chlorinesea

killing all the fish

[ambiguousadventures]

[chlorinesea]

I love this song and this character and I get what’s being said in context BUT can we fucking NOT use this fantastic and positive cartoon as a vehicle to shame single people

being single is in fact NOT 100% analogous to being a terrible horrible person no one likes. Seriously the world hates single people, society is like set up to fuck you over socially and financially and then on top of that you get constant guilt and pressure from all sides to hook up with literally anyone just so you can prove you’re fuckable to your asshole friends/parents/coworkers/strangers who blame fucking everything on “it’s just because you’re single.”

there are 100,000 reasons to want or need to be single and I would much rather people are deliberate about entering a relationship when they want one and comfortable leaving a relationship when it’s unhealthy or abusive so please for fuck’s sake stop shaming people for being single.

[cattlecouture-deactivated201508]

So responding to the tags about you taking it personally when in fact I don’t believe you’re one of the people who calls poly people sluts and greedy and lacking morals and all that.

Like I’m sorry for making light of something you’re sensitive about but idk man, I feel like it’s a stretch to read that out of something contextually regarding polyamory.

I’m also having a bad night and in a bad mood and tired of people giving me shit over everything I do so maybe I’m just irritated about that and defensive and you’re totally in the right.

But you don’t have to passive aggressively tag about how I made you “feel great” by reblogging something about my own issues and dealing with shitty people. Explain your feelings, sure, but when have I ever intentionally shamed you or tried to make you feel shitty? Not that I recall; correct me if I’m wrong.

It’s whatever though.

[chlorinesea]

Not intending to target you, personally. It showed up on my dash a couple of times and the sheer number of people posting that makes me queasy. “it’s just because you’re single” is about on par with “i bet she’s on her period” in terms of inappropriate shutdowns IMO.

By ALL MEANS please take down the jerks calling poly people sluts/greedy/etc, but don’t do it by being like “You’re JEAAAALOUS”/”Well YOU can’t get ANYONE!!”

I really hate how “sex positivity” has this weird side effect of virgin/single-shaming and really want it to stop, because it’s just going to result in people throwing themselves at whoever they think will have them to get rid of “virgin” or “single” stigma.

It’s okay to have tons of sex. It’s also okay to have NO sex. It’s okay to have fifteen lovers (if everyone’s into that, etc etc disclaimers) but it is also okay to have NONE.

I’ve been being pressured for being single since I was LITERALLY ten years old, it has never let up, and it sucks ass because you get it from conservative types with literally the same intensity you’ll find it in “sex positive” spaces and I don’t understand at all.

I know with 100% certainty that if I wanted a relationship I could be in one within the week, if not by tomorrow. I know, intellectually, that I don’t want to because I still can just barely touch people without panicking, I’m still really unhappy with my body, I’m still unstable enough that I could be working in a different country next year, I’m still terrified of accidentally putting myself into a situation where I’ll be abused again, and overall I am not ready. It hasn’t stopped constant bombardment of people implying I’m ugly/stupid/undesirable/prudish for being single.

situation TL;DR not really you so much as op + reblog chain + it ending up multiple times on my dash makes in increasingly hard to ignore/brush off. :(

takeaway TL;DR I wish people would quit jumping straight to using virgin/single/prude/etc as an insult whenever someone is a jerk about relationship stuff. Just like.... call them jerks and be done with it.

[chlorinesea]

everyone: GOSH why do people get/stay in abusive relationships? Why are people so hung up on finding someone to date? You should just learn to love yourself~ SELF LOVE

the same fucking people ten minutes later: haha single people are loser fuckwads who must be ugly and stupid or they’d be dating like, six people all at once! Relationships are awesome and if you aren’t in one you’re worthless!

[chlorinesea]

I love this song and this character and I get what’s being said in context BUT can we fucking NOT use this fantastic and positive cartoon as a vehicle to shame single people

being single is in fact NOT 100% analogous to being a terrible horrible person no one likes. Seriously the world hates single people, society is like set up to fuck you over socially and financially and then on top of that you get constant guilt and pressure from all sides to hook up with literally anyone just so you can prove you’re fuckable to your asshole friends/parents/coworkers/strangers who blame fucking everything on “it’s just because you’re single.”

there are 100,000 reasons to want or need to be single and I would much rather people are deliberate about entering a relationship when they want one and comfortable leaving a relationship when it’s unhealthy or abusive so please for fuck’s sake stop shaming people for being single.

[justenoughsleep-deactivated2020]

I want to start playing a game with my followers. We’re going to call it: Published Author or Fanfic?

