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18 / lesbian / this is my old mostly inactive sideblog! follow my main @fernstream I post feminist stuff there now

[veryluckyclovers]

[sixpenceee]

Signs of bad parenting via curejoy

[s-v-r-d-deactivated20220928]

If you’re an adult and struggle with any of these problems, it’s good practice to start treating yourself how you should have been treated. Childhood cements habits but not our whole lives :)

[skrewz-deactivated20190113]

6th grade love notes

you know i really love you // me too // love you to death // me to so you wanna kiss at lunch // ya // o̶k̶a̶y̶ u know when i go home i miss u

[hmsindecision]

I had a really interesting talk with my friend today about radical feminism and I said something that surprised me.

I’ve always been pretty out of touch with my body. My breasts started to grow when I was nine, and I was cat called by old men and groped by my peers a lot from then onward. Every time I get my period, I cried because I felt so ashamed of myself and because it’s so painful that I usually end up vomiting. And being gay only made it worse, because I felt so much shame and stigma around women’s bodies, I felt like I was going to hurt every woman I touched the way that I hurt.

Learning about radical feminism has helped me so much.

It’s when I see that every feeling I have laid on my body comes down to a misogynistic society, every single last one of those self-hating thoughts, that I can come to terms with myself.

I can declare my body fundamentally innocent. It has never tried to do me wrong. It exists for itself. It works so hard to keep me alive. It’s what I was taught that has to change.

As soon as I said that one sentence, “I declare my body fundamentally innocent”, I felt such a weight off my back.

I hope anyone reading this is well and safe tonight.

[montrose-deactivated20240827]

Feeling funky fresh. Thanks @chrisstockings for being gentle 😅👍🏻

[lesbianseparatist]

Fiona Morgan, 1984

[bear-butch-deactivated20210710]

genderists think that gender is the entirety of their soul and being and a not only a fundamental core aspect of themselves, but the deepest, most personal, and most important aspect.

which is why they think when we say “women have vaginas” we’re saying “women are vaginas.” they can’t fathom sex as an objective, nonpersonal aspect. women have vaginas. they’re not vaginas. they have them. but when you percieve “gender” as your whole being, putting perameters on it is “limiting” and “reductive.”

the problem is when we say “sex” they think we mean “gender” and when they say “gender” what they really mean is “personality.”

[chocolatemajorchord]

hey I don't really use this blog anymore now that I'm posting radical feminist stuff on my main! if you want you can follow me there @fernstream

[wit-witch]

can we stop using the term “MtT” or “male to trans” it is just really transphobic and gross??

it’s like saying they went from being male to being something else, and it’s very dehumanizing.

trans women are male, and they’re human beings, and their experiences deserve to be recognized as male experiences, not othered from the state of maleness as if males are incapable of having senstivie feminine personalities or enjoying pink or the Barbie Girl song

[wit-witch]

like in a way this is very aligned with patriarchy, which posits maleness as conforming to masculinity. if we are truly intent on destroying gender we shouldn’t act like trans women’s experiences can’t be categorized as the experiences of men.

many trans women said they felt like “failed men” because they couldn’t live up to masculine gender roles and honestly this type of language just reinforces that kind of thing.

[braticalfeminist-blog]

2017--the year of the radical feminist

hello all!

my name is Olive. I’m a teenage radfem of color. I am in the early stages of creating an online magazine for teenage/young adult radical or rad-leaning feminists, and am looking for contributors!

as you can see, my tumblr blog is really new BUT I have been a part of the tumblr radical feminist community for a little over a year now (had to delete a couple months ago for privacy reasons, remade YESTERDAY!). I’ve been daydreaming about an online magazine for young radfems for a while now, but all of the rhetoric surrounding the Women’s March yesterday (both good and bad) has finally prompted me to take action into my own hands. i’m creating this website in the hopes of giving life to something that can centralize the growing(!) community of young female radical feminists, provide us with a stronger sense of sisterhood, and give us all a loud, unified voice. That being said, it’s an important point that this will not be on tumblr. I feel like tumblr can be really disjointed, and having one place to be oriented in will help achieve the goals I stated above.

