trust that bisexual and pansexual doesn't come with tons of terms and conditions because it goes beyond a "monosexual" attraction model. (Which often also feels like it ignores how many mini-categories monosexual labels also fit into, they just don't really think about it the way they do about anything outside the binary of het and homo. Aka it also applies to asexualities.)

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[firelxdykatara]

[the1920sinpictures]

1920s "Queer culture in the 1920s", France. From Pinterest.

[3000s]

elvis died because it wasnt getting enough fiber

[3000s]

ive never fucked up someones pronouns this badly before, sorry

[curiositysavesthecat]

Do you think it's weird and/or predatory for a 13 year-old and a 30 year-old to be best friends if they're not family members or related by blood? Assuming everything is innocent and platonic. Nothing romantic or sexual.

Yes, it's weird and predatory

It's weird. But not predatory

It's predatory. But not weird

No, it's not weird or predatory

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[creelson]

unpopular opinion but I don't think there's anything weird or predatory about an innocent friendship

[dianxiacantastemolecules]

The question is why the fuck is a thirty year old hanging out with a 13 year old if not in their family?? The only other relation that could have them interact is through teacher/student and bring friends like that would be weird as fuck

[creelson]

found family? the kid not feeling safe in their house? the adult wanting to help? family / teacher / school isn't always a guaranteed safe place. should the kid and adult each have friends that are their own age too? sure. but if their friendship is genuinely innocent then I think the problem isn't them but people who project their weird and predatory thoughts onto them

[the-bar-sinister]

Don't forget shared hobbies?

A 13 year old and a 30 year old could reasonably meet at a tabletop gaming store, a fiber arts group, a book club....

[audacityinblack]

They could literally just be neighbors. This whole isolationist thing of never even talking to the people you live closest to is new and weird.

[olderthannetfic]

When I was 13, an art teacher who worked for my mother (who ran after school programs) got into the X-Files. This was season 1. Neither of us knew anyone else who was into it, and she wasn't very online given that this was 1994, so she had nowhere else to discuss it. I'd call her every Friday night after the episode, and we'd obsessively go over it.

I'd probably have called her my best friend at the time, though I very much doubt she'd have said the same, partly because having One Single Best Friend and being super weird about which of your friends gets this coveted spot is not something middle-aged people care about.

Some of you have very weird ideas about 13-year-olds living in hermetically sealed bubbles. Frankly, many neurodivergent weirdo 13-year-olds who grew up to be Tumblr users were far, far better at talking to adults at that age than at talking to other 13-year-olds. Many of you would have had a way happier year if you'd also had an old-ass "best friend" to talk to back then.

[firelxdykatara]

It might be weird if that thirty-year-old considers that thirteen-year-old to be their best friend, but since the question specifies no abuse of any kind, it'd be weird in the sense that things I don't understand can be weird but not objectionable. I might then wonder why that thirty-year-old doesn't have adult friends they can bond more closely with than this kid, but I can imagine circumstances where that might happen absent any objectionable weirdness, and at that point it's just not my business.

And that's the only potential aspect that might make me blink. Intergenerational friendships ought to be encouraged, and it doesn't actually help protect kids from abuse if you start stranger dangering them away from ever potentially having a safe adult to talk to outside of their family (which is where abuse statistically begins most often).

[hydrocities-left]

If you don’t like rice then idk man get well soon I guess

[hydrocities-left]

all the bitches in the notes saying that rice sucks need to remember that rice backwards is ecir which means absolutely nothing. just like their opinion

[psikonauti]

Pan Inkhoo (Japanese,b.1998）

cat & snake, 2025

[kaylmao]

[cobaltspartan]

fascinated by jeff the killer tbh. everyone in that creepypasta has generic white usamerican names (jeff, keith, barbara, billy, etc.) except for jeff the killer's doe eyed little brother liu. why is he liu. is liu chinese? it's okay if he's chinese. is jeff also chinese? has jeff the killer been chinese this whole time? am I a bad person?

[smokeydabear420422]

[cherryandpudding]

Hello 🌸

[catcrumb]

not a cat but it's the art i did this evening. please enjoy

[cuunos]

being a kid and hearing adults say stuff like "woah 2011 was 4 years ago haha" didn't really convey the fucking horror of a youtube video crossing my recommended labelled "9 years ago" and it's from 2017. that's not true. 9 years ago is 2010 or something. don't lie.

[technikki]

new personality test dropped

[jordidoesdrawing]

Applen 🥺 my son, my little guy I love you ❤️‍🩹🥹

[spooky-pop]

Some art of the gang ahead of the finale dropping in theaters tomorrow. I can't believe this is the last time we are all waiting for a new episode together, I feel quite sentimental. What a ride it's been. If you're seeing it tomorrow, godspeed. And remember, be good to yourself and be good to others <3