Below the cut is an excerpt. Fanfiction or published author?

Keep reading

[justenoughsleep-deactivated2020]

Alright, so I’ve gotten a few replies on this so far. Enough to make my point, I think.

The answer is, as guessed, published. This is an excerpt from a book by Terry Goodkind in the Sword of Truth series. It’s widely considered trash at this point, but books in the series have appeared in the NYT Bestseller’s list.

Now, onto my point.

The overwhelming majority of the people I’ve RP’d with in the past have been better writers than Mister Goodkind. So next time you start to think you’re a bad writer, that you write stuff nobody likes to read, that you should just give up…

Remember. Terry Goodkind is a well-known and successful author that wrote an entire part of a book dedicated to vaguely describing a “chicken thing”. I won’t even begin to describe the disgusting bullshit that fills his other books, but it runs quite the gamut.

You’re better than that. Remember that. Let that motivate you. Unless you too have written a thesis on a “chicken thing” and it’s terrors.

[dasair]

This is a good point and honestly makes me feel better about the writing I am stupidly nervous to show anyone nearly 80% of the time.  

I am better than the chicken thing.

[bipolarmenace-deactivated201611]

popcommunism:

i have a pretty big issue with how people tend to assume the words “neediness”, “emotional manipulation”, and “abuse” all mean the same thing. like, someone with bpd who is texting you all the time and wanting you to guide them through their extreme emotions is emotionally needy. if they talk about wanting to kill themselves, they probably want to kill themselves, because they have bpd and that’s….kind of our thing.

i have a big guilt complex about “being manipulative” and my therapist was like…you know, in order to be manipulative you have to actually want to influence some kind of outcome. you’re expressing your emotions with whatever skills you have; it can be overwhelming, and people have the right to set boundaries around it, but it’s not an intentional act of manipulation. and then, like, manipulation is something people do all the time- sometimes for survival. abusers use manipulation, absolutely. abused people also have to carefully manipulate situations in order to navigate getting the validation, care, and sometimes even basic necessities they need inside of an abusive relationship. when you learn that asking for what you need directly gets you ignored or punished, you have to find roundabout ways. is this something it’s good to work on? absolutely, it’s a maladaptive coping skill that can cause damage in non-abusive relationships. but it’s not inherently abuse. abuse is when you use emotional manipulation in an attempt to control another person. this power dynamic is really crucial, because otherwise we come to the conclusion that everyone who needs help but doesn’t know how to ask for it effectively (which describes part of my bpd experience, at least) is the same as the people who hurt them in the first place. and that’s….awful

oh my god I love this post so much? half of the things people are calling “abuse” on this website are situations in which people don’t know how to deal w mentally ill ppl who are displaying Less Desireable symptoms (especially folks like us w bpd)

[partymanyeah]

[heedra]

someone sat down and did concept art and had an entire team of animators staring at this specific design choice for hours and days on end and yet walked away thinking that this was a comfortable and nonfrightening way to portray a wolf

[maxofs2d]

[iwannabeadored]

HOLYSHIT HOLY SHIT HOLY SHIT

[nimblesnotebook-blog]

Things I wish I knew about worldbuilding when I started writing

A collaborative blog post on "Things I wish I knew about worldbuilding when I started writing."

[chaoticelise-deactivated2023030]

Star Wars/Mass Effect by Zarnala

[astrology-secrets]

The “Most likely to be avoiding their responsibilities” club

Gemini, Leo, Pisces, Aries, Scorpio, Libra

[animal-factbook]

Pinnipeds (seals and sea lions) sometimes rotate themselves in a counterclockwise fashion in order to hypnotize predators or prey. So confused by the perfect upright circles, animals are quickly distracted and are unable to focus on anything else. 

[thatsthat24]

That was straight of a Pokedex

[shahrzadghessehgoo]

This seal sums up my survival methods

[sunnystrong]

“Wait…fit people have rolls too??!”

Yes, yes they do

[thestudyofdreamers]

Never hit reblog faster in my life

[swagmasterbiebs7]

Makes me feel so much better about myself

[chlorinesea]

playing video game

game: this weapon has +6 damage and +4 defence from your current weapon

me: but it ugly

[zuggetmcmalik-deactivated201708]

protestors not thugs protestors not rioters protestors not terrorists

[cinnamoneneko]

Color Palettes for the Signs...

Capricorn~

Sagittarius~

Scorpio~

Libra~

Virgo~

Leo~

Cancer~

Gemini~

Taurus~

Aries~

Pisces~

Aquarius~