I love the attitude of this community, and I want this site to have that same smart, witty, feisty, and loving vibe that we have on our individual blogs, with content focusing on radical politics, activism, and our specific experiences as teenage/young adult women. think, if Feminist Current and Rookiemag had a baby.

I am gauging interest within our community for CONTRIBUTORS to the magazine. (btw, I am reaching out to ALL the rad/leaning feminists. Though this site is AIMED at teenage/young adult women, I want be clear that I AM looking for contributors OF ALL AGES, and of course ethnicities, sexual orientations, and all that. basically, if you’re a woman, if you’re a rad/leaning feminist, I want you!) the magazine’s content will be varied: journalistic writing (editorials and such), photography, art, music, poetry, comics, humor, etc. will be published, as long as it is relevant to radical feminism, or our specific experiences as teenage/young adult women.

if you are interested in becoming a regular contributor (YOU CAN REMAIN ANONYMOUS !!!! Or not, your choice its whatevs), or contributing ANYTHING AT ALL, or have any help/advice that you can offer in terms of building this website, or just wanna have a chat, orshowmepicsofyourcats, ETC. PLEASE reach out to me via [email protected]. if nothing else, I want to just get out the word that this is a thing, it’s coming soon, watch out for it, and PLEASE spread the word!  

I think these coming years are gonna be super weird times, what with Trump being our president and the mainstream feminist movement becoming so unfamiliar, illogical, and alienating. I am aware of a few other radfem zines out there, but we’re gonna need as many venues and platforms for us to gather and communicate as we possibly can get. i think if everyone’s just wants to no-platform us, we’re gonna have to make our own damn platforms and put out as much content as we can.

with that thought in mind, let this be the year of the radical feminist revolution.

[stimman3000]

[stepdaughters-deactivated201701]

my favorite thing that males do is twist language/appropiate feminist language to make something really irrational and entitled sound like their humanity and safety depends on it. like instead of saying “can i follow this blog if im a transwoman” like normal people would, they say it like “are transwomen safe here? are they welcome here?” so you cant say ‘no’ without feeling like you’re making them unsafe. you can’t say no period. when they want to ask a young lesbian, “would you date transwomen?”, they word it as “do you exclude transwomen from your sexuality?” so her only options are either saying ‘yes’ or feeling/looking like a bad person because not liking dick suddenly sounds really horrible and mean when it’s worded as “excluding X from your sexuality”. men are so fucking good at being manipulative. that’s why the whole scare tactic around being a ‘terf’ comes from. that’s why the “terfs are smelly” “terfs have stinky vaginas” “terfs are ugly and unfuckable” jokes exist. being perceived as the undesirable, disobedient, hysterical woman is every young girl’s biggest fear. men know this and use it against us to get us to do what they want (sleep with them, fuel their egos, give up our safe spaces for them, prioritize them). genderist trans males on this website are disgusting predatory monsters. you literally can’t say no.

[transgirlnextdoor]

[tightbra]

Oh my god. Every one of these comics makes me physically recoil. The beauty standards you hold cis women to are ridiculous. But who am I kidding. Almost all men believe women have “skills” like putting on false eyelashes. And almost all men think women are strange, unattractive, and unfeminine if they DONT know how to do such things. Why would you be any different? You were raised to think the same way, after all.

News flash: there are MANY women out there that don’t know how to wear false lashes. They are painful, uncomfortable, and take a lot of time. Most of us have more important things to worry about besides bending over backwards to please men like you who expect us to look and behave a certain way.

[radmoon-deactivated20170319]

And like false eyelashes (there is a post on it) are made by women in exploited countries. So all that false femininity bullshit you are piling on and expecting other women to do as well causes women in other countries pain. Women don’t have to learn shit or do shit for men or MtTs.

[jacobaea-deactivated20201218]

Im screaming

[flowerlygirls]

as f these 10 years of female socialization where we “had time to experiment” where a gift???? or privilege??? fuck u!

