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how to actually grow in 2024

introduction:

hey loves! to keep it short i don't like new years resolution's at all. this time each year all these adults talk about how this is the year they're going to lose weight or be more active, and it rarely ever works. most people fail their new year's resolutions because the concept in itself is flawed. but anyways, i know that a lot of people find them fun, so i'll give some tips on how to actually improve this year :)

why do resolutions fail?

theyre hard to measure. when people make their resolutions to 'eat healthier' or 'exercise more' it's not something you can really measure because it's not specific.

goals vs. habits:

how to grow:

create goals that're attainable and measureable. i like to avoid goals that're like "i want to workout everyday for 30 minutes", because that's more of a habit (working out daily) and also it's pretty hard to accomplish since there might be days when you're sick, or too busy, etc.

example:

instead of "i want to sew more in 2024" -> "i want to sew 10 projects in 2024"

instead of "i want to read more in 2024" -> "i want to read 10 books in 2024"

create a step by step plan. when you set a goal you need to think about HOW you're going to accomplish it. this is where daily habits come in.

alter your daily routine to incorporate new healthy habits. anytime i want to get a new habit i just do it little by little everyday. like read for 10 minutes or meditate for 5.

first of all: don't wait for new year's! i know it just feels good to think that the new year is when you're going to start doing all these things, but really you should be starting before then. don't wait

remember: progress ISNT linear!! you might have a month (or multiple) where you're really in a slump and not doing what you want to be doing, but that doesn't mean that you failed in any way. you don't need to wait for a new year to have a clean slate, just brush yourself off after these mistakes and keep going. progress isn't something that is constant- you have good times and bad times, you just need to keep doing your thing.

sending u all positive energy and all of my love :) -amy <3

girljournal

It-Girling 101 :

you are a goddess, act like it

you have to be confident

you are beautiful, smart, talented and so much more. there’s nothing wrong with acknowledging that and being proud of that. if you don’t hype yourself up, who will? take those selfies, say your self love affirmations in the mirror, wear your cutest clothes that make you feel prettiest! you are the sh!t , don’t let anyone make you feel less than, ever

be proud of everything you do, even the “small things” because everything you achieve is an accomplishment, nothing goes unnoticed

speak up for yourself! if you don’t like something or how something is going then let it be known! don’t let anyone take your voice from you

stand strong on your beliefs and don’t let anyone sway you

you have to respect yourself

learn how to say ‘no’ to things that don’t feel right to you, even if it may hurt someone else’s feelings

prioritize your needs and wants! you deserve to be happy, comfortable and have the things you desire

set healthy boundaries and stick to them! have a mindset of, people will respect me and my limits or they won’t be in my life at all, period!

don’t just date or be friends with anyone. surround yourself with people who treat you right, who don’t call you out of your name, who are kind to you, who are gentle with you, who care about your hopes and dreams, who won’t put their hands on you, ever! people who don’t make you feel bad about yourself, people who love you unconditionally, someone who will never treat you like garbage, someone who won’t belittle you

treat your body like a temple and only be with someone romantically because you really want to and have feelings for them and not because you feel pressured to or you think you deserve less than

you have to treat yourself like a prize because you are a prize! don’t forget, the way you treat yourself is how other people will treat you. so walk with pride and make sure your standards are high always 💓