[lusterdustt-blog-deactivated202]

hi, i slept in my makeup every day of the eighth grade, as a thirteen year old child, because i hated my natural face so much that i disassociated from what i looked like without heavy makeup. i had a breakdown and nearly didn’t go to summer camp (the only place i could escape from my parents, who were active alcoholics at the time) that year because i knew i would be swimming in the lake regularly. i only decided to go when i found waterproof makeup that would hold up. i wore makeup to school all four years of high school. didn’t miss a day. i even wore makeup when home alone because i didn’t feel like a person without it. i only learned to tolerate leaving the house without makeup about eight months ago, and it’s still a huge deal for me when i decide to spend time around other people bare-faced.

i know this comic is supposed to be kind of tongue-in-cheek, and i know that, to you, makeup may be fun and exciting and new. but i don’t have the luxury of seeing makeup in that light - nor do MANY other women. this isn’t a responsible joke to make. there’s enough pressure on us to perform femininity as it is.

[silkyradfem]

Transgirlnextdoor”s comics are honestly so enlightening to me about how males are socialized and how they are raised to see women.

[spencer-shayy-archive]

That’s true. All they’re doing is proving transwomen have male socialization.

[rageclit-deactivated20181208]

Liberals who secretly read feminist blogs, please know that most of us are very happy to talk to you privately if you have genuine questions about feminism. We will not be as angry and unreasonable with you as your social circle wants you to think. We will not punish you or drive you off tumblr for asking a ‘stupid question’. A lot of us have been in that environment ourselves so we know where you’re coming from.

You can talk to us.

[rageclit-deactivated20181208]

The number of private messages I’ve had from liberals who’re disillusioned and specifically mention seeing this post and realising it was safe to come to feminists with questions since writing this has evidenced for me both how intense the liberal antifeminist hate campaign is, and how many liberals are still secretly looking for answers anyway.

[bear-butch-deactivated20210710]

genderists think that gender is the entirety of their soul and being and a not only a fundamental core aspect of themselves, but the deepest, most personal, and most important aspect.

which is why they think when we say “women have vaginas” we’re saying “women are vaginas.” they can’t fathom sex as an objective, nonpersonal aspect. women have vaginas. they’re not vaginas. they have them. but when you percieve “gender” as your whole being, putting perameters on it is “limiting” and “reductive.”

the problem is when we say “sex” they think we mean “gender” and when they say “gender” what they really mean is “personality.”

[lavendermenacing]

It’s not what woman means, it’s what it NEEDS to mean

A lot of disagreement between gender critical feminists and transactivists is about the meaning of words. What is a woman? Is a woman anyone who identifies as a woman, or a person with female anatomy and socialized into the inferior role under patriarchy? What is a lesbian? What “counts” as queer?

Language is used for communication and undoubtedly the meanings of these words are understood to be different to different groups. “Male” will be understood to include transwomen and all amab people in a post in radical feminist circles, but will not include them and will probably include transmen in liberal feminist and queer theory circles.

“Woman” in particular has a long history of meaning behind it, and that history should be respected; it is vital to understanding female oppression in the past. But, it could be argued, meanings of words can change over time, as they expand to stay useful.

And that’s just it. What definition of “woman” is most useful, most necessary, especially in feminist discussions? One in which no commonality is named except identity, which is changeable and self-defined? Or one which specifically names commonalities in biology and socialization from which to form useful activist work and analysis? There is a purpose to the category of woman, and a way to discuss female anatomy and socialization as it relates to female oppression is absolutely vital. It’s vital to addressing the way that society, which does not much care about internal identity, treats female people; our struggles to access reproductive healthcare and abortion, the sexual and domestic violence we overwhelmingly face compared to men, the way we are neglected and even killed as babies and fetuses, and many more issues that can clearly be tied to our bodies. This definition of woman does not reduce us to our bodies, it names them as instrumental in understanding our oppression, and it is the only definition that is useful to the goal of liberation of women. Thinking of woman as an identity will never be capable of this, when it shallowly obscures female oppression as a disrespect of “femininity,” constantly changing.

“Woman” will communicate different things to different people. But what it should communicate to anyone who calls themselves a feminist is a female body and female socialization. Only by this definition can female oppression be understood and worked against in a way that actually addresses our problems.

[magenta-sirin]

Gender critical